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Seems you can't win as a man. The woman who held you down from college is going to get bored, while the women who come your way after you have attained status and some wealth probably don't care about you
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Stop getting married. Just stop. Get some friends . Get annual checkups..get hobbies and hire escorts.
This is men's fault you know. We didn't have to create alimony. We didn't have to create fair marriage laws. We did because we were too hard on these women in our earlier stages. So we had to balance it out. Unless we dismantle what we created things will be this way.Seems you can't win as a man. The woman who held you down from college is going to get bored, while the women who come your way after you have attained status and some wealth probably don't care about you
LiveFromLondon
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I mean after 20 years 
Chrishaune
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Seems you can't win as a man. The woman who held you down from college is going to get bored, while the women who come your way after you have attained status and some wealth probably don't care about you
You find out that woman that was with you since college doesn't care about you. She saw your potential earnings.
Black Excellence
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She got soulless eyes in that pic…just nothing there.
Niqqas in here on Big Blue time 
IsThatBrothaMouzone?
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The logic behind $20k/month.......probably the fact she stayed at home and took care of the kids (now grown kids). Probably had to put her career on the backburner so that he could get on different projects.
He usually had steady work but he wasn't pulling Denzel, Will Smith, Tyler Perry money. They're not "live-in nanny on our huge estates in multiple countries" rich. More like really good surgeon, lawyer rich.
Not saying it's right or wrong but .
Then add in his apparent history of fukking around A LOT. I could see wifey saying "I'll keep my mouth shut and play my position. You just make sure I'm straight." She was probably with him back in the Hang Time days, so she's getting paid one way or the other.
He usually had steady work but he wasn't pulling Denzel, Will Smith, Tyler Perry money. They're not "live-in nanny on our huge estates in multiple countries" rich. More like really good surgeon, lawyer rich.
Not saying it's right or wrong but
.Then add in his apparent history of fukking around A LOT. I could see wifey saying "I'll keep my mouth shut and play my position. You just make sure I'm straight." She was probably with him back in the Hang Time days, so she's getting paid one way or the other.
No we don't
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You are right but only right wing politicians are interested in even touching these subjects
Right wing conservatives are the ones who created this thinking. They believed women had one place. The reaction was liberal.You are right but only right wing politicians are interested in even touching these subjects
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He got married in California.No one should be entitled to half of your earnings unless they did half of your work.
He's an actor. Is she on Blackish with him? Does she have any film credits?
These no prenup settlements should be more like 20% (if that), spousal support for a few years, and go get a job. You shouldn't have to support another adult and you shouldn't be entitled to maintain a lifestyle that your spouse provided for you. You still want to live in a mansion stay with the person who bought it. You leave and can only afford a one bedroom apartment apartment so be it
It’s literally documented:
He got married in California.
It’s literally documented:
The point is that the laws are outdated and unfair. It's no longer an era where women are stuck in the house and not a part of the workforce. The system is long past due for a revision.
You shouldn't be required to financially support an able bodied adult.
She already gets 4 million so that should be her half but no, he has to keep paying her spousal support when they're no longer married. It's absurd.
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shyt is ridiculous.
Unemployment only gonna give you a couple hunnid a week for a few months then you out to the wolves
find a job or go broke and be homelessbut if you're married to someone and end up divorcing, they're obligated to give you THOUSANDS per month and you don't have to do anything
Breh that's great and all, being a Stay At Home Mom is tough for sure.I make decent money. If my Wife made 70K a year and I made 70K a year, we might be even. We have two small children (1 and 3). Day car in Atlanta costs between $1500-2500 a month. That was when we were looking 2 years ago for one child. We chose to go the home maker route for two reasons. One, we don't want our children being taken care of until they can communicate to us. Two, why would we give somebody 3K a month to watch our children?
Being a homemaker is tough. It's not popping in DVDs and drinking wine all day. Your Wife pops out your big headed child, uses her body to feed that child every 2-4 hours, prays the baby is latching properly and gets all the milk it can, prays the child sleeps without her so she can take care of herself, hopes the baby isn't colic and screams all day and night, all of this for 6 months. You have to keep the house clean, cook breakfast lunch and dinner, continue to do the shopping and run errands, and keep the fed clean and dry.
Soon the six month old starts crawling. You cant contain the little one. It wants you all the time. It only takes two naps a day. Can you imagine trying to cook and clean with a little ankle bitter wanting all your attention? If you are out of sight it begins to throw a fit. Also trying to get it to sleep through the night without you. Fast forward to a year. Little one is walking and getting into s--t. Still needs and wants all your attention. Now you are hoping it sleeps in its own bed so you can get some piece and quiet. You are are watching for milestones and trying to develop them. You are trying to engage with your little one and find the great moments throughout the day. Floors have to be cleaned, dishes washed, clothes washed, and errands ran.
Baby makes it to two. Finally, you consider a half time day care so you can get some me time and stuff done. Half time day care is $1K. Is it worth it when your a "stay at home mom"? You already know it is. Now you can hit the gym, clean the house, meal prep, run some errands without having to worry.
You put your child's safety with somebody else. That is scary. Because of social media, you hear and see all the stories of the whole world. Despite all that, you still do it for your mental health. Guess what? Every time our daughter seen the day care owner, she cries. That's odd right? That woman probably did something to our child. I promise you that.
Now you decide you want another one.
Run that back haha. I'm gone half the year. We have no support system. No village. That's not smart.
If we could swap positions, and she makes the money and I stay at home. You know what I would say... Naw. You got it.
My Wife got into three law schools before she got pregnant. One gave her a 75% scholarship. She wanted to be a lawyer from the age of six. We were going to wait but my little Brother died the summer of '18. That hit me hard and I asked for a child now. She said yes. We didn't realize what we were getting into. Life is hard when you are trying to be intentional. You continue to serve God, you try to strive for unity, and then put everything into the little ones, while trying to take care of yourself.
Seeing what my Wife goes through and what we go through when I am home. She deserves every single penny the judge orders.
That supposal support though Judge. Watch yourself. 3 years max. She already has my GI Bill.
Get married brehs and not expect to part with half of your empire you built together.
But there's a reason women in your spot (breadwinner) still get bitter about alimony.
And why plenty working women WISH they could be a SAHM.
A) when the kids are school age, you're not doing a lot of that stuff anymore. Hell, your kids will be doing a lot of chores.
B) meal prep is a thing
C) you're not doing everything every hour of the day. Is she cleaning the whole house every single day?
I'm not saying being a SAHM is easy, but saying she deserves every single penny the judge gives her is crazy.
Don't you work yourself? You're selling yourself short. Pretty sure working 8 hours a day and having to help out in the house ain't easy either.
