The Awkward, Black Boy Nerd and Why He Deserves a Chance

[EpicStoryTeller]

Hard to be confident in your uniqueness, skills or hobbies when you've been told from a young age that your interests are not acceptable by the mainstream.

Most "nerds" don't come into their own until their 30's and become comfortable with this - But regardless that doesn't mean they then have to lower their standards to single moms and leftovers. So the only option left for them at this stage is to explore foreign terrain.

So you can either engage Nerds earlier in life to keep them available for Women who'd otherwise choose Bobby Big Knuckles or you accept the fact that for Black Americans in particular - We are effectively giving our best and brightest away to other races or nationalities (as they may potentially relocate abroad and feel more accepted in another culture that values intelligence, sophistication and "nerdier" hobbies)

The reason I was able to lose my virginity at a young age despite being into Anime was because my interests were also varied and I liked Reggaeton which is very conducive to sex, particularly with Latinas - But even so, Latin Women are usually more accepting of a Man's interests that may not appeal to her vs. Black American Women. I occupied the space between a nerd and between a thug as a teen (no not "normal"/"average" because the average joe does not mix interests from both sides) so I believe myself to have a clear view of both and the drawbacks and benefits.

This actually holds some truth to it, without being on that. I've seen it and experienced it

 

[Reginald Noble]

This actually holds some truth to it, without being on that. I've seen it and experienced it

The Guatemalan chick that took my V-card was into DBZ and this was early '00s when new dub eps of GT was still airing in America for the first time on CN - So not like we talking re-runs here.

 

[Audemar]

Hard to be confident in your uniqueness, skills or hobbies when you've been told from a young age that it is not acceptable by the mainstream.

This is true. I'm not sure why many people like to ignore the fact that society places restrictions on how we are expected to live and behave.

 

[Neil Tyson]

Hard to be confident in your uniqueness, skills or hobbies when you've been told from a young age that your interests are not acceptable by the mainstream.

Most "nerds" don't come into their own until their 30's and become comfortable with this - But regardless that doesn't mean they then have to lower their standards to single moms and leftovers. So the only option left for them at this stage is to explore foreign terrain.

So you can either engage Nerds earlier in life to keep them available for Women who'd otherwise choose Bobby Big Knuckles or you accept the fact that for Black Americans in particular - We are effectively giving our best and brightest away to other races or nationalities (as they may potentially relocate abroad and feel more accepted in another culture that values intelligence, sophistication and "nerdier" hobbies)

The reason I was able to lose my virginity at a young age despite being into Anime was because my interests were also varied and I liked Reggaeton which is very conducive to sex, particularly with Latinas - But even so, Latin Women are usually more accepting of a Man's interests that may not appeal to her vs. Black American Women. I occupied the space between a nerd and between a thug as a teen (no not "normal"/"average" because the average joe does not mix interests from both sides) so I believe myself to have a clear view of both and the drawbacks and benefits.

If the "brain drain" exists, no reason the dikk drain can't

 

[CinnaSlim]

You said yourself you're submissive, are you not an introvert? you come off as one through your post.

Introvert means you expend energy around crowds or company and recharge alone. Extrovert means company recharges you, meanwhile being alone too long weighs on you.

It's not the same as Dominant/submissive.
Dominant is the influential, commanding trait, while submissive is the passive, compliant trait.

I like to play a submissive/supporting role as as the responsibility and pressure of the commanding dominant role stresses me out. Plus, I'm so easy going and not too picky, I don't mind having the man make decisions. It doesn't mean I do nothing. It means since he is taking the weight and pressure, my job is to support and take some of the weight off of him so that he can maintain.

 

[Warren Moon]

 

[EpicStoryTeller]

Introvert means you expend energy around crowds or company and recharge alone. Extrovert means company recharges you, meanwhile being alone too long weighs on you.

It's not the same as Dominant/submissive.
Dominant is the influential, commanding trait, while submissive is the passive, compliant trait.

I like to play a submissive/supporting role as as the responsibility and pressure of the commanding dominant role stresses me out. Plus, I'm so easy going and not too picky, I don't mind having the man make decisions. It doesn't mean I do nothing. It means since he is taking the weight and pressure, my job is to support and take some of the weight off of him so that he can maintain.

Those are introvert qualities though. Not saying it's bad, but you are most likely introverted.

 

[CinnaSlim]

Most Women see Sasha Fierce and interpret it as an excuse to be loud, obnoxious, "fab" and whatever other adjective you cane come up with. They act like they are runway models and believe the aggressive mentality is appropriate for all situations including relations with their significant other "Babe I'm just expressing myself" is a common retort for American Women when they don an attitude while out with their Man in public and begin requesting outlandish things, acting belligerent and attracting attention to themselves or getting into a funk because it's that time of the month.

Maybe individually you see Olivia Pope an actor, or Taraji Henderson - But most Women see Cookie Lyon and the persona and attribute any bad behavior they may display individually to being acceptable because their own interpretation of "Sasha" "Cookie" or whoever "Would approve". The "Cult of Bey" membership for example - Perhaps you should take a look at their ranks - Likely there are many Women you have associated with in the past who fit the average member's description. But many are indeed Bi-polar FYI.

The fact is the female "role models" and "archetypes" out there are a slippery slope that promote the worst attributes in Women such as parading indecisiveness as "sensitivity for others and being accommodating" and making the wrong decisions and coming back with the excuse "I'm only a Woman". A convenient fall back when the facade curtain drops and the charades are seen through.

The reason why Black Nerds can't get laid - Is because these archetypes in media do not engage with them on set. Plain and simple. And they engage in risky behaviors that don't appeal to Black nerds. It's the same reason you need a "Strong Man in Charge". No matter how he became it - Because it's exactly what you've been told is a Man by "Black" Hollywood.

Sorry, I wasn't raised by television. I see you are focusing on Black female characters in white dominated media.

I suggest you look up the black stereotype known as a "Sapphire". Also I suggest you watch Dr Joy DeGruy's Post Traumatic Slave Syndrome.

Realize these stereotypes do not represent all women or all black women. Realize there is dysfunction remaining in the black community and why. And understand that mental health and developing amd maintaining healthy relationships is an issue that needs to be stressed and addressed. The Black Family has always been under attack in this country.

I also suggest you travel and realize everyone is not the same. Find people who are uplifting, positive and supportive.

 

[MrPentatonic]

Hard to be confident in your uniqueness, skills or hobbies when you've been told from a young age that your interests are not acceptable by the mainstream.

Most "nerds" don't come into their own until their 30's and become comfortable with this - But regardless that doesn't mean they then have to lower their standards to single moms and leftovers. So the only option left for them at this stage is to explore foreign terrain.

So you can either engage Nerds earlier in life to keep them available for Women who'd otherwise choose Bobby Big Knuckles or you accept the fact that for Black Americans in particular - We are effectively giving our best and brightest away to other races or nationalities (as they may potentially relocate abroad and feel more accepted in another culture that values intelligence, sophistication and "nerdier" hobbies)

The reason I was able to lose my virginity at a young age despite being into Anime was because my interests were also varied and I liked Reggaeton which is very conducive to sex, particularly with Latinas - But even so, Latin Women are usually more accepting of a Man's interests that may not appeal to her vs. Black American Women. I occupied the space between a nerd and between a thug as a teen (no not "normal"/"average" because the average joe does not mix interests from both sides) so I believe myself to have a clear view of both and the drawbacks and benefits.

Thats all true.. In my opinion its a confidence thing why nerds lose out with quality black women though.

luckily its something thats not permanent and they as a person can work on.

& Trust me washed up thots are only getting wifed by simps (thug, avg joe, or nerd). You work on yourself and you will be able to see that shyt from a mile off lol.

 

[CinnaSlim]

Those are introvert qualities though. Not saying it's bad, but you are most likely introverted.

I am an introvert, hence why I display introvert qualities.

I don't think being submissive and passive is an inherent trait of an introvert. I think you're confusing the two.

Are many introverts submissive? Yes. But correlation does not equal causation.

 

[Wild self]

Even tho "Creed" was a movie, it was telling that they were calling dude a square.

That's the reality. If you ain't posted up on the block or knocking down jumpshots, you's a geek.

And they only gave respect to him when he started to knock out people in the ring. Some of these headstrong women are basically saying that you gotta be some savage to get their respect.

Funny thing is, Creed is an educated breh who is articulate. They don't respect that, only the fight.

 

[EpicStoryTeller]

I am an introvert, hence why I display introvert qualities.

I don't think being submissive and passive is an inherent trait of an introvert. I think you're confusing the two.

Are many introverts submissive? Yes. But correlation does not equal causation.

I'm not confused on the two as I've taken the intro/extro test before so I'm well aware of what the two are. But the fact that you're not as outgoing and passive are traits introverts possess, which is why I called you so. It's not hard to tell who's intro and extro because the signs are usually clear

 

[CASHAPP]

Lol perception is crazy I had glasses on took them off at work and the black ladies Said I act and look like a completely different person when I take them off. Mind you they all wear glasses too.

But for some reason I'm a nerd. Lol judging by this ladies picture if I was in my younger wild ghetto thug days I would said like lady looks lame as shyttttttt

Lol that reaction you got goes to show how retarded people are.

 

[Blackout]

And they only gave respect to him when he started to knock out people in the ring. Some of these headstrong women are basically saying that you gotta be some savage to get their respect.

Funny thing is, Creed is an educated breh who is articulate. They don't respect that, only the fight.

That happens a lot. A nerdy/lame dude has to go down the savage route and is forced to change and be a playa or hood if he is in an area with not much black women who are into nerds so he wont be single and desperate. It happened to a couple of people I know. Then the women get fukked over for what they helped create.

People want to pretend its one way when its the other way.

 

[Reginald Noble]

Lol that reaction you got goes to show how retarded people are.

Way the fukk off topic but your sig killing me shameless affiliate promotion - Only reason I clicked was cause I'm on a MAC and it's harder to infect but -

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