HellRell804
Banned
I think what's going on with this site is something I'll call the B"arbershop Effect"
Any man who frequents a barbershop knows that the shop is a place where serious discussion can take place, in addition to spirited debates about sports, life, politics, and everything in between. You usually have your older men in the shop, passing on wisdom accumulated through years of trial and error, the young successful cats who have their own opinions and ways of thinking, the barber as a mediator, and everyone else who either participates in the debate or just soak up game (most importantly the young men).
If you're familiar with barber shop culture you also know that all that debate and gem sharing practically disappears the moment an attractive woman brings her son to the shop, comes to get a haircut (for the natural sisters), or get their eyebrows waxed.
The tone is immediately softened so as not to offend the lady, and the men stop cooperating and, instead either compete for the attention of the lady or just remain silent because quite, frankly, many men are intimidated by being in the presence of attractive women.
This used to be temporary, the woman would leave and the next debate would cue up immediately. But nowadays with the prevalence of over arched demonic eyebrows and women rocking there natural hair, women have more or less been integrated into the shop and the shop culture has changed to accommodate them.
When I first migrated to this site, it spoke to me as a place where black men could congregate and compare notes about our American experience. I remember the it certs and career thread, I didn't follow that path but I used the information to put my lil cousin on game. He's now a systems analyst in DC, making good money and being a provider to his burgeoning family.
There was a credit repair thread that inspired me to get my finances in order, which led to starting my own business and now I'm preparing to get into real estate investing.
There was another thread recently where a young bruh was going to truck driving school. I honestly never considered that as a career choice, but I researched it, put my lil cousin on and he's now 22 years old making 40k with full benefits.
Now I look at "the locker room" and it really is "the ladies room". Its straight garbage. Celebrity gossip (omg some random celebrity is married to a white woman or white man), constant victim threads (omg some random white person said something about black people), and constant pandering to women (which sparked a backlash that demeans women entirely).
Maybe its because I interact with women in real life, but I have no desire to have a collection of gal pals online. Can someone point me to a forum that men can actually have man conversations. I think this site is done for that...
Any man who frequents a barbershop knows that the shop is a place where serious discussion can take place, in addition to spirited debates about sports, life, politics, and everything in between. You usually have your older men in the shop, passing on wisdom accumulated through years of trial and error, the young successful cats who have their own opinions and ways of thinking, the barber as a mediator, and everyone else who either participates in the debate or just soak up game (most importantly the young men).
If you're familiar with barber shop culture you also know that all that debate and gem sharing practically disappears the moment an attractive woman brings her son to the shop, comes to get a haircut (for the natural sisters), or get their eyebrows waxed.
The tone is immediately softened so as not to offend the lady, and the men stop cooperating and, instead either compete for the attention of the lady or just remain silent because quite, frankly, many men are intimidated by being in the presence of attractive women.
This used to be temporary, the woman would leave and the next debate would cue up immediately. But nowadays with the prevalence of over arched demonic eyebrows and women rocking there natural hair, women have more or less been integrated into the shop and the shop culture has changed to accommodate them.
When I first migrated to this site, it spoke to me as a place where black men could congregate and compare notes about our American experience. I remember the it certs and career thread, I didn't follow that path but I used the information to put my lil cousin on game. He's now a systems analyst in DC, making good money and being a provider to his burgeoning family.
There was a credit repair thread that inspired me to get my finances in order, which led to starting my own business and now I'm preparing to get into real estate investing.
There was another thread recently where a young bruh was going to truck driving school. I honestly never considered that as a career choice, but I researched it, put my lil cousin on and he's now 22 years old making 40k with full benefits.
Now I look at "the locker room" and it really is "the ladies room". Its straight garbage. Celebrity gossip (omg some random celebrity is married to a white woman or white man), constant victim threads (omg some random white person said something about black people), and constant pandering to women (which sparked a backlash that demeans women entirely).
Maybe its because I interact with women in real life, but I have no desire to have a collection of gal pals online. Can someone point me to a forum that men can actually have man conversations. I think this site is done for that...
, but I'm staying anyways. 
at minimum this was well written
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