Man it depends.
Being patient and playing it cool is my default, because I got a girl so I see it as "if you give me p*ssy it's cool, but if you don't it's cool too because I'm not supposed to be fukking you anyway."
With the one I got on the side now, I was super chill at first but she was super dry with me even though I only pulled her because she made it clear that she wanted me.
Eventually, I stopped giving a fukk, cut the patient gentleman act and just started being more blunt with the "bytch I'm trying to fukk you" shyt.
I guess that's what she wanted to hear because she got super open once that shift happened. She started hitting me up everyday,
sending nudes and twerking vids, sexting etc.
Basically your mileage may vary