The better family woman: The one who serves her kid(s) food first or serves her hubby first ...

[xCivicx]

I have watched men put their egos ahead of their families my whole life. @xCivicx won't be the first and he won't be the last

Oh

I know Im not the same father I thought I was gonna be.

I'm actually stricter than my wife. Lol.

I feel that maybe he got did wrong by a woman, therefore he had to show he is the dominant person in all situations. In actuality u only show how fraile u truly are.

If u confident in yourself u don't have to prove it. My boys get in trouble they hate to have me know, but if they get hurt I'm the first they run to.

Don't make it out to be more than what it is. Some of u guys sound selfish and put what u did above all. Tit for tat shyt is not masculine.

To be real if I was single I would take all y'all chicks

Y'alls imaginations are running wild in this thread smh

And I'm pretty sure the person you're quoting is a dude

 

[xCivicx]

ain't nobody eating till we say grace.... who gives a fukk who got their plate put down in 30 second intervals

people really in here like "kids NEED to eat first" like they gonna starve and die cause they waiting an extra 30 seconds to get a plate

stop catering to your children and they'll stop thinking they are king of the world and everybody owes them shyt.. dad keeping these lights on and clothes on your back AND he just got home from work... if my big ass plate can't be set down first, cause the kids gonna do what?? cry, fuss, bytch, moan? they can eat sleep for dinner

They hear you but they don't care

Like I said earlier in this thread, the SEVERE lack of disrespect for the black man as the head of his household is apparent in here

They keep trying to use passive aggressive shaming tactics like said tactics aren't transparent

But judging from this thread, there's clearly a lot of single mother raised people who actually resent their fathers

 

[TLR Is Mental Poison]

Why did you quote my post asking you a question, when you didn't actually respond to said question?

A wife can show respect by not talking down to or being rude to her husband

Good thing is that is all the time rather than just at the dinner table

If you had to choose which would you rather have?

 

[xCivicx]

A wife can show respect by not talking down to or being rude to her husband

Good thing is that is all the time rather than just at the dinner table

If you had to choose which would you rather have?

The bold is true but it's also more of a general answer that doesn't specifically signal anything to young children

Visual cues are more effective to them

 

[TLR Is Mental Poison]

The bold is true but it's also more of a general answer that doesn't specifically signal anything to young children

Visual cues are more effective to them

Again kids are way more observant and intelligent than you give them credit for

They definitely learn about respect and how to treat people by how their parents interact

 

[EndDomination]

Everyone serves themselves. Outside of grandparents/toddlers.

 

[knl14]

They hear you but they don't care

Like I said earlier in this thread, the SEVERE lack of disrespect for the black man as the head of his household is apparent in here

They keep trying to use passive aggressive shaming tactics like said tactics aren't transparent

But judging from this thread, there's clearly a lot of single mother raised people who actually resent their fathers

Can you explain why being served the first plate is the single defining gesture of respect for a man? Me and a handful of others have given you several examples of how respect is shown to men in the household as fathers and husbands, I’ll even give you one more--the fact that the man is being served in the first place is a gesture that kids can see. Just because you capitalize words like SEVERE and EXTREME doesn’t make it true...You’re taking one gesture of of many and running with it. You are fixated and obsessed with being served first and will not accept any other gesture, interaction as evidence of respect. What about not being served first triggers you?

 

[xCivicx]

Again kids are way more observant and intelligent than you give them credit for

They definitely learn about respect and how to treat people by how their parents interact

Oh

I dont see that at all in real life but ok

I guess yall are the ones with the model children and the kids slapping their teachers and cursing them out are "other peoples kids"

 

[TLR Is Mental Poison]

Oh

I dont see that at all in real life but ok

I guess yall are the ones with the model children and the kids slapping their teachers and cursing them out are "other peoples kids"

Just because you don't see something doesn't mean it doesn't exist. That is how children think

You might as well get snipped breh. You don't have the emotional capacity for fatherhood. You are looking forward to what your wife and kids will do for you instead of the other way around, and you can't admit to not knowing what the hell you're talking about or being wrong.

 

[xCivicx]

Just because you don't see something doesn't mean it doesn't exist. That is how children think

You might as well get snipped breh. You don't have the emotional capacity for fatherhood. You are looking forward to what your wife and kids will do for you instead of the other way around, and you can't admit to not knowing what the hell you're talking about or being wrong.

Again, your imagination is running wild

I'm gonna go ahead and trust my own anecdotes over those of a random on the internet

Also, what is it that I'm looking forward to my hypothetical kids doing for me? What are you even talking about?

 

[tuckgod]

Smh you talk a whole bunch of gibberish on this site

Its not dysfunctional for the HOH to be served first in their house

This goes back to my post about the black community being a matriarchy

Theres clearly A LOT of dysfunction in the community, tied directly to broken non structured homes

But you deflect from that to try and blame the state of the black community on a man wanting to be respected in his own home?

Its clear from this thread that a lot of yall actually hate/resent your fathers

Sorry but I love mine...

He deserved to get his food first because he grinded to make sure we even had a place to cook food

This "ego" bs that yall keep talking is feminine deflection

But again, this just shows the fundamental lack of respect ACROSS THE BOARD for black men in the black community

In African, asian, middle eastern and even CARIBBEAN(where my family originates) cultures this isnt even a question for the exact OPPOSITE reason that yall are claiming in here

The arrogance in here is ridiculous smh

Repped.

Only response I’ll bother reading in this thread.

Judging from the poll, I already know it’s a bunch of folks with daddy issues in here talking nonsense.

 

[AuntAnniesPretzels]

ain't nobody eating till we say grace.... who gives a fukk who got their plate put down in 30 second intervals

people really in here like "kids NEED to eat first" like they gonna starve and die cause they waiting an extra 30 seconds to get a plate

stop catering to your children and they'll stop thinking they are king of the world and everybody owes them shyt.. dad keeping these lights on and clothes on your back AND he just got home from work... if my big ass plate can't be set down first, cause the kids gonna do what?? cry, fuss, bytch, moan? they can eat sleep for dinner