The culture of family members being a financial burden . . .

[Behind-the-wheel]

Damnit...imma have to get my mom outta livin with my sister and her husband.
She moved in with them thinking she was gonna be able to enjoy her retirement and see her grandkids my sister had with her husband.
Nope.
Spoke to her yesterday and them fools are draining her for every little thing and using her as a live-in babysitter.
Ole boy be out on the streets playin the field more than he's home...then wanna brag like hes "the man" when my moms doin all the "manly" stuff takin care of the house.
My sis workin being the breadwinner instead of this negro....and still leanin on my mom to fill in the gap.
My nephews don't have structure or a proper male figure in their life so they buckwild and can't keep a daycare spot.
My mom damn near make 80% as much as I do retired and she don't have money to enjoy herself cause she supporting my sister and her family.

fukk that...she comin to visit with me in the mountain house this spring. If she like it, she can stay.
It's time for her to enjoy her retirement and spend her money on herself.

shyt man...people don't fukkin change, I really hoped that my sis had gotten it together but she still doin the same mess as when we were kids.



shyt that pisses me off the most is that I never got hardly anything from my parents.
My fukkin siblings been given bmw cars, houses, clothes...all kinda shyt...for free!!!
But I've had to earn everything I've got or I've had to do without.
I know it puts me in a better position in life cause I ain't a slacker and don't depend on no one, but it fukkin pisses me off that I've had to struggle, eat garbage, sleep in my car, work two jobs at different points, work jobs I hated, sacrifice, sell my personal property at times and even steal shyt in order to make ends meet. Meanwhile, my siblings get the fukkin world handed to them on a plate.

I just ain't right...and it ain't fair.
But like I said before...when my parents die, them negroes are gonna be eatin the curb.
But it'll be just my fukkin luck my parents will leave the three of them negroes everything...cause of course they're always thinking "Oh, Behind-the-wheel doesn't need anything...he's strong...he's smart...he will be ok."


Sometimes I really feel like I should be colder than I am, but that's my moms.
Only get one of her...even if her thought process is fukked up.
So, Imma extend the invitation after she visits...and see what she decides to do.

 

[Afro]

Sometimes I really feel like I should be colder than I am, but that's my moms.
Only get one of her...even if her thought process is fukked up.
So, Imma extend the invitation after she visits...and see what she decides to do.

Extend the invitation because it's the right thing to do.

But don't be disappointed if she doesn't take the offer.

It's her decision

I'm taking care of my mom now, she starting to lose her memory something serious.

We were never close and I grew up in the same house with only her. There are no happy memories in that place.

But it's mom and only one of her siblings (out of nine!) is helping me through the process of getting all the paperwork and programs in order.

I emphasize with your frustrations breh, but at least you'll be able to look at God on the day of judgement (if you believe) and say you did your best

 

[JA_Carter]

Going through this now

 

[Reno89]

This is the reason why I don't have a relationship with my family in Haiti. My mom is working, but she's chronically sick, and they're asking her for money on an almost monthly basis. I can't have a conversation with them without them asking give me for money. I'm talking 2-3 minutes into the conversation.

One thing I learned is that a lot of these families Lowkey HATE you for being in your position, so they try to exploit you as much as possible. Even though a lot of them don't need the money on a monthly basis, they will make their relationship with you contingent upon you're consistent financial support.

 

[Wildhundreds]

This is the reason why I don't have a relationship with my family in Haiti. My mom is working, but she's chronically sick, and they're asking her for money on an almost monthly basis. I can't have a conversation with them without them asking give me for money. I'm talking 2-3 minutes into the conversation.

One thing I learned is that a lot of these families Lowkey HATE you for being in your position, so they try to exploit you as much as possible. Even though a lot of them don't need the money on a monthly basis, they will make their relationship with you contingent upon you're consistent financial support.

They still live in Haiti?

 

[Yinny]

 

[EffYou]

 

[Neuromancer]

It's just an African Caribbean issue

I wish this were true.

 

[UberEatsDriver]

My mom should be president of Haiti by now

 

[UberEatsDriver]

This is the reason why I don't have a relationship with my family in Haiti. My mom is working, but she's chronically sick, and they're asking her for money on an almost monthly basis. I can't have a conversation with them without them asking give me for money. I'm talking 2-3 minutes into the conversation.

One thing I learned is that a lot of these families Lowkey HATE you for being in your position, so they try to exploit you as much as possible. Even though a lot of them don't need the money on a monthly basis, they will make their relationship with you contingent upon you're consistent financial support.

People in haiti have found my number numerous times and tried to call me too

 

[JT-Money]

You can't take it with you. If someone else needs money within reason I don't mind breaking bread with them. As long as the money isn't being wasted on frivolous crap. And the family member isn't a degenerate scumbag.

 

[Reno89]

They still live in Haiti?

Most of them, yes

 

[Robbie3000]

This is the reason why I don't have a relationship with my family in Haiti. My mom is working, but she's chronically sick, and they're asking her for money on an almost monthly basis. I can't have a conversation with them without them asking give me for money. I'm talking 2-3 minutes into the conversation.

One thing I learned is that a lot of these families Lowkey HATE you for being in your position, so they try to exploit you as much as possible. Even though a lot of them don't need the money on a monthly basis, they will make their relationship with you contingent upon you're consistent financial support.

I had a dude that claimed he knew me when I was in second grade begging me for money last time I was in Kenya. This nikka was shameless too.

 

[Gold]

So you think kids should be cut off once reaching 18?

Didnt even read the thread

 

[Ozymandeas]

This is the reason why I don't have a relationship with my family in Haiti. My mom is working, but she's chronically sick, and they're asking her for money on an almost monthly basis. I can't have a conversation with them without them asking give me for money. I'm talking 2-3 minutes into the conversation.

One thing I learned is that a lot of these families Lowkey HATE you for being in your position, so they try to exploit you as much as possible. Even though a lot of them don't need the money on a monthly basis, they will make their relationship with you contingent upon you're consistent financial support.

Facts. I’ve given my sister at least $2,000 over the last year. I don’t even call or text her anymore because I know she gonna have a sob story. And she a decade older