The friend zone is a myth

[Roberto Dinero]

I haven't read the whole thread yet but I will tell you this.

Being friends with a woman and being in the friend zone are not the same thing. Friends with a woman is when some way or other u befriended a lady. She might be ur homies girl, maybe a friend of ur sister, colleague or whatever.

Being in the friend zone is when u told a woman u wanted to be with her and she turned you down. U already expressed interest in her but she didn't like u and said, "we can still be friends" to spare ur feelings. That's a dead relationship too cause deep down she don't give a f*ck about u and she doasen't wanna be ur friend. Ur just hanging around her hoping to hit it one day. Its a doomed relationship, ur both better off by moving on and forgetting u ever met each other

Its not the same relationship as having a female friend at all.

 

[threattonature]

it doesn't mean males and females can't be friends.

all i'm saying is that no matter what, there will always be some sort of sexual tension in a male/female friendship. and that's ok. the trick for the friendship to be successful is to learn to recognize it and be responsible about it. meaning don't use it to play games with the other person's feelings or to manipulate them. but it's definitely possible to be friends with the opposite sex. it's just a different type of friendship with a different "code".

It's crazy because one of my closest friends in life is a female and I would've thought we would never cross that line. However, I got drunk one night and start hitting on her and asking for a kiss. She said she didn't want to because she might like it too much which should've been a warning flag. So we made out. Next thing you know she's asking if I've ever considered the two of us having a relationship and texting me nonstop and telling me she can't stop thinking about me.

 

[ugksam]

As a woman I agree with the bold.

Meaning: A man will know you're not interested but in the back of his mind will attempt to prey upon your weaknesses in the guise of friendship.

Once I told a few of my male acquaintances I was pregnant not only did they drop me like a bad habit, I was accused of being a whore who lied about my 5+ years of celibacy

Friend zone = one day she'll crack and let me hit that if I stick around long enough

Lying about being pregnant ??? Sounds like a really sane thing to do.

 

[McPiff]

5 stars pos rep

 

[Majestic Pape]

to this day people still talk about this thing called the friend zone. its really an imaginary thing people created to help them deal with rejection. the woman rejected you and you're still hanging around calling yourself in some type of zone. women are usually nice so if you're a decent guy but not what she wants she'll let you hang around but you're not in a zone you're just a guy in denial about the L you took.

its not a friendship either you're a vulture circling overhead waiting for a moment of weakness to strike. the worst part is you don't even want this chick anymore deep down. you just wanna conqueror her to reverse the rejection you experienced. you're just obsessed with "getting out of the friend zone" cause your ego got bruised. an ego that shouldn't have been brought to the game in the first place.

we all get rejected. these women don't know your value so don't take it personal. they're making split second decisions based on little to no info or superficial bullshyt. lots of times they come back around. you get a random call years later cause she kept your number and she wants to talk again. she realizes what she let go. she knows she fukked up.

 

[KnowledgeIsQueen]

it doesn't mean males and females can't be friends.

all i'm saying is that no matter what, there will always be some sort of sexual tension in a male/female friendship. and that's ok. the trick for the friendship to be successful is to learn to recognize it and be responsible about it. meaning don't use it to play games with the other person's feelings or to manipulate them. but it's definitely possible to be friends with the opposite sex. it's just a different type of friendship with a different "code".

I wholeheartedly agree.

I grew up a tomboy so I've always had more male friends. I was never into barbie's, nail polish, gossip, shopping and other cliche's associated with women. I rather talk about sports, music, debate & clown around.

My male acquaintances never stemmed from attraction (at least not from me) It always started from a conversation, we kept in touch and it blossomed;that's why I was caught off guard.

Guess I'm not as cool as I thought, it was my vagina they were after all along

Lying about being pregnant ??? Sounds like a really sane thing to do.

Do you read post or do you just skim through it?

I said once I told them I was pregnant they assumed I was lying about being celibate.

 

[Bilz]

I haven't read the whole thread yet but I will tell you this.

Being friends with a woman and being in the friend zone are not the same thing. Friends with a woman is when some way or other u befriended a lady. She might be ur homies girl, maybe a friend of ur sister, colleague or whatever.

Being in the friend zone is when u told a woman u wanted to be with her and she turned you down. U already expressed interest in her but she didn't like u and said, "we can still be friends" to spare ur feelings. That's a dead relationship too cause deep down she don't give a f*ck about u and she doasen't wanna be ur friend. Ur just hanging around her hoping to hit it one day. Its a doomed relationship, ur both better off by moving on and forgetting u ever met each other

Its not the same relationship as having a female friend at all.

Exactly what I was coming in to say. A guy can definitely have a real friendship with a girl if it was a friendship to start with. I know the theory is always that even in a real friendship between a guy and a girl, one person likes the other and that's the one who keeps the friendship going but from my experience, that isn't always the case.

I've never tried to maintain friendships with ex's or girls it didn't work out with. Always seemed pointless to me but maybe some people can make it work. I was talking to one girl a few years back and found out that her "best friend" was a guy that was in love with her but got friend zoned. The way I understood it, he did everything for her because he eventually wanted to crack that glass and she kept him around because he was so nice to her. She claimed they were just friends and he doesn't get jealous if she is seeing someone and I was a little skeptical of that. The first time I went somewhere with her, she was sad because she got in a big fight with him right beforehand because he got jealous. I got the hell out of that situation quick.

 

[HabitualLineSteppa]

The friend zone is real only when you speak it into existence...I agree with many of the posts here...Stop lingering around, entertaining her "chick problems", charge it to the game, and get at someone who wants to fukk with you like that...Nothing worse than getting random phone calls about otherwise gay ass topics and all your thinkin is, "I jus wanna hit that ass"

 

[WaveCapsByOscorp™]

i agree with winb. this is why i don't pursue women unless she's a real catch of some sort and i want to get her attention. i'd rather just chill and let things happen versus trying to force something. i just find people or too fickle and temperamental to think that you can convince them right away. i don't have the patience for that at all, there are better things to invest my energy towards. at least for me, there's been more cases of me just being friends with a girl while not caring about fukking her and then getting the opportunity to fukk them later on versus me trying to fukk them right off and pursuing them...

 

[Dooby]

It's definitely not a myth...

Friend zone: when a male or female desires a more intimate relationship but the feeling is not mutual, therefore they remain in a friendly zone.

 

[thelonious21]

unless the chick witnessed you catch a one on one type of asswhooping, u can always recover from being in a "friendzone".

not true...


sometimes these chics like see you as a brother.. and NOTHING will change that... i have had a few say that to me cuz i knew them from dumb long ago and would kinda them advice..

 

[nalej]

disagree with TS. One of my best girlfriends was a girl I spit game to when we first met but never did anything. We are still cool after 10 years and we don't feel weird about it whatsoever.

 

[radio rahiem]

i can agree with this assessment

 

[beenz]

to this day people still talk about this thing called the friend zone. its really an imaginary thing people created to help them deal with rejection. the woman rejected you and you're still hanging around calling yourself in some type of zone. women are usually nice so if you're a decent guy but not what she wants she'll let you hang around but you're not in a zone you're just a guy in denial about the L you took.

its not a friendship either you're a vulture circling overhead waiting for a moment of weakness to strike. the worst part is you don't even want this chick anymore deep down. you just wanna conqueror her to reverse the rejection you experienced. you're just obsessed with "getting out of the friend zone" cause your ego got bruised. an ego that shouldn't have been brought to the game in the first place.

we all get rejected. these women don't know your value so don't take it personal. they're making split second decisions based on little to no info or superficial bullshyt. lots of times they come back around. you get a random call years later cause she kept your number and she wants to talk again. she realizes what she let go. she knows she fukked up.

this post is so real, cuz I have done this shyt before. and then after fukking proceeded not to give a fukk anymore. just wanted to see if I could do it.

 

[Still Benefited]

I would be lying if I stated I wasn't hurt. I truly thought these were my 'manz and them'.

Whenever a new mixtape dropped they would always hit me up, whenever my knicks played against their team they would call me up popping sh!t, whenever they had 'problems' I was their voice of reason, etc. I NEVER gave any of them the inclination that there was any sexual attraction, I viewed them as cool people. Now it's as if I no longer exist.

I used to be the BIGGEST advocate saying male and females could be friends.. shieeeeetttttttttttttttttttt not anymore

I only have 2 male acquaintances that're genuinely happy for me, the rest where wolves in sheep's clothing all along.

That's the beauty about life you constantly learn lessons that help you gain perspective.

how can women be so dumb and naive? To believe nikkas ain't tryna hit...don't know why they gotta be wolves just cuz u wuz a sheep playin around outside the gate like u never been told "its wolves out there! Don't go over there!"...u play around by the gate and now u sayin "its wolves out here!"...I made a thread about this on sohh,here's my post.


"All the times i thought i got put in the friendzone over the years that sh1t really was just my ego talking i think.....Truthfully chances are you was never out of the god damn "friendzone"....as dudes we got that ego that make us think "damn im doin everything right, got her laughin, she callin me all the time, she already told me i was cute time to take it to the next level"


That dont mean sh1t,some females refuse to have ugly female friends too,your cute enough that she will be seen in public with you and hang out but not that she wants to fuk you...you got a mental attraction and nothin more,and mental attraction is meant to be some secondary sh1t....you aint beatin off soley a mental connection....its all about the physical connection,and when a female has it you will know it, you will feel it....theres basically nothing you can do to be put in a "friendzone" at that point when a woman has that physical attraction,theres not a hint she wont drop to let you know you can have it when you want it....to a woman the feelings that physical attraction bring are so much stronger then the ones felt with a mental attraction its ridiculous,its undeniable....that's y I laugh when women say we shallow.