The harsh reality is most of single men 30 + will end up with a single mom & its not that bad.

[Mr.bocario]

Becoming an adult is ont a death sentence. Stop avoiding it like the plague. You will waist your time and your youth chasing an utopia and you will end up old, alone and bitter.

After 30, your mind must change. You're not 21 anymore and you won't be.

See that’s how you get it wrong. You think being an adult is settling down and having a family while others thinks it’s taking care of yourself financially and physically while enjoying the fruits of your labor

 

[ThrobbingHood]

Becoming an adult is ont a death sentence. Stop avoiding it like the plague. You will waist your time and your youth chasing an utopia and you will end up old, alone and bitter.

After 30, your mind must change. You're not 21 anymore and you won't be.

Where in law does it state that 30 is the age that everyone should become a monolith and follow the contrived family structure? Are you saying by 30 everyone should’ve achieved the exact same goals in life and settle down?

 

[RicanFury]

Why would your 20s be better than your 30s? Unless you got flabby and sick af.

It's more of a mental thing bro, if you look close or better than in your 20s, why would it be harder for you to fukk decent bytches?

It's one or both of these two problems.

1. Flabby n sick

2. You meeting women at the wrong places

There should be no reason why u have to date single moms.

how old are you breh? and where are you from? may be different where you live...but in NYC most women already have kids by 25....and some would say younger than that. I have dated women without kids in my age bracket...and they all had some batshyt crazy stuff goin on....usually the reason they was single lol every1 experience is different im just saying mine. ive found some of the single moms to be much easier to deal with ( besides the shytty baby daddies) than the women without kids.

 

[Caribbean lover]

Or you just like the women can remain single gosh you people act like you have to be in a relationship or u ain't shyt.

 

[African Peasant]

Where in law does it state that 30 is the age that everyone should become a monolith and follow the contrived family structure? Are you saying by 30 everyone should’ve achieved the exact same goals in life and settle down?

It's the law of nature. We're somehow a monolith because we are all humans: we're governed by the same biological and psychological imperatives. It doesn't mean we're clones but we're still for the vast majority of us bound to act in certain predetermined way. Pure individualism is an illusion. We're part of the same specie.

Trying to cling to your youthful years is immature. We're growing up; whether we like it or not. And we must act accordingly. A lot of cats don't want to leave their 20's. Becoming an adult is neither boring nor a choice. It's the reality of life. It's something we have to deal with. We're growing up.

 

[Balla]

Im 23 and I'm from NY too lol. Yeah mad btiches in the hood had kids at 17 or, straight after high school. I was actually gonna make a thread on it.

How old are you ? Ny bytches do be crazy, gotta find the non hood bytches.

But what I was tellin dude was that if he looks similar to his 20s, then he should have no problem then.

Just cuz he 30 don't mean he gotta settle for chicks his exact age with kids.

how old are you breh? and where are you from? may be different where you live...but in NYC most women already have kids by 25....and some would say younger than that. I have dated women without kids in my age bracket...and they all had some batshyt crazy stuff goin on....usually the reason they was single lol every1 experience is different im just saying mine. ive found some of the single moms to be much easier to deal with ( besides the shytty baby daddies) than the women without kids.

 

[dem bath salts]

A dude in his 30s and early 40s still has a lot of options if he has his shyt together. Mid 40+, take what you can get

 

[Dwayne_Taylor]

Not really if you date women around 25.

In fact once you reach 30 you actually gain rank as a man from women around that age unless your a total loser who is broke and still hasn’t figured out what path in life you are taking.

Imo What people misunderstand about this is that the young chick is only interested in the older dudes money.
you are less physically attractive to her than the men her age, but you have more dough. that's why she fukks with you; your Doe compensates for your age.
The older you get the more money you're going to need to compensate.

it's not a game you can play Forever. And most nikkas don't have money like that anyway. They just lie on these boards.

 

[SNG]

If you take care of yourself and in shape have a decent job you can have a plethora of options. I'm 32 and pull more girls from 21 - 25 range more than I have when I was around that age. You'll be surprised how many chicks around that age like older men. I damn near had a 19 year old too but I had to . Now if you flabby and sick in your 30's then yes what OP has stated is true.

 

[dem bath salts]

Also depends if ur ready for that settled, family life, then a single mother isn't a big deal. If you're still about getting away on the weekends and spontaneous type shyt then that shyt is tough.

 

[African Peasant]

See that’s how you get it wrong. You think being an adult is settling down and having a family while others thinks it’s taking care of yourself financially and physically while enjoying the fruits of your labor

I think that creating a family and taking care of yourself/enjoying the fruits of your labor are not mutually exclusive. However, refusing to perpetuate the chain of life, which implies a certain number of duties (taking care of your family, in other words taking care of someone else beside you), is a sign of an aborted adulthood. There is something childish in the idea of keeping all your ressources (not only money, but also time, attention, etc) to yourself. IMO becoming an adult is accepting our condition as humans.

 

[Balla]

U must be talking about some real old flabby n sick nikkas cuz I doubt anyone in they 30s gotta give up the bread unless they flabby n sick af.

Not all chicks is gold diggers.

Imo What people misunderstand about this is that the young chick is only interested in the older dudes money.
you are less physically attractive to her than the men her age, but you have more dough. that's why she fukks with you; your Doe compensates for your age.
The older you get the more money you're going to need to compensate.

it's not a game you can play Forever. And most nikkas don't have money like that anyway. They just lie on these boards.

 

[Larry Lambo]

You will probably have to make some concessions, but a kid doesn't have to be one of them.

 

[ThrobbingHood]

It's the law of nature. We're somehow a monolith because we are all humans: we're governed by the same biological and psychological imperatives. It doesn't mean we're clones but we're still for the vast majority of us bound to act in certain predetermined way. Pure individualism is an illusion. We're part of the same specie.

Trying to cling to your youthful years is immature. We're growing up; whether we like it or not. And we must act accordingly. A lot of cats don't want to leave their 20's. Becoming an adult is neither boring nor a choice. It's the reality of life. It's something we have to deal with. We're growing up.

Accordingly to who? Again we all age at different rates, have different life styles and cultures. The fact that you say “‘must act accordingly” shows how parochial you are in your thinking. Who creates these rules we have to apparently abide by?

It’s not about ‘clinging onto your youth’, it’s laughing at the idea that as men, our biological clock are ‘governed’ in a synchronised time scale. Honestly, no disrespect, but your thought pattern is what women use to try and get men to settle down when they’re not ready to.

If a man hasn’t got his shyt together by 30, he shouldn’t think of settling down until he does. If a man is in his mid 20s but with his shyt together, he shouldn’t feel obligated to cuff the first woman he sees as a potential wife.

Btw, a man can still be fertile in his 70s, so because nature is allowing him to procreate, it doesn’t mean he should. That’s just as crazy as saying as soon as a girl hits puberty, she should act accordingly and get pregnant.

 

[African Peasant]

Accordingly to who? Again we all age at different rates, have different life styles and cultures. The fact that you say “‘must act accordingly” shows how parochial you are in your thinking. Who creates these rules we have to apparently abide by?

It’s not about ‘clinging onto your youth’, it’s laughing at the idea that as men, our biological clock are ‘governed’ in a synchronised time scale. Honestly, no disrespect, but your thought pattern is what women use to try and get men to settle down when they’re not ready to.

If a man hasn’t got his shyt together by 30, he shouldn’t think of settling down until he does. If a man is in his mid 20s but with his shyt together, he shouldn’t feel obligated to cuff the first woman he sees as a potential wife.

Do you know many cultures where they tell men to settle when they want (ready) or later in life ?

I still think your youth is a ressource. And that ressource is needed when you make your family. Being ready is subjective, if we put aside the financial aspect. Being young and strong to raise a family is not. A culture is about limiting individual freedom : a culture will tell you to marry and when to marry.

I think we have different visions of things : I think there is an obligation for every men to create a family. And I think, correct me if I'm wrong, you see it as an option based on individual preference.

Since we differ on this fundamental point, I don't think we will reach an agreement.