The idea of "improving yourself" before you approach women is foreign to some men.

[Benefited]

He probably looked like that because he didn't ask you all that,he just asked if you were single. You gave a list of excuses where none were neccessary,as a premptive strike as if you thought you would be judged,orassumed to be a lame by simply not having a girlfriend. Most people just give a simple "No,you?" and keep the convo going.

 

[Weaver31]

Honestly it got more to do with confidence than anything. The only thing improving yourself do is help your own confidence and life. Bum, fat, ugly nikkas get quality women all the time. They just have the confidence to shoot their shot.


I know for me once I got a good job and started hitting the gym my confidence in myself rose. My self esteem rose. Then naturally I just started pulling more women.


Confidence is a game changer in life.

/ thread.

Real shyt here. It's all about confidence and self-esteem. Some ugly folks got hella confidence and some attractive folks lack confidence. Some need to be gainfully employed and in great financial status along with being in shape, dressed nice and having a fresh shape up to feel confidence and some can be broke, jobless or underemployed, obese, and havent had a haircut in months and they would still think they the man.

 

[Ricky Fontaine]

Bruh. Yall always making threads on how to get chicks like we in middle school or something

 

[13473]

i think it's a good idea, but you should give yourself a time limit. like 3-6 months or u can be stuck improving yourself forever.

 

[Vandelay]

Not to be tit for tat, but some women need to take heed of this too.

 

[⠝⠕⠏⠑]

Most normal people with regular healthy psyches are A okay with who they attract and leveling up is COMPLETELY unnecessary.

Leveling up specifically to get a certain mate isn't about self-improvement. It's about ego and validation more often than not.
I told ya'll a lot of people ain't dating looking for love. They are dating looking for validation from the types of males and females they wanted who rejected them in the past.

Edit: That's not to say you should always be pushing past your limits...but that should be for yourself and the rest will follow. But if u only do ANYTHING for somebody else, you still operating outta thirst energy and no amount of extra will cover that up in your interactions with the opposite sex.

 

[semicko82]

Most normal people with regular healthy psyches are A okay with who they attract and leveling up is COMPLETELY unnecessary.

Leveling up specifically to get a certain mate isn't about self-improvement. It's about ego and validation more often than not.
I told ya'll a lot of people ain't dating looking for love. They are dating looking for validation from the types of males and females they wanted who rejected them in the past.

Edit: That's not to say you should always be pushing past your limits...but that should be for yourself and the rest will follow. But if u only do ANYTHING for somebody else, you still operating outta thirst energy and no amount of extra will cover that up in your interactions with the opposite sex.

I’m not going to lie I’m guilty of this but fuk love sometimes it’s deeper than being love

 

[iBrowse]

Because he’s right?

“Improving yourself” before approaching women is just an excuse as to why you’re too chicken to approach them now. And what exactly is your metric of improvement before you approach? Six pack? Own house? Millionaire?

True. It’s a double edged sword though because nikkas want a particular caliber of woman but they in all likelihood can’t if they don’t possess some of the shyt you refer to. It’s funny when they do get it and they still can’t pull though lmao. You can literally do both at the same time.

 

[Mandarin Duck]

Most normal people with regular healthy psyches are A okay with who they attract and leveling up is COMPLETELY unnecessary.

Leveling up specifically to get a certain mate isn't about self-improvement. It's about ego and validation more often than not.
I told ya'll a lot of people ain't dating looking for love. They are dating looking for validation from the types of males and females they wanted who rejected them in the past.

Edit: That's not to say you should always be pushing past your limits...but that should be for yourself and the rest will follow. But if u only do ANYTHING for somebody else, you still operating outta thirst energy and no amount of extra will cover that up in your interactions with the opposite sex.

What if you aren't "leveling up" because you can't attract anyone?

 

[⠝⠕⠏⠑]

What if you aren't "leveling up" because you can't attract anyone?

If it's about you and PURELY about your own benefit to enhance your own personal growth and wellbeing then that's a plus. Ironically you will attract the best people WHILE you are on that journey, not necessarily at the end of it.

It ain't about other people. Sometimes it's okay to be little selfish. Fukk them. This is about you.

 

[Mandarin Duck]

If it's about you and PURELY about your own benefit to enhance your own personal growth and wellbeing then that's a plus. Ironically you will attract the best people WHILE you are on that journey, not necessarily at the end of it.

It ain't about other people. Sometimes it's okay to be little selfish. Fukk them. This is about you.

No I mean you can't attract anyone, and you believe this is the best course of action to do so.

 

[CarmelBarbie]

Most normal people with regular healthy psyches are A okay with who they attract and leveling up is COMPLETELY unnecessary.

Leveling up specifically to get a certain mate isn't about self-improvement. It's about ego and validation more often than not.
I told ya'll a lot of people ain't dating looking for love. They are dating looking for validation from the types of males and females they wanted who rejected them in the past.

Edit: That's not to say you should always be pushing past your limits...but that should be for yourself and the rest will follow. But if u only do ANYTHING for somebody else, you still operating outta thirst energy and no amount of extra will cover that up in your interactions with the opposite sex.

100%
@BenStealer consider this.

 

[Lýba'rhaésheýun]

Sometimes you need to do it for the woman if you into some really REALLY High status broads but... other times tho its just cause it makes you feel good thats how It is with me,

If I'm.... Proud of my outfit, hairstyle, body shape, and personality, my life and my goals even if a woman turned me down its like... eh, Cause I feel like I can pull 1000 her's cause I'm proud of me and everything associated with me, some females might like a dad bod but alot of men feel better when they physically have muscles or a nice shape, some men ain't gotta do this cause they already feel that way no improvement needed, some men don't understand this cause there dusty and lazy and improvement isn't in there mind to as it relates to anything really so they wouldn't do it to attract anyone or to build there confidence either.


and how you feel will translate to doing wonderful in social situations.

 

[Skip b]

I had a job a few years back and a co-worker of mine asked if I had a girlfriend.

I told him "No I'm trying to work on myself right now and safe up some money"

He literally hit me with the

As if to say
"What does any of that have to do with getting women?"

It's funny how some of us have these male versions of How Stella Got her Groove Back playing in our heads as motivation to get something that other dudes don't even think twice about

If a woman likes you she likes you period.......No bummyness will change those facts

This thread makes me think of the baddest chick I ever bagged in my life( she passed away 2 weeks back) all I do is work I dont get as fly as I can as these me too hoes be trying to trap a nikka with the puss.......

S::Anyway she was in law school, did her stint in the military and a pure 10/10, and me at my worst n tore up bottoms to my pants had her eating out my hands literally, and how I could see this bad chick with her own issues who simply wanted a working man, who is a father, and a strong body to lean, as she clearly had a issue in her life......When it came to me she'd never claim her man though, I didnt even know she was married until she passed away but this chick was completely out my league and it caused me to panic in my movement but my steady non stalker movements were the key with this......The one time we were supposed to meet it was a tropical storm and we joked about car accidents, and I said I ride through hell to get to you a tropical storm doesn't scare me; the storm was bad and I missed my shot, she goes out of town to school the next day and said she'll holler at me when she comes back into town; we'll she graduated the friday before last, and was heading to NC and her husband drove her off an over pass killing her that following monday..........I missed out on the baddest chick eating out my palm, not one of these bad project hoes looking for pullup brehs, a strong successful woman.....I feel torn up as I know for a fact I was in her head even if we didnt chat for weeks at end or months...


That there was a lesson never pass up on shooting your shot on a bad bytch because of clothes looks or etc; if a chick likes you, theyd give up a piece of they life literally to take your calls every once in a while........

Spoiler

https://www.facebook.com/kendra.l.woods

 

[xzenothunder]

No I mean you can't attract anyone, and you believe this is the best course of action to do so.

Have you ever posted a pic? I honestly can't believe you cant attract anyone