The idea of "improving yourself" before you approach women is foreign to some men.

[Neuromancer]

nikkas on the coli need self love and self validation.

 

[Neuromancer]

Interesting thread.

Remember what i said about men having low self esteem?

 

[WSFGDan]

same ole shyt

 

[GodinDaFlesh]

He's right tho. You're making the assumption that women are the prize we have to win over, that's why their heads get blown up. They want men just as much as we want women.

 

[semicko82]

Remember what i said about men having low self esteem?

In your opinion where do you think the low self esteem comes from

 

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Rom Wills said it best Women’s sexual imprint comes from their first few sexual encounters......Men’s sexual imprint comes from their acceptance and rejection from women.....That is why men tend to remember their rejections and take them to heart more than women.....That should speak volumes......

 

[semicko82]

Rom Wills said it best Women’s sexual imprint comes from their first few sexual encounters......Men’s sexual imprint comes from their acceptance and rejection from women.....That is why men tend to remember their rejections and take them to heart more than women.....That should speak volumes......

This

 

[CarmelBarbie]

Rom Wills said it best Women’s sexual imprint comes from their first few sexual encounters......Men’s sexual imprint comes from their acceptance and rejection from women.....That is why men tend to remember their rejections and take them to heart more than women.....That should speak volumes......

Im glad you saw my tag. How are you good sir? Miss you. Hope your doing well.

 

[Mandarin Duck]

Yall gotta understand that you can get women being yourself, now if you're really improving yourself and dont have the time and financial stability to go on dates etc. that makes sense, but if you're trying to self improve just to go talk to a woman you're hustling backwards imo, you can still self improve while approaching and dating because dating and approaching is a tangible skill you can consciously work on, that's like saying I'm getting ready to sign up for boxing classes by doing cardio, nah nikka you can learn how to box by boxing and then do cardio to support that

 

[MysticMonroe]

That's what I'm doing right now. Don't feel alone. I'm getting healthy, I'm currently in school for Web Design and I'm trying to save money and get rid of debt so I can start to retain money. Everyone should get themselves together before jumping in a relationship otherwise you're just gonna bring problems your own insecurities and past relationships problems into the new one. So don't feel alone. More people need to do it.

Because too many people don't fix themselves they just seek out someone to date who has all the stuff they want to be themselves. Like a fat person seeking out a skinny partner, broke seeking rich, homeless seeking someone with a house, no car seeking someone with one, people with kids seeking out those without. However, I'm not saying its wrong for the have-nots to seek out the haves, but you shouldn't be so dependent on what someone else has that you stop trying to improve yourself.

 

[GreenGhxst]

You can tho, may not be who you want tho

 

[god shamgod]

It’s really an excuse, unless you’re a broke bum who don’t have a dollar to your name( even them nikkas be smashing chicks) that improving yourself 1st is a cop out for scary dudes

 

[Mandarin Duck]

That's what I'm doing right now. Don't feel alone. I'm getting healthy, I'm currently in school for Web Design and I'm trying to save money and get rid of debt so I can start to retain money. Everyone should get themselves together before jumping in a relationship otherwise you're just gonna bring problems your own insecurities and past relationships problems into the new one. So don't feel alone. More people need to do it.

Because too many people don't fix themselves they just seek out someone to date who has all the stuff they want to be themselves. Like a fat person seeking out a skinny partner, broke seeking rich, homeless seeking someone with a house, no car seeking someone with one, people with kids seeking out those without. However, I'm not saying its wrong for the have-nots to seek out the haves, but you shouldn't be so dependent on what someone else has that you stop trying to improve yourself.

You're a woman.

This doesn't apply to you.

 

[I'm Blackman]

Most normal people with regular healthy psyches are A okay with who they attract and leveling up is COMPLETELY unnecessary.

Leveling up specifically to get a certain mate isn't about self-improvement. It's about ego and validation more often than not.
I told ya'll a lot of people ain't dating looking for love. They are dating looking for validation from the types of males and females they wanted who rejected them in the past.

Edit: That's not to say you should always be pushing past your limits...but that should be for yourself and the rest will follow. But if u only do ANYTHING for somebody else, you still operating outta thirst energy and no amount of extra will cover that up in your interactions with the opposite sex.

Consistently one of the best posters on this site.

This is real when I peel the layers back and examine my own behavior, so much of is ego driven. It takes a lot of awareness to not operate from that space.

 

[Neuromancer]

In your opinion where do you think the low self esteem comes from

Didn't see this.

Parents most likely. Your parents should let you knoe that female validation isn't the be all and end all. That should be paramount. Society reinforces it. At the end of the day we as males must come to a realization that we should have purpose outside of sex and chasing tail. I also think white supermacy having reduced the notion of black men or our sole means of Masculintiy to sexuality plays a part. Mainly we have stop putting so much value on getting women and sex.