The internet or how we can all be lonely together now

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I'm going to be honest at the risk of judgement. When i was younger i felt real friendship for the people i talked to online. We shared interests, played games together and talked like brothers/sisters. Then i went AWOL from humanity for a few years. Lost touch, felt like those bonds had passed me by, didn't rekindle them and just never made real new ones. The people i talk to now don't know me and i don't know them. There's so many thin strands between people it feels weird even (wanting to) strenghtening a bond. Intrusive. Like it's not supposed to happen.

So the online "friendship" is not there for me anymore. I do kind of miss it.
Reminds me of that old Chris Rock bit about adults not having friends.

I feel you...the first forum I posted on was all I had for awhile. We talked shyt, traded music, whole bunch of shyt. It's still up but it's like a ghost town, and that feeling I used to have is gone.
 

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agree and disagree with OP.

you can never be lonely connected to this global village, or maybe the word is isolated.

as far as escapism via online forums and social media, i dont think so. theres a thread on a woman getting killed exposing DLs for likes.

if you are specific to the coli, then go in further because theres two different type of online users.

the reclusive user and the socially active user. (to me one life is not better than the other)
 

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Ha. You should break down the excessive workout/eat healthy culture

Just another thing that most people have ass backwards because of their ignorance, peep:

There are two types of health, one that comes from within and is expressed externally and the other is all about looking good at any cost. I'll let you guess which path most people are walking on because they are begging for acceptance from others by any means they can and so are willing to endure almost anything, take any "shortcut", pop any pill, starve, whatever in order to get that look.

You see it all around, people walking around with abs popping, looking cut but no functional strength/endurance whatsoever because "people can't see that" so they don't care because its all about fronting, no depth or substance. On the other hand you see a true modern day warrior who knows the battle needs a unified mind, body and soul and they walk a totally different path. Some of them may have the cut and build but its whats powering it underneath, the mental as well as physical strength fueled by oneness that the rest don't know about and don't even try because it seems too much like hard work.

Feeding is the same, people are sheep and hop on trends thinking "If I eat this I'll look like them because they eat it" which in reality means they are ignorant of the facts of life in that there are 10 different bodies which all use food in totally different ways and thus need totally different approaches tailored to them but this knowledge isn't mainstream so the blind can't see it.

Modern society puts immense pressure on Ordinary Joes to look like movie stars all the time when they don't even look like that and when they do its because they've got a whole crew of trainers, dieticians, hormone specialists and camera tricks to make it seem easy but people are so caught up in the fronting as they work their BS job and take fake pics with unimaginative captions about how dang great everything is when in reality they don't really like themselves at all and are begging for acceptance with each update...

In a nutshell, people want to broadcast an image in the hopes you believe it so they can feel better about themselves and maybe, just maybe they too can believe the wool they've pulled over your eyes. Everyone is in so much pain that its absolutely insane to see the world and the way it is if you're internally connected because its all so chaotic and people revel in the madness because they know no different.
 

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It is crazy how forums pull people together and we share our thoughts and experiences to people who we don't know.

Yeah its insane. No matter who, what, where, when, why we're all gathered at this digital watering hole because we feel the power of a dope rhyme over a hot beat deep in our souls. The rest all comes from that common thread.

I’m fascinated by the fact that every poster is a person with an entire life.

And this anonymity allows folks to behave in a way they normally wouldn't in real life out of fear. In a way, folks have a more genuine, honest interaction online than in the real world.

Both excellent points, people sometimes forget that whoever is on the other side of the screen has their own hopes, fear, goals and dreams. That they're coming from a certain psychological space with distinct aims in each interaction. Whats most interesting is that forums like these as opposed to Instafacetweeting are more "real" because of the medium and intimate feel.

Not to say that the sheer amount of Tales of the Duck that are spewed by the 6 Gang ain't laughable because that comes with the territory but people on a whole are more genuine/speak their mind more frankly via the safety of a screen which is why when you look at the races antics en masse by how they act on youtube comments etc... it really makes you wonder about the levels of regression that are obviously going on in this race to the digital bottom...

People who were around in the dial up days know what I mean when I say it was different, the vibes, the boards, the people, the way people interacted was something else and a lot of people that you connected with online you ended up actually connecting with offline as well because you were linking up with people who swerved in your lane when everyone around you may have been on a totally different flex.

The entire analog to digital transition this world went through from the late 90s - 00s was something, definitely an experience and the reverberations from this are still spreading across the race but people are too used to being in the trick bag now to even think of another way...
 

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On some g shyt...In order to unhack our minds and disarm the algorithms, as a collective we have to practice what's called data poisoning.

First, clean your digital fingerprints as much as you can. Unfollow everyone you personally know, remove all pictures of you & yours and delete anything that contains Personally Identifiable Information (PII in cybersecurity terms).

Then, flip the approach on them and feed the machines targeted bullshyt. Memes, jokes, randomness, etc so that we each mentally create a divide between the virtual and physical worlds. We should never again blur the lines.

Now what about all those connections you made? How will you stay in contact with your friends if you're not keeping track on w/e platform you're using? Groups chats, cloud based file shares (dropbox, google drive,icloud), actual phone calls. literal face time with people. Use the internet to communicate in real time with people you care about and get right back out of the matrix.

Turn your phone back into a portable computer - keep only the utility apps (tools that help you DO things) and CONSUME your content from a fixed location (home or work) on a seperate consumption device (tablet/smart tv/console).

The addictions will be hard to break at first (I still catch myself mindlessly opening my phone to browse for apps I deleted out of habit) but the end game is worth it.
 

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On some g shyt...In order to unhack our minds and disarm the algorithms, as a collective we have to practice what's called data poisoning.

First, clean your digital fingerprints as much as you can. Unfollow everyone you personally know, remove all pictures of you & yours and delete anything that contains Personally Identifiable Information (PII in cybersecurity terms).

Then, flip the approach on them and feed the machines targeted bullshyt. Memes, jokes, randomness, etc so that we each mentally create a divide between the virtual and physical worlds. We should never again blur the lines.

Now what about all those connections you made? How will you stay in contact with your friends if you're not keeping track on w/e platform you're using? Groups chats, cloud based file shares (dropbox, google drive,icloud), actual phone calls. literal face time with people. Use the internet to communicate in real time with people you care about and get right back out of the matrix.

Turn your phone back into a portable computer - keep only the utility apps (tools that help you DO things) and CONSUME your content from a fixed location (home or work) on a seperate consumption device (tablet/smart tv/console).

The addictions will be hard to break at first (I still catch myself mindlessly opening my phone to browse for apps I deleted out of habit) but the end game is worth it.

This is all so true, tech should be a tool and a tool has a use then its put to the side. The way it is now people are walking around with a hammer thinking everything is a nail because they crave that rush. The people who design the apps blatantly say they make them as addictive as possible by leveraging proclivities in the human mind to engage in repetitious behavior - thats the dope dealers prayer, you need em to keep coming back so you can cake up.

Only difference is we pay with a piece of mind and thus lose peace of mind. Its a dirty game y'all.
 

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Forums saved my life. Growing up my family moved houses a lot, which left me lonely & not many close friends. Forums helped me to feel less lonely as I was interacting with other people with common interests

Now I'm more social & have a social life but becuz I grew up on forums, it will always be a part of me
 

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I'm going to be honest at the risk of judgement. When i was younger i felt real friendship for the people i talked to online. We shared interests, played games together and talked like brothers/sisters. Then i went AWOL from humanity for a few years. Lost touch, felt like those bonds had passed me by, didn't rekindle them and just never made real new ones. The people i talk to now don't know me and i don't know them. There's so many thin strands between people it feels weird even (wanting to) strenghtening a bond. Intrusive. Like it's not supposed to happen.

So the online "friendship" is not there for me anymore. I do kind of miss it.
Reminds me of that old Chris Rock bit about adults not having friends.
yea i'm realizing people get weird when you actually attempt to connect with them. it's like you have to do it in a way where you're not appearing to make a connection? people are so reluctant to actually build a bond, but maybe it's just me :yeshrug:
 

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yea i'm realizing people get weird when you actually attempt to connect with them. it's like you have to do it in a way where you're not appearing to make a connection? people are so reluctant to actually build a bond, but maybe it's just me :yeshrug:

People are so used to creating and presenting a persona via the distance of a screen that an actual connection, real intimacy and seeing you as you are, unedited scares most people because they are in love with the image that they want others to so desperately believe.

What I wonder is did the net cause this sickness or was it always ticking away under the surface of man and finally found a socially sanctioned form of expression? Either way the implications of all of this are immense as we're getting a window into the mental health of most of the world and its messed up.

Whats even more interesting is the few demographs that aren't all up on the Gram are actually the happiest because they have a true social network, genuine connection and kinship whereas everyone else runs after a digital equivalent that will always be lacking because it simply attempts to copy the outer with no concept of the inner.
 

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People are so used to creating and presenting a persona via the distance of a screen that an actual connection, real intimacy and seeing you as you are, unedited scares most people because they are in love with the image that they want others to so desperately believe.

What I wonder is did the net cause this sickness or was it always ticking away under the surface of man and finally found a socially sanctioned form of expression? Either way the implications of all of this are immense as we're getting a window into the mental health of most of the world and its messed up.

Whats even more interesting is the few demographs that aren't all up on the Gram are actually the happiest because they have a true social network, genuine connection and kinship whereas everyone else runs after a digital equivalent that will always be lacking because it simply attempts to copy the outer with no concept of the inner.
people don't know how to be their true selves. Not even me, because the older i get, the more BS i see with people and the more ego i'm exposed to which makes me have to expose mine as well or put up a fake wall and interact on a different level, or just not do it at all and be addicted to the internet all day wit nikkas who I perceive truly do understand me :mjcry:
 

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Interesting thread

I’ve never been able to build relationships on forums for alot of the same reasons in this thread. It’s all fake to me and emotionally investing in avatars I’ll never meet in real life feels like a waste of energy.

I dont feel like Im part of a community here and Im cool with that. This place has alot of genuine weirdos and Im embarrassed that Im a member sometimes but theres enough fukkery/interesting content to keep me coming back I guess.

I post when I want and keep it moving
 
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