The Introvert Thread

[Soundbwoy]

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[rapdonttweet]

It really is amazing that people are so dumbfounded that someone would rather ignore them completely than go out of their way to talk to them...that they try to chalk it up as a dysfunction or social awkwardness.

There's people out there that just don't care how your day was, or what's the weather like. And they won't pretend to just for the sake of talking to you.

One thing about introverts is you usually know where you stand with them, they won't put the effort in to bs.

Its amazing that there are people who don't understand that the behavior you just described is called being rude and self-absorbed. You being one of them.

 

[Coco Loco]

For those who are confused or need clarification.

10 Myths/Facts About Introverts

Myth #1 – Introverts don’t like to talk.
This is not true. Introverts just don’t talk unless they have something to say. They hate small talk. Get an introvert talking about something they are interested in, and they won’t shut up for days.

Myth #2 – Introverts are shy.
Shyness has nothing to do with being an Introvert. Introverts are not necessarily afraid of people. What they need is a reason to interact. They don’t interact for the sake of interacting. If you want to talk to an Introvert, just start talking. Don’t worry about being polite.

Myth #3 – Introverts are rude.
Introverts often don’t see a reason for beating around the bush with social pleasantries. They want everyone to just be real and honest. Unfortunately, this is not acceptable in most settings, so Introverts can feel a lot of pressure to fit in, which they find exhausting.

Myth #4 – Introverts don’t like people.
On the contrary, Introverts intensely value the few friends they have. They can count their close friends on one hand. If you are lucky enough for an introvert to consider you a friend, you probably have a loyal ally for life. Once you have earned their respect as being a person of substance, you’re in.

Myth #5 – Introverts don’t like to go out in public.
Nonsense. Introverts just don’t like to go out in public FOR AS LONG. They also like to avoid the complications that are involved in public activities. They take in data and experiences very quickly, and as a result, don’t need to be there for long to “get it.” They’re ready to go home, recharge, and process it all. In fact, recharging is absolutely crucial for Introverts.

Myth #6 – Introverts always want to be alone.
Introverts are perfectly comfortable with their own thoughts. They think a lot. They daydream. They like to have problems to work on, puzzles to solve. But they can also get incredibly lonely if they don’t have anyone to share their discoveries with. They crave an authentic and sincere connection with ONE PERSON at a time.

Myth #7 – Introverts are weird.
Introverts are often individualists. They don’t follow the crowd. They’d prefer to be valued for their novel ways of living. They think for themselves and because of that, they often challenge the norm. They don’t make most decisions based on what is popular or trendy.

Myth #8 – Introverts are aloof nerds.
Introverts are people who primarily look inward, paying close attention to their thoughts and emotions. It’s not that they are incapable of paying attention to what is going on around them, it’s just that their inner world is much more stimulating and rewarding to them.

Myth #9 – Introverts don’t know how to relax and have fun.
Introverts typically relax at home or in nature, not in busy public places. Introverts are not thrill seekers and adrenaline junkies. If there is too much talking and noise going on, they shut down. Their brains are too sensitive to the neurotransmitter called Dopamine. Introverts and Extroverts have different dominant neuro-pathways. Just look it up.

Myth #10 – Introverts can fix themselves and become Extroverts.
Introverts cannot “fix themselves” and deserve respect for their natural temperament and contributions to the human race. In fact, one study (Silverman, 1986) showed that the percentage of Introverts increases with IQ.

 

[Screwface Exchange]

INFP the test said, but no clue wha dat means bout me

 

[Dafunkdoc_Unlimited]

INFP the test said, but no clue wha dat means bout me

INFPs, more than other iNtuitive Feeling types, are focused on making the world a better place for people. Their primary goal is to find out their meaning in life. What is their purpose? How can they best serve humanity in their lives? They are idealists and perfectionists, who drive themselves hard in their quest for achieving the goals they have identified for themselves

INFPs are highly intuitive about people. They rely heavily on their intuitions to guide them, and use their discoveries to constantly search for value in life. They are on a continuous mission to find the truth and meaning underlying things. Every encounter and every piece of knowledge gained gets sifted through the INFP's value system, and is evaluated to see if it has any potential to help the INFP define or refine their own path in life. The goal at the end of the path is always the same - the INFP is driven to help people and make the world a better place.

Generally thoughtful and considerate, INFPs are good listeners and put people at ease. Although they may be reserved in expressing emotion, they have a very deep well of caring and are genuinely interested in understanding people. This sincerity is sensed by others, making the INFP a valued friend and confidante. An INFP can be quite warm with people he or she knows well.

INFPs do not like conflict, and go to great lengths to avoid it. If they must face it, they will always approach it from the perspective of their feelings. In conflict situations, INFPs place little importance on who is right and who is wrong. They focus on the way that the conflict makes them feel, and indeed don't really care whether or not they're right. They don't want to feel badly. This trait sometimes makes them appear irrational and illogical in conflict situations. On the other hand, INFPs make very good mediators, and are typically good at solving other people's conflicts, because they intuitively understand people's perspectives and feelings, and genuinely want to help them.

INFPs are flexible and laid-back, until one of their values is violated. In the face of their value system being threatened, INFPs can become aggressive defenders, fighting passionately for their cause. When an INFP has adopted a project or job which they're interested in, it usually becomes a "cause" for them. Although they are not detail-oriented individuals, they will cover every possible detail with determination and vigor when working for their "cause".

When it comes to the mundane details of life maintenance, INFPs are typically completely unaware of such things. They might go for long periods without noticing a stain on the carpet, but carefully and meticulously brush a speck of dust off of their project booklet.

INFPs do not like to deal with hard facts and logic. Their focus on their feelings and the Human Condition makes it difficult for them to deal with impersonal judgment. They don't understand or believe in the validity of impersonal judgment, which makes them naturally rather ineffective at using it. Most INFPs will avoid impersonal analysis, although some have developed this ability and are able to be quite logical. Under stress, it's not uncommon for INFPs to mis-use hard logic in the heat of anger, throwing out fact after (often inaccurate) fact in an emotional outburst.

INFPs have very high standards and are perfectionists. Consequently, they are usually hard on themselves, and don't give themselves enough credit. INFPs may have problems working on a project in a group, because their standards are likely to be higher than other members' of the group. In group situations, they may have a "control" problem. The INFP needs to work on balancing their high ideals with the requirements of every day living. Without resolving this conflict, they will never be happy with themselves, and they may become confused and paralyzed about what to do with their lives.

INFPs are usually talented writers. They may be awkard and uncomfortable with expressing themselves verbally, but have a wonderful ability to define and express what they're feeling on paper. INFPs also appear frequently in social service professions, such as counselling or teaching. They are at their best in situations where they're working towards the public good, and in which they don't need to use hard logic.

INFPs who function in their well-developed sides can accomplish great and wonderful things, which they will rarely give themselves credit for. Some of the great, humanistic catalysts in the world have been INFPs.​

 

[Seea]

INTJ.



Most of my percentage is in the Intuition category.

 

[Screwface Exchange]

Thanks Funkdoc for that insight, minus da save da planet stuff in da 1st paragraph, that really sounds like me n my struggles.

 

[Based Lord Zedd]

Its amazing that there are people who don't understand that the behavior you just described is called being rude and self-absorbed. You being one of them.

It's only considered rude because it's different than typical behavior. Most people are extroverted, so introverts often get labeled as rude, self-absorbed, arrogant, etc. Just because people don't get it. There's a ton of people who's initial impression of me was that I felt I was too good for them, just cause they couldn't figure out I'm not the type to go out of my way to befriend you.

Me actually being rude would be coming up to you and pretending to care, having a fake conversation with you. Asking you how your day is or how your kids are while inside I'm thinking Hilariously enough a lot of people would probably prefer that to no conversation at all.

Probably the most important thing for you to understand is that it doesn't really matter if you consider it rude. I'm not going to fake interest or make small talk to you just to be polite.

 

[Dafunkdoc_Unlimited]

INTJs are the most self-confident of all types, having "self-power" awareness. Found in about 1 percent of the general population, the INTJs live in an introspective reality, focusing on possibilities, using thinking in the form of empirical logic, and preferring that events and people serve some positive use. Decisions come naturally to INTJs' once a decision is made, INTJs are at rest. INTJs look to the future rather than the past, and a word which captures the essence of INTJs is builder-a builder of systems and the applier of theoretical models.

To INTJs authority based on position, rank, title, or publication has absolutely no force. This type is not likely to succumb to the magic of slogans, watchwords, or shibboleths. If an idea or position makes sense to an INTJ, it will be adopted, if it doesn't, it won't, regardless of who took the position or generated the idea. As with the INTP, authority per se does not impress the INTJ.

INTJs do, however, tend to conform to rules if they are useful, not because they believe in them, or because they make sense, but because of their unique view of reality. They are the supreme pragmatists, who see reality as something which is quite arbitrary and made up. Thus it can be used as a tool-or ignored. Reality is quite malleable and can be changed, conquered, or brought to heel. Reality is a crucible for the refining of ideas, and in this sense, INTJs are the most theoretical of all the types. Where an ESTP sees ideas as the pawn of reality, an INTJ sees reality as the pawn of ideas: No idea is too far-fetched to be entertained. INTJs are natural brainstormers, always open to new concepts and, in fact, aggressively seeking them.

INTJs manipulate the world of theory as if on a gigantic chess board, always seeking strategies and tactics that have high payoff. In their penchant for logic, the INTJs resemble the INTPs. The logic of an INTJ, however, is not confined to the expressible logical. Unlike INTPs, INTJs need only to have a vague, intuitive impression of the unexpressed logic of a system to continue surely on their way. Things need only seem logical; this is entirely sufficient. Moreover, they always have a keen eye for the consequence of the application of new ideas or positions. They can be quite ruthless in the implementation of systems, seldom counting personal cost in terms of time and energy. Theories which cannot be made to work are quickly discarded by the INTJs.

To understand INTJs, their way of dealing with ideas should be observed closely. Their conscious thought is extraverted and empirical. Hence, they are better at generalizing, classifying, summarizing, adducing evidence, proving, and demonstrating than are the INTPs. The INTJs are somewhat less at home with pure reason, that is, systemic logic, where principles are explicit. In this respect they resemble the ENTJs. The INTJs, rather than using deductive logic, use their intuition to grasp coherence.

 

[Wally West]

This video described me to a tee... I've been a INTJ for my whole life yo

:godson: Good video

I took the test and got the same personality type and found the same video..its so accurate I sent it to my wife...I'm sure she'll get a good laugh out of it

 

[rapdonttweet]

It's only considered rude because it's different than typical behavior. Most people are extroverted, so introverts often get labeled as rude, self-absorbed, arrogant, etc. Just because people don't get it. There's a ton of people who's initial impression of me was that I felt I was too good for them, just cause they couldn't figure out I'm not the type to go out of my way to befriend you.

Me actually being rude would be coming up to you and pretending to care, having a fake conversation with you. Asking you how your day is or how your kids are while inside I'm thinking Hilariously enough a lot of people would probably prefer that to no conversation at all.

Probably the most important thing for you to understand is that it doesn't really matter if you consider it rude. I'm not going to fake interest or make small talk to you just to be polite.

Its not considered rude, it IS rude.

"Rudeness (also called impudence or effrontery) is a display of disrespect by not complying with the social "laws" or etiquette of a group or culture. These laws have been established as the essential boundaries of normally accepted behavior. To be unable or unwilling to align one's behavior with these laws known to the general population of what is socially acceptable is to be rude."

Also I don't think you understand the difference between starting a fake conversation and being socially aware enough to respond to people. If someone is talking to you, its considered rude to ignore them or to avoid conversation. And it isn't just with strangers, intros will do this with their own friends. Which brings up another point, if someone is considered your friend, how the hell could you not be interested in what they have to say? That's a fake friendship if anything, since you'll only do activities or have conversations that revolve around your interests. See what I'm talking about? Completely self-absorbed behavior at its finest.

 

[CBSkyline]

I wasn't expecting this many INTJ's

We in here

 

[Based Lord Zedd]

Also I don't think you understand the difference between starting a fake conversation and being socially aware enough to respond to people. If someone is talking to you, its considered rude to ignore them or to avoid conversation. And it isn't just with strangers, intros will do this with their own friends. Which brings up another point, if someone is considered your friend, how the hell could you not be interested in what they have to say? That's a fake friendship if anything, since you'll only do activities or have conversations that revolve around your interests. See what I'm talking about? Completely self-absorbed behavior at its finest.

You're making up things. I never said anything about ignoring people who are trying to talk to you. I was talking about not going out of your way to initiate conversation with someone unless you have something you want to talk about.

You seem to have this weird idea that apparently: if you talk to an introverted person they're just going to stare into space because they're so rude and self-absorbed.

And as for the bolded, what's one of the main reasons people become friends? Oh, because they share common interests. So the majority of the activities or conversations you have with your friends are going to revolve around your own common interests. Because they match up with the people you hang around. Who hangs out with people they don't have anything in common with...and does things with those people they have 0 interest in? That doesn't make sense introvert or extrovert.

 

[rapdonttweet]

You're making up things. I never said anything about ignoring people who are trying to talk to you. I was talking about not going out of your way to initiate conversation with someone unless you have something you want to talk about.

I don't think that's introversion. I don't do that either unless I'm trying to make a new friend. No one's expecting you to initiate conversations with random people. At the same time you shouldn't be avoiding it either.

You seem to have this weird idea that apparently: if you talk to an introverted person they're just going to stare into space because they're so rude and self-absorbed.

I've talked with introverts. Many times its frustrating to have a conversation with someone who won't engage.

And as for the bolded, what's one of the main reasons people become friends? Oh, because they share common interests. So the majority of the activities or conversations you have with your friends are going to revolve around your own common interests. Because they match up with the people you hang around. Who hangs out with people they don't have anything in common with...and does things with those people they have 0 interest in? That doesn't make sense introvert or extrovert.

Just because you have something in common with someone doesn't mean you have everything in common or even most things in common. Hey, you may have nothing in common and just like talking to them.

 

[Ski Mask]

Being introverted and having social anxiety = bad combination.