The joys of dating an up front woman.

[Neuromancer]

i was talking about my specific situation

good luck

Oh you said it won't last breh, were you addressing yourself?

 

[ABlackMan]

It's actually refreshing when a bytch is actually brave and tells the truth.

My ex provide this for me but she my ex for a reason. We just in touch because we know each other and up front. It’s a great transfer of energy back and forth

 

[Abstract83]

its inevitable breh....if she's even mildly attractive her numbers are gonna be up there UNLESS you find that rare one that has only been with cats she was in a serious relationship with....

if she one of these chicks that 'date' a lot....

get ready for football numbers

She damn near a dime so im not surprised. She wanna be serious with me. Tryna talk everyday etc. I said we can be cool for now. Meanwhile im hollering at other chicks. They're kinda boring. But ol girl personality is off the chain. Thats why im not gonna cut her out yet.

 

[skeetsinternal]

My ex provide this for me but she my ex for a reason. We just in touch because we know each other and up front. It’s a great transfer of energy back and forth

Yup

 

[Claudex]

Women focus more on what they have to lose because they're the only ones who really have something to lose!

Lets say maybe

spending $100 on a date > sleeping with a stranger with unknown intentions.

Are you saying after 3 dates women should feel trustful enough to have sex with a new guy?

I'd imagine one would like paying for dates if you actually like the person you've invited and want to put your best foot forward?

Like gift giving for example, it's fun if you like the person so you imagine what would bring them joy etc./things y'all can do together to get to know each other more....

I guess it would be different if my expectations were more in the line of, "hopefully getting some sex out of this!".

I'd be more inclined to split the bill if it's a date stemming from maybe online dating/apps as you don't know the person at all vs. someone that a friend introduced you to/someone from work/social gatherings.

Like the kind of date where you pick the woman up from her home and then go out, splitting the bill would seem ridiculous to me.

Meeting someone somewhere from tinder/any other random dating site would make more sense to split the bill.

If your base premise is that men have less to lose than women then I don't really know what to tell you brehette. My base premise is that both genders have something to lose, in wildly different arenas sure, but the premise stands. Men and women analyze each other during a date. Women bounce back in some areas (long term, usually), men bounce back in other areas (short term, usually).

Thus I'm saying, after three dates a woman should know if having sex with a guy is a good move or nah. Personally, I feel like if there's any level of discomfort or distrust on the third date then a woman should be adult enough to just shut shyt down, but that's just me.

Unto your other point "I'd imagine one would like paying for dates if you actually like the person you've invited" this is a shakey premise because of what you yourself already said: "on a date both sides are strangers to each other". It's not just the guy that's a stranger to the girl, the girl is a stranger to the guy too, so the question that begs to be asked is: "who the hell likes paying another stranger's lunch/dinner?". The real "liking the other person" part only comes after the campaign season ends, wouldn't you agree?

You also said something about putting the best foot forward, which I wholeheartedly agree with, but that's a tolerable and tactile action with a specific end in mind. There's no real "like" involved because you really don't know the other person.

As for gift giving, in my opinion, it's only fun when you're either doing it for someone you care about (a friend, a family member, a romantic partner...) or if you're doing it for charity (for a cause, or for those in need). The act of gifting a dinner date to someone you barely know and is most likely not even in need and wouldn't gift you the same (specially if her feelings dwindle during the date), it's borderline illogical. Think about it. Equating paying for dates to gifting isn't the move here, imo.

Lastly, this is purely a discussion, I do not expect you or most women to just be out here splitting bills on dates. shyt I've payed for dates that went nowhere before, it's just part of the game. I ain't trynna change shyt, I'm just trying to see the thought process behind the shyt with you.