My mother has passed. She was surrounded by all of us who loved her. She lasted seven hours off of life support, she was a fighter.
When the doctor told us my mother was in a vegetative state that she'd never come back from. It was hard for me to look at my mother, it was hard to rationalize that she was physically here, but gone mentally. I soldiered through and held her hand until she went. I realized that she was mother always and I known we were doing what was right as she did the same for her mother.
I want to thank Thecoli not just for the last few days but the whole year. Before I could join I lurked and all your threads helped me get through this even if yours flopped or you got negged I probably read it, so thanks. I got a lot of supporting messages from posters I didn't think would be so kind, so I know all of you have a heart.
If I could give any worthwhile advice back. Final words don't matter, my mother wanted to live and her final words reflected that, spend time with your mother, father anyone that matters to you. Talk about the possibilities of having to free them or yourselves and yours or their wishes. I gave my mother as much time as I could so I have no regrets with us it was always what's understood doesn't need to be explained, but I still told her I loved her.