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TrebleMan

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Understand that you really don't know shyt and can't account for everything - don't beat yourself up over the mistakes. We're all trying to figure this out.

Even if you're a professional/expert at your line of work there are always variables that you didn't plan for and shyt other people do that are out of your control. It's why two people can do the same thing and get very different results. It's also why some people can go off the hinge and still come out on top over everyone else.

Life is unpredictable and sometimes there's no sense blaming yourself when things don't go the way you want it to. Even somebody you trust who's been 100% reliable on a subject in the past can make a mistake on the same subject and fukk the whole day up.

It's really what it means when people say "I know that I don't know" and why folks say "life isn't personal" because there are too many variables.

Just make decisions based on what you know now (in the present moment), because you'll know more later. For my computer science brehs it's like compile time errors and runtime errors - even if you think you plan for everything, your users will use your apps in ways you never saw coming.

tl;dr: Be you.
 
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You place too much value on people's opinions. Caring too much about life is not healthy mentally. You have to accept that you can't control life. But you can control your emotions and how you react too life.

Everything doesn't deserve your emotional distress. Don't stress bout no female cause they gonna do what the fukk they wanna do. Do stress some dude cause they not worth impressing. You have to live for yourself and not validation.
Facts. I can't afford to stress over trivial shyt that I see. I just need to meditate more, and get my mind right
March to your own beat. No matter who tells you different, just be who you are. A lot of people don't get you because you aren't the 'norm' they are bothered that you are not what the stardards want you to be. When they are checking for you for doing your thing and openly hating on you; they're mad cause they dont have the confidence to do it themselves.

This is something I have delt with at my job. bytches loved to talk shyt cause I dress a certain way & im so random. But my personality will light up a room. I'm humble and a very delightful person. I wear bright colors and some feel as a dark skinned chick that I shouldn't. But I do it anyway so I can be seen from afar. I am fabulous & they will deal.
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these are the facts.

Some things you probably hear all the time, but don't really listen too.


Take your time aka pace yourself. It's a marathon not a race. The goal is to finish not finish 1st neccerily.


Live by some kind of principle. A lot of people now just live with no type of principle or moral. You need to have something that is a personal anchor for you.

Otherwise you are bound to follow, do, and try anything with no true sense of center.



Life is about how hard you can get hit and keep going. Everyone is going to take L's no amount of planning is going to get you out of that. Learn from your mistakes and look at yourself and your actions as objectively as possible.
my main principle is to to work hard and pursue something that lets me be free creatively.

Say whatever you feel and always be honest. Don't sugar coat shyt for people they will respect you more when you say how you feel.

The worst crime you can ever do in life is lie to yourself. Always me honest with yourself.

Read a book at least once a month.

Listen to your instincts.

Always do what your inner voice tells you because it won't lead you astray
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Never let someone else determine your worth. Take pride in yourself and put yourself on a pedestal.
This. Definitely this. You are the prize.
If no one else loves you, love yourself.

Took me awhile to get this.
 

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The absolute most important thing in my life is to NOT TAKE ANYTHING PERSONALLY.

No matter what anyone says be it good or negative don't take it to heart....let that shyt roll off your back....but here's the kicker

DONT EVEN TAKE WHAT YOU TELL YOURSELF PERSONALLY!!!!

We tend to believe the shyt we tell ourselves about ourself...don't believe that dumb shyt in ur head

Always realize that we should be even kill and not be too sad or too happy...let your emotions ring true for you but get over them shyts quick and get back to work:yeshrug:
 

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Have a nice little side savings just for investing. Let's say a few thousand dollars that if you lose, it would suck but it wouldn't hurt you.
Invest in stocks and also buy a cryptocoin

Date and have fun but try and concentrate on your career and money.
I'd put off having kids and marriage until you're financially stable, but if you have a great day one or excellent prospect, its okay to make that commitment. (Sorry #GMB.)
Having children is a blessing but it might be more feasible to wait until yall have gotten some things out the system and can afford it.

Save.

Find a backup plan job/career wise or try and eventually look to start your own business.
If you have any other interests or hobbies, see if you can make money from them.
The job market is changing rapidly... what you think is a job that you can retire from may be obsolete a few years from now.

Not to sound like a square but, keep your vices to a minimum.
Try to chill on drinking and smoking. You'll notice that you'll have a little more money at the end of the day.
And it always won't be priorities in life either.

If youre right out of college, buy a decent used car, hopefully with cash, and push that for a few years.
Keep it clean and you should be alright.

401K/ Roth IRA
Buy property or land

Save.

Read. Workout. Water
 
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Alright some small and big tips to think about:

- Learn to invest asap
- More money = more freedom and not more money = more problems, responsibility. If it's the latter you're doing it wrong
- Don't sleep with your smartphone or use your smartphone just before bed
- Don't use your smartphone when you're waking up (for 30 minutes or 1 hour)
- Buy one of these . Yes laugh now but thank me later
- Stop watching TV-sows if you haven't already
- Ditch your smartphone (if you can of course)
- Drink green smoothies (most people do not consume enough Minerals an Vitamins) Why do you need them? Well they make sure your body functions properly. Let's just say if you don't consume them each day you have a higher chance of getting cancer or another terrible disease in about 30 - 40 years.
- Cut added sugar as much as possible
- Buy a vertical mouse (you don't want RSI when you're 30 - 40)
- Don't be this guy. That will fukk up your neck, back and basically everything when you're doing it long enough
- Exercise at least 2 times a week
- Keep your posture in check when you have a seated job. An anterior pelvic tilt for example can creep in really easily
- Understand that there will always be problems, perfection is hardly ever obtained. The goal is to continually strive for it though and make progress
- Always set goals. Did you achieve you're goal? Nice good for you celebrate a little and move on to the next goal
- Never be a yes man/pushover/insecure person. It will eat you from the inside which is way worse than speaking your mind and saying what YOU want
- Fix yourself first before trying to fix/help others
- Keep you're room clean, always.
- If you find yourself in a complete nihilistic world-view. Know that it's meaningless suffering and you have to choose for yourself if you want that.
- Having kids is a major assignment. Please don't have them if you don't have your shyt together. They will NOT make you happy,
- Buy a watch with a stop-watch timer on it that goes longer than 1 hour. Like this one. Why? to time yourself, how long does it take to do a certain objective? Can you do it faster? This will make it easier to test it
- Know what you want in life. If you don't have a plan, someone else has a use for you in there plan.
- Understand that working 9-5 is a choice
- Learn to negotiate.
- If you say you're going to do something, do it.
- Know yourself. If you're introverted it's perhaps not the best idea to go into sales. It will wear you out
- Don't listen to your parents, the government or friends
- Do listen to your parents, the government or friends
- Know that everyone wants something
- The most valuable asset it time
- Create systems for continuous problems. Like storing paper, working out, eating healthy.
- Don't take drugs
- Cut the alcohol
- Try to have as few liabilities as possible
- Success has different meanings for everyone. There is no factbased succes. The Hollywood view of success is not a hard fact, just opinion based

Note that everything above is my opinion/view. If you don't agree that's fine.
 
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Always choose forgiveness. No matter how much that person hurt you or did you wrong.... know that your healing is vital to your personal growth and development. Healing does not occur without forgiveness and moving on from the past.

Now, don't get me wrong.... forgiveness isn't easy and doesn't come natural at all. But one must make the conscious choice to let go of the pain and forgive whomever hurt them in order to be free. In order to be their best selves.

Along with forgiving others.... you must always forgive yourself for the mistakes you made, your contribution to the matter, etc. you must have self compassion and not beat yourself up for the past.

And always know life occurs in cycles.... nothing lasts forever.... always get up when you fall and know struggles do pass.

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The absolute most important thing in my life is to NOT TAKE ANYTHING PERSONALLY.

No matter what anyone says be it good or negative don't take it to heart....let that shyt roll off your back....but here's the kicker

DONT EVEN TAKE WHAT YOU TELL YOURSELF PERSONALLY!!!!

We tend to believe the shyt we tell ourselves about ourself...don't believe that dumb shyt in ur head

Always realize that we should be even kill and not be too sad or too happy...let your emotions ring true for you but get over them shyts quick and get back to work:yeshrug:

Amazing advice!! Once you separate yourself from the actions of others, from the shyt that happens to you, and realize a lot of shyt in life isn't personal... the shyt is freeing.
 
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