The Official Parenting Thread

[Uptown WaYo87]

any of ya put ya kids into MMA/BJJ? whats ya thought on that? Me and my girl already talking about putting our daughter into this when shes old enough. I really dont want her to be bullied but i dont think that would be a problem, my girl is feisty as fukk already as it is (shes half black/half PR )

anyway besides that i think its something that would show her discipline and know how to defend herself. its a tough world out here for a female espicially living in new york city..i always think of that kid cudi line in just what i am where he goes "We’re all troubled, in a world of trouble, It’s scary to have a kid walk this Earth"..cause shyt it really is

 

[BrothaZay]

My son started playin football this fall

If hes as good as I was, he might make somethin out of it

I still prefer basketball for him tho

 

[Raava]

Could you choice him in?

Yea a magnet program. I will look some up and and then talk to his dad about it when I have a list made out.

 

[Raava]

The way I see it, someone has to take action. I'm sure the bully isn't missing assignments or getting bad grades but my daughter is. Also it's more than one student I believe. It's been numerous occasions where she's came home and told me about a kid messing with her and she defends herself (after telling the teacher) but she's still getting in trouble.

They switched her teacher but the issue still persists. Like I said she's quiet and soft spoken (almost in a baby voice) when she's around people she's not familiar with. Her teacher told me yesterday during the phone call that she shuts down completely when being put in the spotlight from someone telling on her (which usually happens after the kid has bothered her first).

What I don't understand is why, when the teacher clearly sees what is going on, why is she the one getting in trouble? This is just encouraging the bully. Is there a way you can find out who they are? Will your daughter tell you? Is there a way to be mature and talk to parents? Smh my parents had a simular problem with a bullying situation with my older brother when he stood up for himself. They wanted to suspend my brother:

One time my bro was getting bullied, the school never did anything. So my parents told him to fight back. The school tried to suspend him . My daddy went up to the school, the principle tried to tell him school policy blah blah blah. My dad was like "So my son can't defend himself? Ok, so what would you do, if I reached over this desk and knocked you upside the head?" No suspension, no more bullying. I love my dad.

Sigh you can't do that I guess. We were all quiet and shy (my siblings and I). The only thing that stopped it was standing up for ourselves. It took a long time for me to be able to do it and I only had to worry about what happened outside of class. I feel for the situation if just seems like they aren't doing anything.

 

[Raava]

Breh, please take pictures of your kid every day. It's amazing how their appearance change from week to week. I started taking pics and videos of him the moment he came out the oven.

1 minute Old

3 Days Old

Last Week at the office

Awwww!!

 

[Amy Traphouse]

What I don't understand is why, when the teacher clearly sees what is going on, why is she the one getting in trouble? This is just encouraging the bully. Is there a way you can find out who they are? Will your daughter tell you? Is there a way to be mature and talk to parents? Smh my parents had a simular problem with a bullying situation with my older brother when he stood up for himself. They wanted to suspend my brother:






Sigh you can't do that I guess. We were all quiet and shy (my siblings and I). The only thing that stopped it was standing up for ourselves. It took a long time for me to be able to do it and I only had to worry about what happened outside of class. I feel for the situation if just seems like they aren't doing anything.

She was suspended last year for fighting a little girl who was pushing her while on a field trip. That was the result of me telling her to stand up for herself (and I didn't punish her either for fighting back).

I'm to take your advice and have a sit down with the teacher and the parent of the other child(ren). Hopefully they are mature and not some ghetto hoodrat.

 

[Raava]

She was suspended last year for fighting a little girl who was pushing her while on a field trip. That was the result of me telling her to stand up for herself (and I didn't punish her either for fighting back).

I'm to take your advice and have a sit down with the teacher and the parent of the other child(ren). Hopefully they are mature and not some ghetto hoodrat.

Sadly a lot of administrators will let that kind of thing go on unless you act a fool, for your child. They let bullies get away with murder and then punish the victim when they stand up for themselves. I suggest also documenting everything bullying incidents, teacher calls, talks with the principle, etc.. . So if it comes to a point they try to suspend/expel her or something you have a case for them or even the board. If you want her to stay there. They will run over people if they think they can.

 

[Mr. Somebody]

any of ya put ya kids into MMA/BJJ? whats ya thought on that? Me and my girl already talking about putting our daughter into this when shes old enough. I really dont want her to be bullied but i dont think that would be a problem, my girl is feisty as fukk already as it is (shes half black/half PR )

anyway besides that i think its something that would show her discipline and know how to defend herself. its a tough world out here for a female espicially living in new york city..i always think of that kid cudi line in just what i am where he goes "We’re all troubled, in a world of trouble, It’s scary to have a kid walk this Earth"..cause shyt it really is

You want to find a friendly environment where parents arent taking it to seriously and the coaches are all friendly and fun, friend. Also, you have to really be mindful about what is being taught to your child because essentially, friend, they're being taught to kill/break other people so you have to really make sure the teacher and yourself are able to convey this level of responsibility into your child. Personally i wont be teaching my son any locks and chokes until his last year of elementary school. Until then its boxing and wrestling but no submissions and thats coming from a bjj brown belt.

Many parents come to BJJ academies mad at the coaches because their kids go to school, get in a fight and end up breaking a kids arm, choking a kid to sleep or putting a knee on his belly and punching him in the face until his teeth get knocked out. There is a lot of responsibility in teaching your kid BJJ/MMA so again, be mindful, friend.

 

[twan83]

Looking in to homeschool since the possibility may be very real. My oldest daughter is very quiet and stays to herself which I guess makes her a target for bullying in school. This is the 2nd year a teacher (from a completely different school) has told me she's unable to complete her work because of kids picking on her and her grades are seriously being affected. I guess it's hard for the teacher to focus on one child in a class of 25+ kids and I think homeschool would be the best option for her to succeed academically.

Texas has all the online homeschool programs and plenty of curriculum options so I have plenty to chose from, it's just a matter of finding the best one for both kids.

my son was getting bullied in school and i did exactly this cuz i dont play

i went too the school talked too the principal and teacher said look my son is getting bullied and he said he talked too the teacher bout it. if my son comes home again bout the bullying i will tell him too beat the bully's ass whether u like it or not so u guys better handle it sooner than later or i will and also will go over your heads bout it cuz you guys know damn well bullying is a big deal people getting killed over it

never had a issue again with the bullying

my son can defend himself and handle himself but he wont hit back unless is say so otherwise and the bully kept getting rough with him so i told him u have my permission too do what u need too do u wont get in trouble

not saying what i said is the best advice but i be damned if somebody messing with my kids and people wanna turn a blind eye

 

[MeachTheMonster]

My son is 3 and started playing flag football this summer.

He likes it a lot although most of the time he's not following directions.

My daughter is 7 and started playing violin this year. She's doing really well and the teacher wants to kidnap her and make her into her protege.

It's hard work getting them for school/daycare to their activities everyday, but I know it will be well worth it in the end.

My best advice is to get your kids involved in things like this very early. Kids have a lot of both physical and mental energy so they need outlets like this to keep them balanced.

 

[-G$-]

My son is 3 and started playing flag football this summer.

He likes it a lot although most of the time he's not following directions.

My daughter is 7 and started playing violin this year. She's doing really well and the teacher wants to kidnap her and make her into her protege.

It's hard work getting them for school/daycare to their activities everyday, but I know it will be well worth it in the end.

My best advice is to get your kids involved in things like this very early. Kids have a lot of both physical and mental energy so they need outlets like this to keep them balanced.

my daughter is 2.5 and is actually in the 3's program at her school 5 days a week for 3.5 hours a day. then she is also enrolled in a gymnastics class, a class at a sports facility where they do all types of athletics like tee ball, soccer, flag football etc, and ballet. keep her busy, stimulated and active.

 

[Rawtid]

I've kept my patience long enough. It seem like when the teachers call me to let me know whats going on with her they are a breath away from asking "Can you just shadow her to make sure she does her work". I let them know all the time that when she is at home I let her know what she needs to do and she understands it but it doesn't help when the educator isn't enforcing it at school.

If they can't do what needs to be done (which is what it seems like with these new age passive teachers) then I'll withdraw her and homeschool.

Can you sit with her in class a day a week or something? I think that may help and at least you can get a feel of what's going on. Or do just do a pop up where no one knows you're coming.

 

[Imhotep]

My son is 3 and started playing flag football this summer.

He likes it a lot although most of the time he's not following directions.

My daughter is 7 and started playing violin this year. She's doing really well and the teacher wants to kidnap her and make her into her protege.

It's hard work getting them for school/daycare to their activities everyday, but I know it will be well worth it in the end.

My best advice is to get your kids involved in things like this very early. Kids have a lot of both physical and mental energy so they need outlets like this to keep them balanced.

One of my coworkers with college age kids (all with soccer scholarships) told me her system when they were growing up was one sport, one instrument
Told the kids to pick one of each but they had to stick with it.

 

[Rawtid]

One of my coworkers with college age kids (all with soccer scholarships) told me her system when they were growing up was one sport, one instrument
Told the kids to pick one of each but they had to stick with it.

That's the cheapest way.

 

[MeachTheMonster]

One of my coworkers with college age kids (all with soccer scholarships) told me her system when they were growing up was one sport, one instrument
Told the kids to pick one of each but they had to stick with it.

Yeah that's pretty much what I'm doing. My son is too young to make that decision yet so I'm just putting him in everything I can, to see what sticks.

My daughters done everything from soccer, to T ball to ballet and she settled on violin so we are going hard with it. I bought her a violin and she's sticking with it. It's crazy watching my 7 year old juggle responsibilities like practice and homework, so she can get in some tv time.

Looking back my parents didnt have the opportunity to do this type of stuff with me, nor do I think they understood the importance of it. I think that's where white kids have an inherent advantage. They come from generations of succesful people who understand the importance of introducing kids to these types of thing early. They understand how to get their kids ready for college and how to get the goverment to work for them. Black kids/parents spend so much time just trying to live that they don't have time for anything else.

If we are to break the cycle we must learn and educate ourselves and grow with our children. Don't subscribe to that line of thinking that our parents taught us "shutup, what I say goes" cause you can learn a lot from your children and you need to foster independent thought and healthy communication with them. Don't prevent them from doing stuff, just cause you don't want to clean up, or cause you want them to appear quiet and disciplined, kids need as much freedom as they do structure.

Man I typed a lot and I can go on and on with this stuff raising my family and changing my community is my passion. This is the best thread on the coli