The only thing worse than not having a father...

[LegendZelda325]

Is actually having one who lives with you and doesn't bother with you at all. Thats what life for me was like growing up. My biological father was right there in the house with me and never bothered to play ball with me, never bothered to really talk to me about how I was doing, and never really acknowledged me at all other than to discipline (aka beat me with a belt) me. I can honestly say that actually having my father in my life has hindered my development and growth as a man/human being. Its almost like I got a first row seat at seeing how few fukks my father actually gave about me. And whats worse is that I feel obligated to not even talk to anybody about it because I feel as though I should just be "lucky" that I even had a father seeing as how a lot of black kids don't. Anybody else here that can identify with this issue???

 

[Will Ross]

He must of thought you won't his real son

 

[MikelArteta]

ungrateful
ol lemme have a dad like in a sitcom azz nikka

 

[Bernie Madoff]

Ol kid from liar liar azz

 

[MAKAVELI25]

Is actually having one who lives with you and doesn't bother with you at all. Thats what life for me was like growing up. My biological father was right there in the house with me and never bothered to play ball with me, never bothered to really talk to me about how I was doing, and never really acknowledged me at all other than to discipline (aka beat me with a belt) me. I can honestly say that actually having my father in my life has hindered my development and growth as a man/human being. Its almost like I got a first row seat at seeing how few fukks my father actually gave about me. And whats worse is that I feel obligated to not even talk to anybody about it because I feel as though I should just be "lucky" that I even had a father seeing as how a lot of black kids don't. Anybody else here that can identify with this issue???

If anything, take comfort in the fact that knowing how he made you feel, you can use that knowledge in raising your own kids. Let it fuel you in to being the best father to YOUR OWN children that you can possibly be

 

[BocaRear]

Real shyt op

My pops only came to talk to me when it was time to kick my ass or I needed to clean the house

 

[Trillion]

ungrateful
ol lemme have a dad like in a sitcom azz nikka

nah get outta here with this shyt
nikkas acting like having a dad is the only thing that matters
truth is a man is someone who is a standup dude, a father is a provider protector and a nurturer
with the amount of bytch nikkas out here some kids are better off without a father in their lives to be honest
its like having a bum ass uncle who only smoke weed and play cards what could this nikka teach you?
op's dad is a wasteman and op dont owe him shyt

 

[Nymeria]

Just because your father isn't physically absent doesn't mean he isn't emotionally absent which is just as bad. Your experiences are legitimate, you shouldn't feel like you can't talk about it.

 

[BaldingSoHard]

Is actually having one who lives with you and doesn't bother with you at all. Thats what life for me was like growing up. My biological father was right there in the house with me and never bothered to play ball with me, never bothered to really talk to me about how I was doing, and never really acknowledged me at all other than to discipline (aka beat me with a belt) me. I can honestly say that actually having my father in my life has hindered my development and growth as a man/human being. Its almost like I got a first row seat at seeing how few fukks my father actually gave about me. And whats worse is that I feel obligated to not even talk to anybody about it because I feel as though I should just be "lucky" that I even had a father seeing as how a lot of black kids don't. Anybody else here that can identify with this issue???

My dad was a piece of shyt too but he was a ridiculous provider so I guess he thought he "did enough".

Funny thing he was in the hospital last year after having heart surgery and he basically broke down and apologized for years of being emotionally abusive and a dikk.

Said he was proud of me said I'm gonna be a better father than he will be.

:shrug: So we good now.

 

[MikelArteta]

nah get outta here with this shyt
nikkas acting like having a dad is the only thing that matters
truth is a man is someone who is a standup dude, a father is a provider protector and a nurturer
with the amount of bytch nikkas out here some kids are better off without a father in their lives to be honest
its like having a bum ass uncle who only smoke weed and play cards what could this nikka teach you?
op's dad is a wasteman and op dont owe him shyt

take away the dad and that nikka odesnt grow up in the house he did, nor eat the food he did or the life he did, maybe pops hated mom and just chugged it out for his ungrateful offspring.


my dad didnt pat me on the head and give life lessons between 850-857pm like he was carl winslow, but I would not have this life for all the sacrifices pops made, ill never throw a word of slander his way

 

[Arishok]

This makes me really appreciate my dad even though he can be an ass sometimes

 

[LegendZelda325]

Real shyt op

My pops only came to talk to me when it was time to kick my ass or I needed to clean the house

My whole thing is...if you're going to be more of a hindrance than a help JUST LEAVE!!!! I wish my parents would have divorced because my childhood was nothing but them yelling and fighting on into my teenage years when my father's rage and anger was then directed at me. Beatings, making me stand with my arms out while beating my back with a belt, cornering me (invading my personal space) while he yelled at me to the point of his spit flying into my face. I just feel so fukked up now as an adult in his early 20s. Where is my confidence suppose to come from? So many little things bother me and effect me now because of him.

 

[ba'al]

At least you know what your dad look like. For the longest, I thought me having a dad was a rumor .... But I met my pops back in 2013. He a good guy just him and my momma couldn't work it out.

 

[Aceofspades404]

ungrateful
ol lemme have a dad like in a sitcom azz nikka

if you don't shut up

 

[BocaRear]

My whole thing is...if you're going to be more of a hindrance than a help JUST LEAVE!!!! I wish my parents would have divorced because my childhood was nothing but them yelling and fighting on into my teenage years when my father's rage and anger was then directed at me. Beatings, making me stand with my arms out while beating my back with a belt, cornering me (invading my personal space) while he yelled at me to the point of his spit flying into my face. I just feel so fukked up now as an adult in his early 20s. Where is my confidence suppose to come from? So many little things bother me and effect me now because of him.

Real shyt, the way my pops is so emotionally detached

There's days were we don't even look at each other unless he Tryna kick my ass

Shyt must have fukked me up relationships wise with people. Find it harder to connect with people because of it and I've learnt to just ignore every thing people say to me from him.

It's ok tho breh, we gon be better fathers to our kids. My children gonna know I love them and they can come to me with anything.