Therapist who went viral for TikTok about her black male clients' discusses mental health struggles since the incident

[ignorethis]

Sounds like she struggling with her bills lol

 

[Everythingg]

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Being single and fukking whatever men they're actually attracted to is a better than committing and being loyal to a dude who provides nothing to her.

It’s really not

Back in the day a man didn’t have to check all the boxes to have a loyal wife on their arm…

 

[Astroslik]

What am I missing, sounds like she's an ally from the clip posted. Asking black men to be more emotionally available is not an asinine request. We mock emotional fragility all the time here, so know we have a priblem because a black female therapist addreses it?

Depression is nothing to be mocked. Suicide is very real in the black community, let alone others demographics.

Anyone who dapped your post is smooth brained. Lack critical thinking and nuance, brehs..

 

[ignorethis]

Lol dudes having full blown sports discussion under the post

 

[Uachet]

I'm blacker than your blackest stallion. I'm from one of the worst hoods in Detroit. My earliest childhood memory is a triple homicide. I've been party to or witnessed countless acts that had me on the brink of insanity. Your stats support my stance. You are preaching to the choir.

First, where you grew up has nothing to do with the stats. I grew up in South Central L.A. and West Baltimore, none of that has to do with the actual stats. I also noticed that you avoided identifying your sex.

Now, into the stats:

1. By the latest compilation on Blackdemographics.com in 2009, 552,100 Black men were in prison for all crimes total. Now take that number and divide it by the estimated of population of Black men in 2009 558,100/15,000,000 adult + teenage males (estimated) in the US. The percentage of Black males causing havoc in our communities is about 3-6%.

2. Black Men in the US Financial aggregate stats show that a minor majority of us are in the middle class (+57%), with the majority being productive members of society working Blue collar + White collar (76%) or service jobs (23%).

Now you chose to talk down on my brothers based only on your anecdotal evidence instead of actually looking up the facts. You have accepted the propaganda against your own people because I suspect you are probably a member of the Helion class or someone who has relationships with the Helion class.

What you should realize is that actual stats and studies do not back your personal experience nor the projected negative image of Black men. Instead, it is broadcasted propaganda that depends on those like you to accept without actually taking the time to search for the truth.

Black Male Statistics - BlackDemographics.com

What does the data about Black men in America

blackdemographics.com

 

[TheKongoEmpire]

What am I missing, sounds like she's an ally from the clip posted. Asking black men to be more emotionally available is not an asinine request. We mock emotional fragility all the time here, so know we have a priblem because a black female therapist addreses it?

Depression is nothing to be mocked. Suicide is very real in the black community, let alone others demographics.

You have a lot of women (non-therapists) who file it (our grievances) in a draw somewhere and waiting to use it like a draw-4 Uno card.

 

[Braman]

Not so women can "feel good" but so both parties can have a better quality of relationship, one where both parties can communicate and understand each other's perspectives. This benefits men as much as it benefits women.

Naaaah I think he got it right, it’s clearly biased to speaking/acting in a manner that caters to women

This lil episode is sadly a perfect example of this: Like let me get this straight you have a woman imploring men to essentially be more like women, be more emotional…meanwhile the expert herself is utterly and completely unhinged and can’t contain her emotions

So what they WONT tell you is perhaps our ‘emotional unavailbitly’ isn’t always that. Maybe it’s a bit of discernment, balance, an even flow that women don’t have

So maybe, just maybe, being hyperreactive and constantly in tune with ‘emotions’ ISNT the way to be.

OR…just keep letting these chicks convince you you’re broken and need therapy

 

[Braman]

Black men are not emotionally unavailable.

Thank you. We really need to highlight this bc women are running wild with it, when in actuality this is what happens:

I, a man who’s more than emotionally available, cries at sentimental movies/sports , completely emotionally in tune, but messing with a chick that I don’t want to go ‘there’ with yet. We have sex…NOTHING changes for me emotionally, but now she thinks it’s something it ain’t. So when I’m still not opening up to her at her desired pace, her conclusion: he’s emotionally unavailable

Nah bih, I just don’t fw YOU like that

 

[Matt504]

Naaaah I think he got it right, it’s clearly biased to speaking/acting in a manner that caters to women

This lil episode is sadly a perfect example of this: Like let me get this straight you have a woman imploring men to essentially be more like women, be more emotional…meanwhile the expert herself is utterly and completely unhinged and can’t contain her emotions

So what they WONT tell you is perhaps our ‘emotional unavailbitly’ isn’t always that. Maybe it’s a bit of discernment, balance, an even flow that women don’t have

So maybe, just maybe, being hyperreactive and constantly in tune with ‘emotions’ ISNT the way to be.

OR…just keep letting these chicks convince you you’re broken and need therapy

Check out the original video again, this isn't about speaking or acting in a way that caters to women. She spells it out pretty clearly and even offered up a crude but useful example: "if a bytch is telling you I need you to communicate more, open your fukking mouth". This isn't about catering to women as much as it is about learning to be a better communicator.

She even gets into how most of her male clients don't even have the language to express how they feel, again. I wouldn't characterize being able to feel something and then communicate why I'm feeling that way in detail as "being more like women"

 

[Dwayne_Taylor]

She is full of shyt.

Black men are emotionally unavailable...because that's exactly how Black women like it lol.

The same women telling you to open up will dry up on you the minute you do so.

 

[Braman]

Check out the original video again, this isn't about speaking or acting in a way that caters to women. She spells it out pretty clearly and even offered up a crude but useful example: "if a bytch is telling you I need you to communicate more, open your fukking mouth". This isn't about catering to women as much as it is about learning to be a better communicator.

She even gets into how most of her male clients don't even have the language to express how they feel, again. I wouldn't characterize being able to feel something and then communicate why I'm feeling that way in detail as "being more like women"

Well first she’s WAY too passionate on the topic to be taken seriously as an alleged expert on emotional inteligence….and that would have been my take before we saw her having a literal breakdown

But to her point itself, automatically assuming that bc a woman has a concern means it’s valid, is bias off top A woman can have insecurities or biases and where she needs ‘communication’ is really just a crutch for her need for affirmation and massaging of her insecurities.

Which btw doesn’t mean as a man you won’t have to do that, but point being just bc a woman says ‘communicate’ doesn’t mean theres anything wrong with the man. Some of these women have irrational need for validation. She needs the therapy to fix THAT way more than men need to learn how to communicate

 

[Crayola Coyote]

This dusty bytch is back

 

[Matt504]

Well first she’s WAY too passionate on the topic to be taken seriously as an alleged expert on emotional inteligence….and that would have been my take before we saw her having a literal breakdown

But to her point itself, automatically assuming that bc a woman has a concern means it’s valid, is bias off top A woman can have insecurities or biases and where she needs ‘communication’ is really just a crutch for her need for affirmation and massaging of her insecurities.

Which btw doesn’t mean as a man you won’t have to do that, but point being just bc a woman says ‘communicate’ doesn’t mean theres anything wrong with the man. Some of these women have irrational need for validation. She needs the therapy to fix THAT way more than men need to learn how to communicate

Communicating with someone doesn't necessarily mean agreeing, disagreeing is better than shutting down or not being able to flesh out your thoughts. The shortest path to learning if someone is only seeking communication because they desire validation is...communication. If you arrive at the conclusion that she needs an inordinate amount of validation or therapy, at that point you have enough information to make decisions about the future of the relationship.

 

[pawdalaw]

All that to say you a ho

Get out of your feelings, and articulate yourself little boy.

You're a fukking idiot.

People who go to therapy are making the first step towards opening up. How do you think the men who opened up and put themselves in a position of vulnerability will feel when they see her dogging them out on social media?

How do you think other black men considering therapy will feel?

She works within a profession where trust and confidentiality are paramount. What she did was completely unacceptable and you are pathetic for trying to defend it.

I'm a black man whose been in therapy for the past 4 years. I actually work in the field. I'm a man that can think for myself so a viral video has zero impact on my decision to continue seeking help and being of service to others. There are legal ramifications for a medical professional to disclose any personal information about me. I also get to choose who best serves my needs. You're using the 1 is bad so they all must be argument like cacs do.

Bruh from Detroit talking about Black men are inherently violent

If he's from one of the worst hoods in Detroit he knows these women are ignorant and don't give a fukk too
They might not do as much violence but they don't know how to act and will get someone else to enact violence for them

Bruhs a clown

Talking about he goes to therapy on a weekly basis
Man shut yo p*ssy ass up

Quote the post where I said black men are inherently violent. What I alluded to is a toxic culture embraced by the masses, and the murder rate of black males being unreasonably high for no justifiable reason.

First, where you grew up has nothing to do with the stats. I grew up in South Central L.A. and West Baltimore, none of that has to do with the actual stats. I also noticed that you avoided identifying your sex.

Now, into the stats:

1. By the latest compilation on Blackdemographics.com in 2009, 552,100 Black men were in prison for all crimes total. Now take that number and divide it by the estimated of population of Black men in 2009 558,100/15,000,000 adult + teenage males (estimated) in the US. The percentage of Black males causing havoc in our communities is about 3-6%.

2. Black Men in the US Financial aggregate stats show that a minor majority of us are in the middle class (+57%), with the majority being productive members of society working Blue collar + White collar (76%) or service jobs (23%).

Now you chose to talk down on my brothers based only on your anecdotal evidence instead of actually looking up the facts. You have accepted the propaganda against your own people because I suspect you are probably a member of the Helion class or someone who has relationships with the Helion class.

What you should realize is that actual stats and studies do not back your personal experience nor the projected negative image of Black men. Instead, it is broadcasted propaganda that depends on those like you to accept without actually taking the time to search for the truth.

I told you none of that garbage matters. Are black men killing each other at an alarming rate or no? Answer the question, is it endemic or not? Grasping for straws won't help you. I'm a man that's been in the trenches And I currently work with parolees as a reentry coordinator.

Yall can't have it both ways, there's 1000 threads in the past year about fatherless boys who lack the understanding of what it takes to be a man. a woman repeats it and now it's wrong because yall don't like her delivery.

I'm not dissapointed, it's expected!

 

[Uachet]

I told you none of that garbage matters. Are black men killing each other at an alarming rate or no? Answer the question, is it endemic or not? Grasping for straws won't help you. I'm a man that's been in the trenches And I currently work with parolees as a reentry coordinator.

So what you are saying is the truth does not matter, only your personal experience and feelings do. Ohm, who argues like that a lot? Oh yea, some females argue in this same manner, ignoring what the actual stats state to remain loud about their false narratives. Most of the times, it is the most ignorant of females who do this too. So, what I am getting from you is that you are mentally feminized in your thinking. Unlike a masculine man who would actually seek out the truth and argue with stats against mine, you prefer to argue on feelings and your smidgeon of anecdotal evidence.

Oh and last, I grew up in places just as bad as you during the time period when L.A. gangs were causing so much havoc that they actually made movies about it. I also grew up in Baltimore, a known place that has a significant violent crime problem. Still, none of that changes the fact that it is 3-6% of Black men who are participating in that world. Which you have also proven that you are one of them. Not everyone chose to live a life like yours, in fact most Brothers do not. So enough with your BS blanket statements about Black men, when really it is just you and those like you that are causing the problems within our communities.

In the trenches, lol like you were an actual Veteran of War. You were just an ignorant boy who chose a negative path in life and is finally trying to do something about it. Some of use did not choose that path, and have been helping others out of it without having to have been a contributor to the havoc first.