shyt gave me this stupid ass mental image of random women beating down our doors demanding a piece of dikk
There are TWICE as many single men than women - Black men are impacted the hardest - Ages 18 - 29
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shyt gave me this stupid ass mental image of random women beating down our doors demanding a piece of dikk
The Devil's Advocate
Call me Dad
Jesus y’all still on this. How many bars and clubs and events in your town? The d boys at all of them? Where y’all live? BMF land.How many 9 to 5 men can be out doing that extroverted shyt like buying out the club or sections EVERY NIGHT?
Its both expensive and exhausting.
I mean what the fukk. I’m sure the d boys is not buying out the bar and taking all 50-100 women home every night. When the hell are they selling the drugs?
I also know a 9-5 leaves plenty of time on Thursday to Sunday to stop by an establishment for 2 hours or more and have some drinks
Again. Focused on the men. And trying to get something with no effort. Take your ass outside
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Superstar
Listen I know a chick RIGHT NOW who damn near exclusively dates BUM-adjacent nikkas on purpose. They can't be unemployed or completely broke but everything else about their lives could be in shambles and she'll go "HIM! THAT'S WHO I WANT!!111!1!" Multiple baby mamas and felonies, addiction issues, child support deep in arears, boots on their car, the whole nine. And this lady makes six figures working in finance, owns several properties, is slim thick and very much IN SHAPE, don't wear nor needs to wear makeup, etc. Any man with a good head on his shoulders would be checking for her (and they do) but any time a nikka who's on his purpose comes near her she runs. Then here come the excuses.
What I've peeped is it's not even a control issue for her. The bytch just has low self-esteem and feels like a fraud who don't deserve shyt so she's most comfortable with men with some ain't shytness to em. Bums don't see her weakness and zoom in, she seeks them out. And she's far from an anomaly.
The bottom line is some women 100% date bums and losers because they feel like they're bummy loser bytches themselves for whatever reasons and it's simple as that.
Imposter syndrome is a serious issue in the black community, amongst both black men and women.
Too many successful men feel like frauds unless they have some type of “struggle” to talk about.
Too many successful women feel like frauds unless they have some type of L&HH/Power type of drama in their lives.
And it seems like it’s rarely talked about unfortunately.
Mr Olympia
Never 2nd Place, Always Number 1
Finally a poster that tell it how it is
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Superstar
Imposter syndrome is a serious issue in the black community, amongst both black men and women.
Too many successful men feel like frauds unless they have some type of “struggle” to talk about.
Too many successful women feel like frauds unless they have some type of L&HH/Power type of drama in their lives.
And it seems like it’s rarely talked about unfortunately.
I hope you or someone else who sees this makes a thread about this topic soon because I have a LOT to say and you're exactly right. It's one of the biggest yet little talked about plagues in our community and I see it everyday. Especially as we seem to be moving away from organized religion which IMO was a thing people used as a crutch whenever the Imposter Syndrome crept in because when and if ever one felt undeserving, they could always fall back on being "prayerful", "blessed" or "strong in their faith" as a reason why they got to where they were.
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Superstar
Be realistic for a second here. Outside of your favorite IG baddie, what exactly do you think the inboxes of regular degular women actually look like? Because I promise you they're not filled with dozens of totally respectful suitors looking to sincerely court, date and spoil them.
A lot of that so-called "attention" you seem to think women are getting high on is non-existent or comes in the form of unsolicited dikk pics, rape or death threats, trolling and spam.
This is how to constructively criticize without throwing nikkas under the bus, good shyt breh
This definitely needs to be expounded on more. I've met a few women whose mindset is like this. Some of the most beautiful women but listen to them talk and they don't see themselves in that light at all. Also some well to do women get with bums because being with a decent guy would require a level of effort out of them that they're just not willing to do. Either out of trauma or fear of being too vulnerable. It's much easier to deal with or manage a bum and keep it surface level. The same can be said from the male side too.
That's crazy because I bet the dudes she is intimidated by and running away from have serious faults about themselves too. Another insight that I've come to learn at my age is just how much a lot of women crave drama, toxicity and dysfunction. A lot of these women have been abused and/or grew up in chaotic households and that's all they know. That's all they feel they deserve.
That's why I say behind all the glitz and glamour of a lot of these women, is a fragile, scared, and broken being. Many of them are not happy within themselves and it shows up in many aspects of their lives. Including the type of men and relationships they go after.
Everythingg
King-Over-Kingz
They’re broke while the women are in their prime. Fast forward 30 years and many more women will report being single.
I believe the patron saint of thots Cardi B told women “broke boys don’t deserve no p*ssy!” And the birds chirped back “I know that’s right!”
The avg man makes more than the avg woman
And on the flip side the 4s 5s and 6s don’t want to settle with the “average” male now so dudes are really stuck
This is the exact issue. People aren’t sticking to their levels and by people I mean women because they confuse being smutted the same as being in a relationship. Until they get older and at that point they usually have excess unwanted baggage.