This is really a chicken and egg issue. The word is popular because a few Black people used it in a public space or on a record, and then and then the machine of the record industry mass marketed it, which only attracted more people interested in normalizing the word on vinyl. So I'm still not putting this on Black people. There's a machine behind why some things are produced in mass and put on the market. If you take a peek into gay culture, the "f-word" word gets thrown around quite a lot in some circles. And among women, the word "bytch" also gets thrown around a lot. The difference is there's no capitalistic entity like a record label trying to craft an image and profit off the use of those slurs, so they aren't mainstream. I would say that the proliferation of the word is driven more by market forces and industry than Black people themselves, but that's another debate. You're trying to blame Black men for the mainstream use of the word and I just don't think it's that simple.
Okay but do gay people give straight people the "f word pass"?
bytch isn't the same as the n word, but I get your point. But still... do women give men "the pass" for saying? That's not including how the dynamic between men and women is as well (femininity, masculinity, submission, dominance, etc.)
With race they're ain't much of an excuse. It's rooted in poor self esteem and feelings of inferiority imo.
No one forces black people to give a white person the n word pass. Or to tolerate them saying it. Rap songs don't tell black people to give the n word pass.
And you would think that we wouldn't so easily succumb to media brainwashing if it's against us. There were literally black people in the 80s and 90s who rallied against this type of stuff but it was other black people who pushed back against it.