Though you aren't a wowom this post is a great example of what the majority of women aren't taught which is to see beyond their own experiences. Just because it may not be an issue for you and yours doesn't mean there isn't a larger societal problem. I think it is easy to see why teaching entitlement would be detrimental but since you asked for specifics I got some for you. Also respectfully, a sibling relationship vs a dating relationship are 2 totally different things. You can be a great sister, mother friend and still be a horrible romantic partner. Anyway practices parents do that set their daughters up for failure
1. Teaching entitlement - "You deserve a man who will...xyz." No one deserves anything. You get what you get based on how you move.
2. Disproportionally harping on the physical appearance and not encouraging beauty diversity especially when it . Although I understand that society judges women heavily on looks I don't think women generally get how men specifically see beauty. Women tend to be very one track with it which is why you see women wearing the same goof ass eyelashes for example. As long as a chick maintains a healthy weight (even if she don't), keeps up her appearance she is attractive to a good percentage of men and people in general. After a certain point it's all relative. That is what needs to be taught and where it needs to end. Disproportionally harping on looks leads to woman basing their self esteem on their looks. Some women's whole worth is tied into the way they look.
3. Promoting competition amongst women. This shyt so detrimental to women especially as they get older and does nothing to benefit women what so ever. It the reason so many women "don't have female friends." And yes parents encourage this do this heavily especially as is pertains to looks.
4. Teaching women that they are great just they way they are. If someone believes they are fine the way they are there is no room for growth and promotes lack of humiliaty.
5. Not teaching women how to successfully maintain relationships or passing on game on how many more in terms of lie to get sex.
There are more but I think the post is long enough and I have been in the process of writing for a few hours between the stuff I gotta do today. Lol
1. Where exactly does the prior post state
(explicitly or implicitly) "there isn't a larger societal problem" beyond my own experiences?
Acknowledgement of, and interest in, the "larger societal problem" is expressed via both the raising of the question posed and the example given as a starting point for further discussion.
2. It's not a question of "why teaching entitlement would be detrimental"
(the detriment is an accepted premise) ...mine is a nuts & bolts question of how are girls being taught entitlement.
3. I'm glad you bring that up cause it seems to be a possible point of confusion. You seem to be speaking from the perspective of experiences observing entitled girls and what guided them along that path. I approach entitlement from the perspective of that not being a big issue in the girls I've invested time in. As a result of me obviously not pulling a Woody Allen
(marrying his adopted daughter) I can only speak on the finished product I interact with not the raising aspect. This leads to...
- Referencing girls(family & friends) I grew up with / stories from ones I've dated and how they turned out given how they were raised.
- The assumption that the entitled girls you speak of not being that way if raised similar to the ones I know who aren't like that(hence the example I gave)
As a matter a fact my frame of reference for "entitled" would be a girl not helping out or doing the bare min in the relationship while I'm fixing cars, moving furniture, ....spraying for bugs, etc etc. A good modern example is when girls say they refuse to cook. While that hasn't been much of my immediate experience I'm aware it's a "thing" ...that just boggles my mind. To me that's like getting a call that her car keeps overheating and me telling her she better put some chips together and take it to the shop cause"I don't feel like it". If I truly don't feel like it I'd give her my car to drive until I got around to fixing hers, but I'm gone make sure she ok regardless. Anything else would be a healthy dose of entitlement on my part
(of course she has to be "vetted" to make sure she is "worth" my time).
As a result if you were to suggest I make sure I didn't raise my daughter to be entitled that would be my auto response. Making sure she understands she has an active role in maintaining the house and family through growing up with an active part to play. While hoping those lessons carry over in other relationships she engages in be they romantic, professional, spiritual, etc.
4. Now this is what I'm talking about and why I asked the initial question. things like "harping on the physical appearance", "competition amongst women", etc wouldn't even be much on my radar. Not so much that I wouldn't have a position to share on the topic if the event called for it but it just wouldn't be something I'd think I'd need to focus on either way.
I.E. If I was "harming"
(for lack of a better word) my daughter in the way I approached those topics I'd have a diminished capacity to catch it.
Hey no prob I spent a huge chunk of the day on the phone with AT&T trying to get them to honor an offer.
...long story short, I'm not getting my free dual screen LG today
. Back to the hut you go
