These women are 35 and want a husband/kids but don’t want to settle. Is we saving them brehs?

[maxamusa]

The thing is when adopting you don't control the enviornment nor is the kid gonna have your DNA. So I understand why folks don't want to adopt and I can't blame them.

Also realize when adopting you can't even request that the mother doesn't smoke or doesn't smoke weed while pregnant (most agencies say don't ask cause they can't guarantee it). Many times the mother may have been in jail bird or the father was one.

Nor do you know if the child was abused unless you get the child right when it was born. Now going through the state is also a crap shoot cause the family can get the child back and its more likely the child may have physical or mental issues. Lastly adopting through an agency can cost 20K to 30K so the price is the same or less to do IVF (if the female mate can produce her own healthy eggs). So its not that simple when you just adopt.

Finally you would be amazed how many people you watch on TV or you know or family members or maybe even your significant other was born via IVF. IVF been around since the 1970s and millions of babies in the US are born this way each year (4 million IVF births a year).

Trust my cousin a reproductive doctor and been one for years.....there are a lot of folks who conceive via IVF. Your boy was just honest enough to tell you.

appreciate the education. if you're right good stuff never knew. I just feel bad for all these unwanted kids out here....I never knew adopting was like that....plenty of foster kids out here 2

yea he brutally honesty about it all n the stress of the process...and I don't really ask questions cause I don't wanna be insensitive cause I'm Steph Curry with the % and don't wanna rub salt in the wound.

The overall point is that people take life for granted. its amazing any of us are here at all.

 

[MikelArteta]

he has to go rub one out at some lab

 

[Tair]

I don’t understand why ppl have to document everything for the internet
Just pop up with a man and keep it pushing lol

Some people just want to be seen.

Those types always want to go outside when all I want to do is relax in the house all day.

 

[ThirdAct]

She looks like Pain in Da Ass in a wig

 

[O.G.B]

The chances of a High Value Man marrying this Joker face broad is slim to none.

 

[Kiyoshi-Dono]

If we really being a 100
A lot of these women do not need to be married or have children
It’s a lot of muthafukkas out here that are one serious issue away from being committed to a psych ward
That’s why I didn’t trip about Chelsea Handler video because at the very least
She’s self aware of her flaws
Most women can’t even acknowledge their demons and will gladly pass that shyt right along to their sons and daughters
Furthermore it’s becoming very clear that these women don’t want to cooperate with a man let alone acknowledge his feelings and goals for the relationship she seeks
It’s too many women on leech time out here and I guarantee she is one of them
I hate all women
I’m a married incel

 

[CW_1991]

Required reading

 

[Dave24]

Required reading

@Chrishaune

@Magic Mulatto

 

[CreepyMcCreeperson]

for every woman complaining about being single and not married there are at least 5-10 men that were great fits but she friendzoned or broke up with.

stop feeling sorry

Ok.

But do you expect women to not care about physical attraction? Would you want to be with a woman who thinks you’re nice, but isn’t physically attracted to you? Do you expect that woman to be faithful?

Do you expect her to do freaky shyt for a man she isn’t attracted to?

 

[MikelArteta]

Ok.

But do you expect women to not care about physical attraction? Would you want to be with a woman who thinks you’re nice, but isn’t physically attracted to you? Do you expect that woman to be faithful?

Do you expect her to do freaky shyt for a man she isn’t attracted to?

never said that just that they all had options. Some were even engaged etc. before
date any single woman over 30 they all had numerous chances

 

[ORDER_66]

saving women who don't want to accept their level In life and obsessed with having a high tier status?!? What man In his right mind would save a insane minded bird brain... you can't save them unless they humble themselves and be realistic about life...

 

[CreepyMcCreeperson]

never said that just that they all had options. Some were even engaged etc. before
date any single woman over 30 they all had numerous chances

Not every relationship is going to lead to marriage. People break up for various reasons. And in between those relationships, maybe she didn’t meet a lot of men she was physically attracted to, or those men weren’t ready for marriage. Brehs on here forget that most men aren’t looking for marriage. We get to a point when we want it, and just marry who we happen to be with at the time. That’s a factor in women complaining about not finding husbands. Men don’t care about marriage like that. It’s even worse for black women, because marriage isn’t as common in the black community. So if you weren’t raised with your father married to your mother, there is a high chance you don’t see the point.

 

[GnauzBookOfRhymes]

I agree with the last sentences, I don't want to make highly generalized/unqualified arguments, like I have the data, I don't. Here's one idea I have been playing with, is that the "misery" is part of the bargain, part of the performance, aggrieved spouses commiserating and so on. Like you get to complain once you made the oath. But, if you are saying, married men, won't with much of a bait, launch into a rant about their wife, I would disagree. Most don't even need a prompt.

The evolutionary argument is always relevant, and plays a role. I read recently a book Fools Proof, (not really related to the topic, it was about "fear of being a sucker in America" that contained a quote from evolutionary pychologists "the reason men vigilantly police women's sexuality is because vigilant men are the ones who accurately invest resources in their own genetic off spring"

I tend to dismiss evolutionary stuff, I always played with the theory that it was mens fear of sexual humiliation/shame, but that was a compelling sentence to me, which may explain my ambivalence relatively about infidelity.

100% hit the nail on the head re: the commiserating when the issue is about kids.

I don't think I argued what you mentioned about married men and their propensity to launch into random tirades about their wives. It's actually a decent analogy - people with kids will do the same, not bc they have fundamental misgivings about parenthood but bc it's funny, a way to identify with others and for many a way to signal to the world that they are fukkable and have been chosen.

Why dismiss the evolutionary stuff? Especially when we know the many ways it drives so much of our behavior? What men/women look for in sexual partners, the way we respond to akk kinds of situations etc...

 

[FlyRy]

a LOT of these modern women are going to end up sad and alone. i know ones still thotting in their mid 30s. it's easy to see how that story ends. it's sad

 

[re'up]

100% hit the nail on the head re: the commiserating when the issue is about kids.

I don't think I argued what you mentioned about married men and their propensity to launch into random tirades about their wives. It's actually a decent analogy - people with kids will do the same, not bc they have fundamental misgivings about parenthood but bc it's funny, a way to identify with others and for many a way to signal to the world that they are fukkable and have been chosen.

Why dismiss the evolutionary stuff? Especially when we know the many ways it drives so much of our behavior? What men/women look for in sexual partners, the way we respond to akk kinds of situations etc...

It seems reductive and primitive in too high doses, as an argument. We have come a long way from apes or whatever. It plays a part, but I have to point out that we are CHOOSING to socialize people this way.

Women don't really NEED men to protect them or finance them, (not that I deny people the will to choose whatever they want) but it's not the BC era anymore. There's no bison to hunt. No one has to have kids to keep up the tribe. They can just work and live whatever life they want, but the social current still pushes back really hard against anything but traditional values, generally speaking. It just doesn't seem intelligent. But, I can often be too high minded about these things.