And many times parents don't whip their children to discipline them. They do it out of anger and frustration. I don't care what you think. If ass whuppings worked, then like I said there wouldn't be children without both parents in the home, black men and boys would be selling weed, going to prison etc. Why? Because if ass whuppings worked, then the ass whupping their parents gave them would have deterred them from such lifestyles.
And as for children of African parents excelling, it's because they get on their kid's ass about bringing home good grades. Many in the black community do not place value on doing well in school, education etc. You are seen as a nerd, lame etc for it. A lot of parents out here whip their kids for bringing home bad grades, but they don't help with homework, make sure the child is studying everyday, understanding the material etc. Instead they are watching tv, on social media, smoking blunts, fukking etc.
As a teacher, I can tell you flat out that the worst kids are the whipped kids. Sure, they're all scared and behaving AT HOME. Then they come to school and act like complete fukking fools. And then they sit and exchange war stories that would chill your blood about being beaten with all kinds of stuff. I can't stand their parents half the time. See, you want your child to say, "I won't do that again because that's not a good thing," Whereas these kids are saying "I won't do it again because I'll get a whuppin." Same thing? Not at all. Because once the fear of the beating disappears, you have nothing.
I've had to tell a number of black parents that they may not bring belts into my class. My class is a sanctuary. My kids are here to learn. I will not tolerate your ignorant slavery-ass shyt. If your ass beatings were working, your kid wouldn't be such an obnoxious fukking brat. Black (American) parents are really big on
breaking their kids. We don't want our children to do anything but "mind."
HOWEVER, it's my experience that it truly is not out of malice. They're doing all they know, and the stakes are FAR higher for our kids. It's not necessarily bad parenting, but it's harsh parenting. I'd like to do my PhD on this subject eventually. Black parents have to understand that the age of the whuppin has passed. That's not saying anything about out parents or their parents or back in the day. It's just...over. This wildebeest of a mother probably
does mean well. She's probably desperate to the point of being afraid for her dumb-ass daughter. But recording the shyt and putting on FB? Trash-ass bytch. Not a drop of sympathy from me.
(It's true that other cultures beat their kids, too. God knows it ain't just us. However, if their kid is the 8th daisy in the far right row in the summer play, their families are there with camcorders.)