To be a young self-aware , non-stereotypcial and successful black man is one of the loneliest positions on the planet

[Iverson_64]

Like do dudes here REALLY think actual successful Black men who own their own possessions, can take trips to different countries,, can pay their bills on time, and can stock up on food in a time of an economic crisis are more miserable and lonely than street dudes who are flat broke?

It's literally the other way around. Tons of Black men who have issues with the law, felonies, baby mama issues, money issues, etc. are completely depressed, miserable, and have few true friends. They generally don't live lavish lives like the rap videos show at all.

You seem to be mistaking "successful Black men" for cornballs who play video games all the time and are just as broke as the street dudes. That's not what a "successful" Black man truly is though.

Show me the "many" Black men with good degrees/certs, good paying jobs, own their own property, have their cars they paid off, have a decent wardrobe, etc. who are so miserable and lonely. For sure, they're around but not more than the stereotypical dudes. That's a complete lie but stereotypes perpetuated by music videos and the fact that street dudes rarely make themselves openly vulnerable make it seem like the vice versa is true.

 

[Worthless Loser]

It sounds to me like you feel like you don't have anything in common with other black people. I hear you in that sense. I don't drink, don't smoke, don't listen to rap, don't know the trends or know who's and what's hot, don't pay attention to any kind of street shyt so I automatically don't fit in 98% of social circles. But that's ok, because I don't seek social engagement.

If you want social engagement with people that have things in common, branch out to all races. Including successful black people. Look for people who are ambitious and on the same socioeconomic level as you. You might end up with a diverse group of associates that may also include some black people. You might be able to pick up different perspectives and keys to personal and professional growth.

 

[TDA92]

And that's the problem. Unless you're special (an athlete, entertainer, incfluencer, or just an general clout chaser) or a hood booger you basically don't exist.

You're not the only one who feels this way. What do you do for fun that involves other people?

 

[Wild self]

Like do dudes here REALLY think actual successful Black men who own their own possessions, can take trips to different countries,, can pay their bills on time, and can stock up on food in a time of an economic crisis are more miserable and lonely than street dudes who are flat broke?

It's literally the other way around. Tons of Black men who have issues with the law, felonies, baby mama issues, money issues, etc. are completely depressed, miserable, and have few true friends. They generally don't live lavish lives like the rap videos show at all.

You seem to be mistaking "successful Black men" for cornballs who play video games all the time and are just as broke as the street dudes. That's not what a "successful" Black man truly is though.

Show me the "many" Black men with good degrees/certs, good paying jobs, own their own property, have their cars they paid off, have a decent wardrobe, etc. who are so miserable and lonely. For sure, they're around but not more than the stereotypical dudes. That's a complete lie but stereotypes perpetuated by music videos and the fact that street dudes rarely make themselves openly vulnerable make it seem like the vice versa is true.

I blame the media for everything. Cats think that these hood socialite black dudes have the most "exciting" lives, but filled with nothing but senseless drama and stress.

BUt I do think OP's concern is finding a BLACK WOMAN with his viewpoints and willing to be with a 9 to 5 black man.

 

[ViShawn]

I get what you're saying, but its your responsibility to change your situation and get what you want out of life too.

 

[Child_Of_God]

This thread is wild.

 

[Iverson_64]

I blame the media for everything. Cats think that these hood socialite black dudes have the most "exciting" lives, but filled with nothing but senseless drama and stress.

BUt I do think OP's concern is finding a BLACK WOMAN with his viewpoints and willing to be with a 9 to 5 black man.

83% of Black men in America making 6 figures have Black wives.

But, if you're referring to entry level 9-5 jobs, I wouldn't necessarily deem that "successful" as much as a nice stepping stone. It's hard to impress any race of women if you're stocking shelves at Walmart or doing customer service after the age of 25. It's not right but that's just how it is but, even then, I see many dudes with those type of jobs with girlfriends who usually work the same types of jobs. Walmart employees especially be f*cking each other a lot.

Personally, though, I rarely come across Black men with good paying Blue Collar or White Collar jobs that actually struggle with women and this includes some dudes who are single atm. I know they exist but it's not that common. I do accounting which is White collar and it's never been a hindrance to my dating life. Hell, it's actually been a cheat code in some cases.

I have Blue Collar friends that do trucking, construction, auto repair, plumbing, policing, firefighting, etc. that have girlfriends and wives that are Black.

Obviously, there's going to be men who struggle a lot but I'm not convinced that broke street dudes struggle less or deal with less loneliness than successful Black men. That's just not my experience. I've had to talk to more street dudes out of suicide than successful dudes. It's all relative though.