Training your partner = Emotional Abuse?

[Music Fiend]

I'm a big listener of the beige phillip show, which is Dante Nero, a former pimp, talks about relationships and how to keep stability and proper order in terms of power in relationships. Basically applies pimp principles to regular relationships.

Dante on a particular episode talekd about something I naturally do that women call me emotionally abusive for.

He recommends, when your chick is acting up there must be consequences that are firm. The one action that stuck out the most is what I do all the time....

When a chick starts tryna control me, or tell me what's going to happen, or deliver an ultimatum. I go ghost and remove my love and affection . Immediately. Could be for a day, a week, a month, or for good depending on the offense.

I'm kind of mean and always thought maybe it wasn't healthy... but maybe it is...

Is ignoring someone for a period of time as a result of something they said or did that you felt was not respectful, abusive? Would talking things out be better and explaining why you don't like xyz be better?

 

[blackestofpanthers]

Different kind of train than i was expecting

 

[Music Fiend]

Different kind of train than i was expecting

Yoooooo. u a real one bruh.

 

[Phoenix_Knightly23]

That's a pretty unique way to get cheated on.

 

[Kobe24]

I'm a big listener of the beige phillip show, which is Dante Nero, a former pimp, talks about relationships and how to keep stability and proper order in terms of power in relationships. Basically applies pimp principles to regular relationships.

Dante on a particular episode talekd about something I naturally do that women call me emotionally abusive for.

He recommends, when your chick is acting up there must be consequences that are firm. The one action that stuck out the most is what I do all the time....

When a chick starts tryna control me, or tell me what's going to happen, or deliver an ultimatum. I go ghost and remove my love and affection . Immediately. Could be for a day, a week, a month, or for good depending on the offense.

I'm kind of mean and always thought maybe it wasn't healthy... but maybe it is...

Is ignoring someone for a period of time as a result of something they said or did that you felt was not respectful, abusive? Would talking things out be better and explaining why you don't like xyz be better?

So she fukks another dude and you are cool after 2 months sounds like some CAC shyt

 

[Music Fiend]

That's a pretty unique way to get cheated on.

I don't do it just to do it over anything. It's only extreme offenses. Usually only occurs in the talking phase.

Like I've been showing you great things, communicating well, going out of my way to show you I care.... then you want to rush me into commitment by taking away the coochie until I commit.

It's a trap, like If I commit on the spot. There's no way she'd have respect for me.

 

[010101]

don't make rocket science of a simple thing*

 

[Music Fiend]

So she fukks another dude and you are cool after 2 months sounds like some CAC shyt

No one said smashing another dude. I'm talking about communicating. You now how chicks give ultimatums. Like the example above.

 

[Music Fiend]

don't make rocket science of a simple thing*

? huh...explain.

I'm asking a question of if it's abusive or not to withdraw your attention on a person until they act right. And if it is, how should one deal with a person who is acting out.

 

[Citi Trends]

that is the right thing to do
if the woman can't take the logic you gave her the next step should be to ignore her, they feed off emotion so nothing will come from arguing
eventually she'll come around, if not, leave

 

[Music Fiend]

that is the right thing to do
if the woman can't take the logic you gave her the next step should be to ignore her, they feed off emotion so nothing will come from arguing
eventually she'll come around, if not, leave

Thats my exact thinking. If i know I'm being a fair and a reasonable person. And I have tried explainging the best way I can, but because of emotions you cannot see what I am saying.

If I were to comply with her demands or her actions and say that it is okay, I'd lose respect.

 

[thirdeye]

yes thats emotional abuse

 

[Music Fiend]

yes thats emotional abuse

what is the proper way to deal?

 

[010101]

? huh...explain.

I'm asking a question of if it's abusive or not to withdraw your attention on a person until they act right. And if it is, how should one deal with a person who is acting out.

reciprocity is a basic element of all relationships
meaning we only deal with females who act right

if you're putting up with bullshyt from anybody on the regular you were raised wrong

it shouldn't even get to that point because the requirements should be known from jump

people will only get away with what you allow them to

shyt like this is only revolutionary to motherfukkers coming up as doormats forever prostrating themselves just hoping to get a whiff

you shouldn't feel like demanding a high standard of treatment is mean/abusive
don't fall for that shyt brehbruh*

 

[Vandelay]

I just realize I do this too. I didn't look at it as some kind of punishment...just when women I am in a relationship with start acting wack, I just get cold on 'em and ignore them. Works better than yelling or arguing because in my experience most women feed off of that energy. So I just stop giving them any of my energy...and if it gets real bad...they never get any of it again.