Trust in relationships in 2020

[R=G]

To y’all in relationships, do you find it to be possible? What did it take to get to that point?

personally i can only genuinely trust a few people, but for whatever reason my significant other is not fully one of them. it’s not because of anything she did or anything like that but I just can’t fully wrap my head around that idea

Never tell a bytch your business because she may end up being a eyewitness.

 

[Bossyyyyy]

If you're experienced with women and are pushing to be better everyday, keeping up with self and your own social life, theres a comfort in knowing if she goes, shyt will be more or less the same.

Its also easier to trust someone who is very trustworthy. Because the moment something switches and does feel right, you'll know

Yes if you are focused on yourself things will be the same in the end, but at the same time this can be a person you love doing you bad, and it’s like people ignore the fact that something like that happening will hurt. Imo no amount of self improvement will take it away over time of course, but I’m sure you get what I’m saying.

beyond that, how do you know if someone is trustworthy?

 

[King Poetic]

One... stay off the coli

u have nikkas who are against relationships and marriage, but the same ones in the mental health thread talking about they issues, one of which is they can’t get any women

I’m 38 and finally in my first real serious relationship.....she’s 39

Before I got serious I did a background check on her which came from her own voice and social media....

At 39, of course I know she fukked other nikkas before me from high school, 20s and in her 30s....

but I looked back a woman last 10 years and who she fukked up and her working and spending situation, to determine if she grew mentally and for me this one has

ALL IN ALL PEOPLE WOMEN AND MEN WILL CHEAT, BUT U JUST HAVE TO ENJOY WHAT U HAVE FOR THE MOMENT OR FOREVER

The key Guys and ladies look back 5 to 10 years at a person previously life before u and see if that person has change

 

[Bossyyyyy]

For me, it's like... if someone wants to cheat on you they're gonna do it. No amount of stressing over it is gonna change that. I just look at it like if she wants to fukk this up for herself then that's on her. My life is gonna be good with our without her .

Ultimately this is the train of thought I gotta get back on. Can’t control people. Do you see yourself ever getting married?

 

[MikelArteta]

Put no trust in a neighbor; have no confidence in a friend; guard the doors of your mouth from her who lies in your arms - micah 7:5

 

[Bossyyyyy]

Too much hassle to not trust like checking social media, phone, whereabouts. I'm trying to live a stress free life.

Like a previous poster said, if someone wants to cheat, they will find a way to do it. If you find out they are, peacefully part ways and they'll eventually know they fukked up. Some men know they're the side nikka so when she goes running to him, most likely the side nikka gonna because he already know how she is.

Facts here. Can’t see myself ever checking a phone, if it ever get to that point I might as well dip. You and others say “if they’re gonna do it they’re gonna do it” but what about when they’re doing it and you don’t know? Maan that’s what throws me off.

 

[Crude]

For me, it's like... if someone wants to cheat on you they're gonna do it. No amount of stressing over it is gonna change that. I just look at it like if she wants to fukk this up for herself then that's on her. My life is gonna be good with our without her .

This!!!

To add to it some other Coli breh once explained the importance of keeping yourself a high value individual in another thread.

You can't stop another adult from doing something once they have it in their mind to do it whether it's cheating or otherwise; however, you can control how valued you are in a given situation.

The more money you make, the more educated you are, and the ambition you have amongst other things can make you more high valued, if one person isn't seeing the value in you someone around the corner will be.

 

[Pseudonym]

Facts here. Can’t see myself ever checking a phone, if it ever get to that point I might as well dip. You and others say “if they’re gonna do it they’re gonna do it” but what about when they’re doing it and you don’t know? Maan that’s what throws me off.

You may not know at first, but you'll pick up on her vibes and actions eventually. It sucks but that's how it goes. Just keep yourself up, be financially independent and focus on you so you can jump back in the game at anytime.

Not sure how serious you are but my family has a Life360 membership where we can see everyone's whereabouts at any time, mostly for safety reasons for my son and when I go on trail walks. You can still cheat with that, may even help her figure out when you're on the way but its better than nothing.

Edit: I just realized what I wrote may make you feel worse. My bad. That's just how the cookie crumbles.

 

[Bless't]

This!!!

To add to it some other Coli breh once explained the importance of keeping yourself a high value individual in another thread.

You can't stop another adult from doing something once they have it in their mind to do it whether it's cheating or otherwise; however, you can control how valued you are in a given situation.

The more money you make, the more educated you are, and the ambition you have amongst other things can make you more high valued, if one person isn't seeing the value in you someone around the corner will be.

I'm on the same page with this post.

Stay driven, ambitious, confident and most importantly... selective. Work on always being physically, mentally, emotionally and financially sharp.

Like many have said on the coli in the past, water seeks its own level. So remain on point with everything you do in life. That commitment will be cemented within your sense of self-preservation. At that point, I'd think you'd surround yourself with those you could at the very least, see value in.

 

[Cat piss martini]

alot of the people that post here would
have their worlds rocked if they had
Dna tests done with their (fathers)
alot of mothers would be getting side eye'd.
Cheating is just a reality......like taxe's

 

[Bossyyyyy]

You may not know at first, but you'll pick up on her vibes and actions eventually. It sucks but that's how it goes. Just keep yourself up, be financially independent and focus on you so you can jump back in the game at anytime.

Not sure how serious you are but my family has a Life360 membership where we can see everyone's whereabouts at any time, mostly for safety reasons for my son and when I go on trail walks. You can still cheat with that, may even help her figure out when you're on the way but its better than nothing.

Edit: I just realized what I wrote may make you feel worse. My bad. That's just how the cookie crumbles.

not gon cap you down, that is doing the UTMOST. if it ever gets to that point the relationship is a GG lol

 

[Pseudonym]

not gon cap you down, that is doing the UTMOST. if it ever gets to that point the relationship is a GG lol

it's for safety first. I'm very small and I go on walks and hikes by myself all the time. I need someone to find me dead or alive. I'm not gonna be on Unsolved Mysteries.

And I have a teenage boy.......I gotta keep tabs on him too

 

[BaldingSoHard]

Ultimately this is the train of thought I gotta get back on. Can’t control people. Do you see yourself ever getting married?

I've started toying with the idea as recently as this week.

 

[BaldingSoHard]

This!!!

To add to it some other Coli breh once explained the importance of keeping yourself a high value individual in another thread.

You can't stop another adult from doing something once they have it in their mind to do it whether it's cheating or otherwise; however, you can control how valued you are in a given situation.

The more money you make, the more educated you are, and the ambition you have amongst other things can make you more high valued, if one person isn't seeing the value in you someone around the corner will be.

This is also a big part of it. The higher your value, the more likely a woman is to be loyal, simply out of wanting to keep her lifestyle intact.

For example, in my relationship, if my girl cheats, she is the one who's gonna have to move out and go back to NY. My life will be largely the same.

 

[DropTopDoc]

that’s the thing when it comes to me trusting someone else, you can’t force them to or not to do anything. then you’re saying why stress? im gonna be stressed because there’s a chance im being made into a fool, that this person is lying to me. i can’t just accept my girl is smashing other ppl on the side, and ill genuinely never know if that’s a characteristic found in most women, but let the net tell it, and it is. if she’s already with others why be with just her?

the point is, you can’t put nothing past anyone, and if you lived with the constant thoughts of what if she’s cheating, you will make yourself sick, if she’s going to do so, you will never know, unless she don’t give a fukk or is sloppy, so enjoy your relationship and put that out your head bruh,