Truth be told, black men are the only ones who got it right when it comes to women

[Concerning VIolence]

Negged.

 

[Concerning VIolence]

Pure foolishness

Yall talk a gang of shyt about how the black community is messed up yet call men who are eager to take responsibility 'simps' and glorify 'running thru these hoes' as if this is conducive to maintaining an adequate community. Smh

A lot of black people live in complete delusion.

 

[videogamestashbox.com]

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I completely disagree.
My position is that children should be acculturated to understand, value, and function within a family dynamic. Not sit around until 30 throwing away resources from the community until they finally get around to family(or more than likely fukk up and fall into a family *children*). Family is the context in which you build wealth and legacy. It's that the youth aren't trained to make use of family and/or hasn't seen a properly functioning unit which is why "we"should take it upon ourselves to teach them. A lot of this comes from a poverty thought process.

Money is simply an enabler. Money will buy someone a...

• Car ....but you have to be able to work with your spouse to decide who's going to get the kids
• House ....but you have to delegate who's going to mow the lawn, take out the trash, remove the tree limbs that fell from the storm last night, etc
• Fridge ....but you have to decide what everyone needs/likes, stock, and cook whats in the fridge.
• Vacation ....but you have to be able to work with your spouse to decide when's the best time to go, get back, where to stay, etc.
• Fancy Dinner ...but you have to know how to treat your spouse like a valued human being in public
• Bedroom set ....but you have to know how to comfort your spouse to relive the stress that builds up over the day/week and ready them to go back out in the world
• etc.
• etc.
• etc.

There is this idea that people should wait till 30+ like they are going to magically acquire the needed skills by 30 when they are probably just set in there ways by 30 if anything. No! ...teach interpersonal /family values & skills from jump in tandem with acquiring financial stability. To many "African Americans have been poor so long they think money will solve way more issues than it does. To many people are blinded by poverty(or fear of it)

You have two people paying...

• 2 separate mortgages/rent
• 2 separate sets of utility bills
• 2 separate internet/cable bills
• 2 separate sets of debt(...and because they can't pay the debt off faster our community is collectively hemorrhaging money)
• etc etc...

When if they had both the "familial" & financial competence to work together they could accomplish so much more so much faster(even if we're just talking paying down debt).
This ridiculous notion of waiting till 30+ to start a family needs to go the way of the dodo ...fast. Teaching kids how to build within a family dynamic should be the priority. When I think of my parents and their brothers and sisters getting married around 20-24 and building as a unit then hear all the nonsense I'm like what exactly do these coli folks think they gone improve on by waiting till 30 The advantages are numerous to coupling up early especially financially.

Point Blank: In this particular dynamic the thing that needs improvement is how we value/treat each other while coupled/married(which should be taught) ...not what age we get coupled/married.

Sidenote:
I shake my head thinking about every time I saw married foreign students pooling resources to hold each other up through the process.

 

[Rollo Goodlove]

I guess this dont relate to me...I got married at 20...divorced at 25 and married again at 29. I was caught up in the idea of the fake American Dream as a kid.

Kinda proving my loc suits point

 

[smokeurobinson]

Kinda proving my loc suits point

OP said women be saying Black men dont wanna get married by 25. I got married at 20.

Also...I didnt wanna brag but my cousin used to put her 14 year old tittys in my mouth at 5. Got my first piece of p*ssy at 13...Had a 1 night stand with my first dimepeice at 15 from a chick who was a 22 year old that I met at club Bentlys...Was going down to Miami Beach with my cousin at 16 and caught chlamidia twice by 17. Had a female stripper cousin who had a bunch of friends I ran thru by 18 and by 19 got my first wife pregnant. I was already playing the field by the time I hit 20.

 

[CreepyMcCreeperson]

I'm amazed by people who think marriage is too serious of a commitment, yet have babies out of wedlock, as if bringing a human being into the world isn't a big deal.

Clearly, what we've been doing hasn't been working, but feel free to think communities can thrive without strong family units, and children having two good role models in the same household.

 

[*Angel*]

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I completely disagree.
My position is that children should be acculturated to understand, value, and function within a family dynamic. Not sit around until 30 throwing away resources from the community until they finally get around to family(or more than likely fukk up and fall into a family *children*). Family is the context in which you build wealth and legacy. It's that the youth aren't trained to make use of family and/or hasn't seen a properly functioning unit which is why "we"should take it upon ourselves to teach them.

There is this idea that people should wait till 30+ like they are going to magically acquire the needed skills by 30 when they are probably just set in there ways by 30 if anything. No! ...teach interpersonal /family values & skills from jump in tandem with acquiring financial stability.

Exactly

 

[ultraflexed]

You hear these women say all the time that "every other race of men are looking to settle and get married by 25, except black men" or "black men don't want to get married" "black men can't be taken seriously" blah blah blah... We always under attack by someone. Then you see these white boys, Latinos, Asians, Indian men getting married and settling down waaaay too early and getting divorced even earlier. Like bro, you in your 20's why the fukk you not playing the field still? How you supposed to know what you really like if you don't have enough experience?

I don't care what no one says, if you're under 28-29, there's NO reason you should be getting married. None. That shyt don't even make any sense. Do you know how long life actually is? Stop listening to that "life is short" narrative. If you living right, life is LONG and there's no reason to be making lifetime commitments to anybody at the 10 year period you're brain is still developing and you're still trying to find your way. shyt most people don't have themselves figured out til at least 37-45 sometimes.

Brehs, we the only ones that got it right which creates envy amongst our brehettes because we smarter than the average cac who's a simp at heart. Don't let these women guilt trip us into thinking we're the immature one cuz we're using logic and rationale. Stay strong brehs!

We got it right...

Our population is on the decline..13%
Only 49% of black men have kids at all..

But we got it right....
At that rate well be extinct in 50 years

The other side of the coin is this
No one should get married under 25....
You don't need to have everything figured out before getting married.

You need to have someone you can build with and grow with, someone on your level, who's strengths are your weakness and Vice versa. That's the hardest part, finding someone with those qualities, plus when you have double income sooner, you get established faster then with one income.

 

[ultraflexed]

Also fail to acknowledge that the white community in America has the biggest drop-off of all marriages brehs.

Their population is on the decline as well

 

[ultraflexed]

black men don't got shyt right and the women in the same boat

nikkas are out here broke, shackin up under some hoe or hoes house and always talking shyt like they ballin cause they have a 300m or known in a club or got the latest nikes, but have no sense of responsibility with their kid or kids with these fuked up in the head women..

in the 60s single mother rate was around 23% and now the shyt is up at 72%

300m..


Great post...repped

 

[ultraflexed]

Y'all perpetuate the dumbest shyt amongst each other. What you should be saying is "play the field" until you find the right woman for you, and that's IF you even know what you want and can recognize a good woman and not produce a bunch of little b*stards along the way.

Is y'alls purpose to prove to other men you can fuk hoes and sleep with "any woman you want" or is it to build with your equal?! Or do you even know?

So nobody is going to acknowledge that in the most advanced Asian countries Japan and South Korea, the average age of marriage is higher than the African American and white community brehs.

Also fail to acknowledge that the white community in America has the biggest drop-off of all marriages brehs.

People will bring up other cultures and not no a thing about them and that’s sad.

black men don't got shyt right and the women in the same boat

nikkas are out here broke, shackin up under some hoe or hoes house and always talking shyt like they ballin cause they have a 300m or known in a club or got the latest nikes, but have no sense of responsibility with their kid or kids with these fuked up in the head women..

in the 60s single mother rate was around 23% and now the shyt is up at 72%

Pure foolishness

Yall talk a gang of shyt about how the black community is messed up yet call men who are eager to take responsibility 'simps' and glorify 'running thru these hoes' as if this is conducive to maintaining an adequate community. Smh

This is also crazy.

Cats want to get married at 45 ?

When your first kid will be 10, you'll be 56 ? This is nonsense.

A man should get married between 25 and 35.

I'm amazed by people who think marriage is too serious of a commitment, yet have babies out of wedlock, as if bringing a human being into the world isn't a big deal.

Clearly, what we've been doing hasn't been working, but feel free to think communities can thrive without strong family units, and children having two good role models in the same household.

props to these post and some others, although in the minority, it' great to the 10% of this board with intelligence and common sense show up.