Turning in my Fatherhood card, brehs

[Typical Simp]

tired of drama, tired of fighting with baby mama, tired of her turning my kid on me, tired of all this shyt

its not all that its cracked up to be if you in the wrong situation. Just a prison sentence.

This is all your fault.

Be a real man and stay with her forever.

 

[ZoeGod]

Like I said too many black men and women lack sexual discipline and end up having kids with people they knew right from the jump had more red flags than a Cleveland Browns game. And the cycle of dysfunction continues. If the black family is broken then the black community will forever be in the bottom of society because a strong family foundation leads to a strong community. It doesn’t help either that mass incarceration makes the problem worst. I dunno man the future is grim for black America.

 

[Divinity]

Man up and be a father p*ssy

 

[Professor Emeritus]

Breh... reading some of the shyt I’m reading, I can’t tell if they’re trolling or being serious.

“I want to be happy in my own life.” WTF? Once you have a child, your life comes second. These children didn’t ask to be born.

I can’t stand it when these bum bytches neglect their kids to get dug out by a dusty nikka or go to the club leaving their child unsupervised because “I need to live my own life.” Like bytch, you should’ve thought about it before spreading your legs.

Same for these dead beat dad.
“Wah wah, I cant stand my baby moms.” So the fukk what? Then get visitation rights through the courts. If the BM is that shytty then get full custody.

I’m getting so sick and tried of shytty parents producing children they can’t raise. Then they become shytty and the cycle continues.

All this is emotional nonsense

That was one of the weirdest possible replies to his point. He said to stop being emotional and made a logical argument for why fathers need to man up....and you reply that he's the emotional one?

 

[Osmosis]

I'll never subscribe to that way of thinking. I wanna be happy too

His life is his own. He wasnt born to suffer for another person

Thats a unending cycle i want no parts of

Then don’t have kids

 

[Atsym Sknyfs]

Kind of going through the same shyt as you breh so I get it. I’m not giving up but trusts me shyt is depressing and I have had negative thoughts and I’m only one year in.

My daughter just turned 1. Lives about 3 hours away from me with baby moms. She refuses to meet me halfway ever or even let me have alone time with my daughter. I have to drive down and back and sit up under her and feel like I’m monitored. shyt is so fukking weird. I regret fukking her. We were never together. fukked on and off for awhile and she fell in love and is being spiteful because when she got pregnant I told her off rip were not being together but I will coparent with you.

My mom wanted to visit over the summer and have time with her granddaughter and she hung up on my mom over FaceTime after she asked. She’s brought her to my area once only because she had a doctor appointment and I’m in a major city.

My daughter don’t even talk yet so I can’t explain anything to here I’m hoping at this point her mother will grow up. Worst case scenario is me just putting myself on child support and getting visitation. I got receipts of all money I’ve sent to her and spent and text history of everything back when she was pregnant.

And I haven’t been perfect in this shyt either but man some dudes know how it is when you're dealing with somebody who just wants to be spiteful ALL the time.

I hope the best for your situation man.

i dont know what state you in.... but ... tell your mom go to the court... She can get grandparents visitation rights (my tenants mom did it).. you go to the court for your rights... it may put you in the hook for support but you're getting your visitation. and if all else ask for custody

 

[Eddy Gordo]

Then don’t have kids

Men don't get to make that decision

 

[Atsym Sknyfs]

The OP is really talking about “starting again with a new family.” I’ve never heard such weak shyt in my life. So your little girl should suffer because you knocked up the the wrong woman? Breh, I’ve never heard such cowardice in my life.

You know what? Maybe your daughter would be better off not having such a weak dad who throws in the towel when life gets tough. If you were a real man, you would fight tooth and nail to be in her life, in spite of her mother.

He could never succeed in his new family until he fixes his old.. he doesnt know why his old failed .. he would therefore do the same mistakes in his new.

i'm married 20 years .. 4 kids .. .. I got things i wanna change but its not about changing so i could do right with a new family.. its changing so i can do right by my current.

 

[Atsym Sknyfs]

Men don't get to make that decision

they do ... early on in the process .... before you stick it in bag it up ... or pull out.

 

[MajesticLion]

Tbh breh interpersonal relationships cant be rationalized. Most people just fall into situations

No. It's not a simple black/white binary setup, I get it...but still, no.

Most people make choices without thinking. Whether or not you understand the choice to be made, or even know that the choice exists is irrelevant. The choice is still there, and the consequences are still there. The responsibility lies with each person to recognize things sooner than later, because the safety net for f*ckups ain't the same for everybody. If you can't afford the consequences, do you really think you can afford the mistakes?


Smarten up.

 

[cartierhoe]

Then you don’t bring forth another life because that life may be dependent on YOU for their happiness.

If a child’s happiness is dependent on their father.

And a father is concerned with his own happiness.

And happiness to a father means being absent from the child’s life.

The father, is in fact, impeding on the child’s happiness.

That’s selfishness not self-preservation.

If you are entitled to be happy, a child is entitled to happiness too. Your denial of a child’s happiness over your own is cruel because a child has no control over their life.

The answer to all of that is to not have children.

Exactly, it amazes me how people don't get this concept. Just don't have kids or don't have kids until you're fukking ready


You can't just stop being a father because "you wanna be happy". You made the decision so be a man and deal with it.

 

[Basil of Baker Street]

The OP is really talking about “starting again with a new family.” I’ve never heard such weak shyt in my life. So your little girl should suffer because you knocked up the the wrong woman? Breh, I’ve never heard such cowardice in my life.

You know what? Maybe your daughter would be better off not having such a weak dad who throws in the towel when life gets tough. If you were a real man, you would fight tooth and nail to be in her life, in spite of her mother.

Breh shut the hell up...

This is purely virtue signaling. Are you a parent?? How old are you??

 

[Prynce]

That was one of the weirdest possible replies to his point. He said to stop being emotional and made a logical argument for why fathers need to man up....and you reply that he's the emotional one?

It's appealing to a perceived shared morality

All men don't share the same ideas of fatherhood and manhood

Many other countries dont have this child worship culture like america

This whole concept of suffering for your kid is dumb
I suffer for a kid who is only gonna have to sacrifice and suffer for their child. That's a depressing ass generational cycle.

And most people fall into kids. Not so easy as to say dont breh

 

[|r|e|a|d|]

yeah i'm already thinking about future kids done the right way waaaay down the road.

maybe a 2nd family one day like Diddy & Will Smith did.

they all got that 1st timer kid then get it right with the 2nd family and wife

I been here, get home see my son see my daughter see her I legit wanted her dead while pondering that next life, was hoeing like a mfer too. That post partum is real. So glad we past that shyts all gravy now. But we had a foundation, sounds like ya'll missing that base thing from where everything bout yall comes from. For the time being it gotta be your shorty and both yall operate from a her first standpoint

And the cycle of dysfunction continues in the black community. Baby mama and daddyism is the reason the black community is in tatters. The black family which is the bedrock of the community has completely crumbled. For once can you nikkas choice wisely who you nut in wisely. If she has low character, has daddy issues, has no wifely or motherly qualities don’t make her pregnant. All it does is breed more dysfunction. Smh it’s disheartening because black people never learn from the mistakes and errors of their elders and repeat them.

Not living this lifestyle in truth is what got me thru it, just made a decision that that bs stop right here and wont be mines. I str8 up told her I'm better than this we better than this they deserve better than this

 

[Figaro]

If i could undo it all, i would, real shyt

Is she wrong using him so I can come back
Or am I wrong for wishing I could get my cum back
Looking for sun all I see is the hail
How I'm gon trust All I see is betrayal