Tyler Perry Suggests that BW settle....does not go over well

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All I'm going to say is that people rarely "settle."

The dating market dictates their worth. If you can't do better than the options available to you then you're not settling because "better" is not available to you.

This is a general comment on the relationships -- not any specific demographic.

Men and women are always complaining about shyt and never look at their environment or have an honest self-assessment of their pecking order
 

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No other race of women speak on being independent and not needing men like black women...

:yeshrug:

other women know and accept that they are expected to fall in line with their men
That is bullshyt. latina and white women are DEVIOUS and go against their men all the time.
 

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Tell me how y'all would feel about this, and be honest:

Oprah or Beyonce or Michelle Obama uses her platform to say "Listen. Black men are typically more fit and easygoing than black women. Black men want fit and feminine and friendly but the reality is, your soulmate may be overweight and have an attitude because black women go through a lot. It's okay. Choose her anyway because love is all that matters."

Y'all cosigning that or nah?
Is that not what happens already?

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In your scenario, most men would wife her up and men settle all the time.

high income men generally socialize with high income women also so chances are this woman doesn't make significantly less than him

Aside from celebrities, how many high income black couples do you know where the woman doesn't make a high salary or come from a high income family?
What is your definition settling? Most men take the best they can get...looks wise at least.

An attractive women that doesnt have money is going to have more access to high income settings. The term trophy wife isnt reserved for celebs.

Anecdotally for me its a mix. With some the wife is making bank with others she doesnt even work. I just know I have never heard men, even those with money, dwell on how much a woman makes like that.
 

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Oh it's a fact.... @Ed MOTHERfukkING G have you noticed this out here in Seattle that more black women have higher paying jobs than black men?....yes could be a regional difference as the black population in Seattle is not to high but Ive been to events out here in the corporate world with my wife and you definitely see it....
No, it is not a fact. Every reputable source of labor information says it's not true, yet here you are...... With what you supposedly see with your own eyes 😂😂
 

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They have done some of those things too. I was talking about husbands.

Patriarchy has good and bad elements. You cant seperate them if you are going to espouse it.
i mean... even in current patriarchy, the judicial system and societal norms provide ALOT of protections for women...

if a woman even makes an allegation of domestic violence against her husband...

the police and society take it waaaay more seriously than if the husband has an allegation against his wife

the penalties are higher...

and the amount of support organizations for the women are much greater....

i assume the discrepancy in violence statistics isn't due to society/judicial system allowing it...

has more to do with the biology of men (ie. stronger, more aggressive, testosterone etc.)

so the "patriarchy" as it exists isn't necessarily promoting violence against women...

I'd argue that it actually looks down on it. ie. Abuse against women is punished harsher and is frowned upon across the board even in prison culture

What is your definition settling? Most men take the best they can get...looks wise at least.

An attractive women that doesnt have money is going to have more access to high income settings. The term trophy wife isnt reserved for celebs.

Anecdotally for me its a mix. With some the wife is making bank with others she doesnt even work. I just know I have never heard men, even those with money, dwell on how much a woman makes like that.

this is the crux of the issue...

men and women are valued based on different metrics...

the issue comes along when women label their value based on their opinion of what they're worth...

then blame the dating pool for not supplying them with enough qualifying men...

when in reality, the dating pool is fine... and the women just dont have the values that the men they want...want...

the women cant accept that reality... so then the narrative that our men arent matching up is pushed....

then we pull up actual statistics that completely contradict the narrative...

and have pages long fights about the issue
 
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if I have to listen to another average woman talking about "lifestyle" :mjlol:
living in a room in your sisters house or a studio apartment with 3 roommates, racking up credit card debt because "i travel/my lifestyle" :mjlol:
average women out here talking "lifestyle" like they Diana Ross :mjlol:
I'm glad I came up in the era that I did and I can disarm this garbage from women as soon as I hear it:mjlol:
Bro I swear, if that’s the case I can just max out my credit cards too to live the “lifestyle”:russ:
 

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No, it is not a fact. Every reputable source of labor information says it's not true, yet here you are...... With what you supposedly see with your own eyes 😂😂
IMO I should have said....but here in Seattle it isn't by much...wasnt even speaking on the entire US ...
On the low end, median earnings for black or African women is $23,000, nearly half that of white men at $52,000. Black or African men fare little better, with median earnings of $24,000
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That's an older graph but keep this in mind....
 

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That is bullshyt. latina and white women are DEVIOUS and go against their men all the time.
the women who go against their men in those cultures dont have a stronger voice than the ones who are in line...

white/latina women arent told that they cant trust their men growing up...

they are told to be careful... but they arent told that their men dont match up to them...

that isnt the main narrative like it is in our culture...
 
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