Tyler Perry Suggests that BW settle....does not go over well

[shopthatwrecks]

think he should have a madea social media account n did it in madea

nobody cares what tyler has to say

 

[High Art]

Black women do not make more money than black men.

Anyway, terrible fukking advice, and nobody ever says this to other races of women.

Why didn't he suggest that black men get their money up instead?

Most other races of women readily settle. If anything, it seems to be a common thing for them. That said, to the point in bold, he's a guy at the end of the day and men generally focus on the most practical solution to a problem. That would be women settling since he's operating under the premise that a woman in a position to settle must be unbearable to some extent and also consider, which is easier (and faster - the clock is ticking and those eggs are cooking after all): Men overcoming considerable systemic oppression in both school, work, and society in general, then in doing that, still being race loyal to the point of ignoring the wide and many myriad of women that will throw themselves at him due to him being a high earner, still being marriage-minded and wanting to get married in the first place despite the accepted views of divorce laws, and still wanting to be married just in general instead of living the bachelor life or even more, going the passport bros route or women simply doing what many other women have done before?

All those factors aside, he's also operating under the idea of money isn't the end all be all in relationships. I can understand how money is important actually, but the manner in which people discuss money in relationships doesn't seem to indicate that people don't actually get why finances are important.

 

[FTBS]

the fukk wrong with some of yall?

Are those things not part and parcel with patriarchy?

 

[BigMan]

Because they don't qualify for the men they want, they qualify for the nikka making 60k/yr and drive Uber on the side.

If a man make 500k/yr he's not looking for a woman making 500k/yr. he's looking for a woman who is pretty, easy to be around, and can get on his program.

A woman making 500k/yr wants a man "on her level" despite being typically old, masculine, and overweight.

the bold is wrong

majority of wealthy or high income men are looking for women of a similar class / income

 

[Sterling Archer]

This sounds good in theory but the guy would have to be confident because that can cause other problems. my ex made less or just had less than me and I’m not the type to make people feel less than for having less but I do spend a lot of money and he constantly had to make comments about it, tried to control how much I spent, would get mad if I bought myself something, got mad at me when I bought him stuff because I was “embarrassing him”.

When we first got together it was fine because he made a significant amount but something happened where he wasn’t making as much and it just created a bunch of problems. One huge fight I remember is I saw a bag I wanted, he saw it and was gonna save up to surprise me (how would I know? It’s a surprise) and I showed my dad and he told me to buy it and he got mad and literally didn’t talk to me for days, over a purse. I even told him it comes in different colors you can get me one of the other colors but he was just angry about it.

I think I told the story on here how he blew up on me at his birthday party in front of everybody for buying him the gifts he wanted “to buy for himself”, I thought he was telling me the stuff he wanted so I could buy it for him but boy was I was wrong. He went from being confident to being extremely insecure over money and it ruined our relationship.

Do you think he is just more conservative with material things and that what was more of an issue for him?
Like, I make more than my girl but she spends much more. I react to her spending because its frivolous to me the way she does it. Not that she spends (get what you like, live your life) but theres other things that money shouldve went to before you spend it on something like that. Then she'll complain about how much something important like house repairs cost and theres the expectation of me to take up the burden of the expense because she fukked her money off. I could pay for it myself and I wouldnt even feel it but the fact that I have to pay more (essentially wasting it) because she wasted hers is bothersome due to her spending and I press her over it.

Could it have been something like that?

 

[The Realist Perspective]

Quote tweets is

First of all, where is he getting the "fact" that black women out earn black men?

Statistics at a Glance: Earnings of Women Aged 20–59, by Age Group and Race/Ethnicity

Social Security Administration Research, Statistics, and Policy Analysis

www.ssa.gov

Statistics at a Glance: Earnings of Men Aged 20–59, by Age Group and Race/Ethnicity

Social Security Administration Research, Statistics, and Policy Analysis

www.ssa.gov

According to SSA.GOV, black women never do. Same as all other races. *Except for Asian women initially

 

[FTBS]

the bold is wrong

majority of wealthy or high income men are looking for women of a similar class / income

I dont agree but I am not going to argue that point. But I will ask this...

If said man meets a woman that is pretty, has similar values and interests, respects and honors him, gets along well with his family, supportive, cooks, and has great sex is he gonna pass on her because she isnt earning in his level or better yet call it settling if he does get with her?

 

[High Art]

the bold is wrong

majority of wealthy or high income men are looking for women of a similar class / income

Yes and no. Men at that level are willing to compromise in regards to 6 figure incomes. They'll "settle" for someone making 200K or pick someone making around that over someone who makes more if they are annoying. Women will actually put up with a guy who has a shytty personality if he makes a lot of money or is deficient in some other way, even at that level.

 

[SmarkMero]

Tell me how y'all would feel about this, and be honest:

Oprah or Beyonce or Michelle Obama uses her platform to say "Listen. Black men are typically more fit and easygoing than black women. Black men want fit and feminine and friendly but the reality is, your soulmate may be overweight and have an attitude because black women go through a lot. It's okay. Choose her anyway because love is all that matters."

Y'all cosigning that or nah?

Many do..

 

[Peachstate]

Patriarchy is no more. It's been destroyed. This age is all about equality. Women make more money, now it's time to take the helm and that may mean paying the majority of bills.

That's not how it goes in my house but enjoy.

 

[Peachstate]

You can't be more wrong. Key phrase: "...where was he living before he met me". That's distinctly different from a couple buying a house together where the mortgage is greater than the husband's pay, which is what Tyler Perry alluded to.

A man who can only afford to pay a light bill cannot afford a house or an apartment, so her question still applies.

 

[Peachstate]

So you are ok with him telling you what to do, beating you, raping you, and fukking all the women he can afford?

Ok with who? My husband doesn't do that.

 

[BuckFilly]

bussy babble

 

[Gloxina]

Happens all the time. That's how patriarchy works.

I'm traditional and I love the patriarchy

Here here!
It’s been so good to be

 

[Savvir]

I don’t think it’s unreasonable to want a man to be able to afford the mortgage where was he living before he met me?

uh... most men in your community make more money than you...

if you worried about men who are making less, it's time to look inward on why the more successful men are passing you over

So you are ok with him telling you what to do, beating you, raping you, and fukking all the women he can afford?

none of these things have to do with a "patriarchy"

but lets assume it does...

why would the men of a family allow this to happen to their woman?

in a patriarchy it is their duty to defend/protect the women of their family...

so there would be some protection against these things by fathers/grandfathers/uncles/brothers/cousins

or is the patriarchy only there for bad things to happen to women without any of the protections of the documented history of traditional family honor?