Tyler Perry Suggests that BW settle....does not go over well

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There’s a difference between a woman making more than a man and a woman being a true breadwinner who makes significantly more and pays most of the bills. I definitely wouldn’t do the latter. And I’m fine with men and women not wanting to marry someone where there’s a significant income disparity. It’s too much liability.
 
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I think that he's mixing up Black women vs. Black men with education.

I believe that Black women hold more post secondary education degrees than Black men.

Men definitely earn more.

I agree with him on the subject of couples leading with love and appreciation.

I disagree with him that Black women shouldn't demand higher quality, masculine, high achieving, assertive Black men.
 

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uh... most men in your community make more money than you...

if you worried about men who are making less, it's time to look inward on why the more successful men are passing you over


none of these things have to do with a "patriarchy"

but lets assume it does...

why would the men of a family allow this to happen to their woman?

in a patriarchy it is their duty to defend/protect the women of their family...

so there would be some protection against these things by fathers/grandfathers/uncles/brothers/cousins

or is the patriarchy only there for bad things to happen to women without any of the protections of the documented history of traditional family honor?
What he’s saying is “if I’m paying all the bills I get to do whatever the hell I want to you and no one can say anything”
 

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Black women do not make more money than black men.

Anyway, terrible fukking advice, and nobody ever says this to other races of women.

Why didn't he suggest that black men get their money up instead?

If black men already make more money than black women, why do they need to get their money up?
 

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Do you think he is just more conservative with material things and that what was more of an issue for him?
Like, I make more than my girl but she spends much more. I react to her spending because its frivolous to me the way she does it. Not that she spends (get what you like, live your life) but theres other things that money shouldve went to before you spend it on something like that. Then she'll complain about how much something important like house repairs cost and theres the expectation of me to take up the burden of the expense because she fukked her money off. I could pay for it myself and I wouldnt even feel it but the fact that I have to pay more (essentially wasting it) because she wasted hers is bothersome due to her spending and I press her over it.

Could it have been something like that?

We never ended up talking about it, we broke up for good after the birthday party fiasco. He didn’t seem to have an issue with it, he knew me my whole life so he knew that I’ve always spent a lot of money, so I don’t know why it became such a point of insecurity for him. but I guess he could have had an issue with it and him not having enough for it probably made him not be able to hold it in anymore.
 

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I disagree with him that Black women shouldn't demand higher quality, masculine, high achieving, assertive Black men.
i mean,.. they already "demand" them...

and they definitely exist... statistics show it...

they just cant get them.. and constantly complain about it....

and thats where the issue lies
 

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Tell me how y'all would feel about this, and be honest:

Oprah or Beyonce or Michelle Obama uses her platform to say "Listen. Black men are typically more fit and easygoing than black women. Black men want fit and feminine and friendly but the reality is, your soulmate may be overweight and have an attitude because black women go through a lot. It's okay. Choose her anyway because love is all that matters."

Y'all cosigning that or nah?
Oh
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What he’s saying is “if I’m paying all the bills I get to do whatever the hell I want to you and no one can say anything”
but... like.. according to the narrative being put forth by the women complaining

the men who make more money don't exist...

so how is that attitude an issue.... ??
 

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Black women do not make more money than black men.

Anyway, terrible fukking advice, and nobody ever says this to other races of women.

Why didn't he suggest that black men get their money up instead?
An observation I made while driving through the financial district in downtown Seattle one day....it was around 4pm and people were just getting off work....in that area people make good money.....I noticed thay there were quite alot of black women in that area waiting for the bus or walking to the car garages....there were hardly any black men....take from this what you will and mind you Im on the West Coast....my wife does not make more than me but she makes 6 figures....
 
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