Tyler Perry Suggests that BW settle....does not go over well

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This may be a hot take maybe it isn't. Settling is actually in the best interest of the Black community long term. That doesn't mean Black women should marry indigents or that Black men should date women who don't appeal to them at all. But you can't build a community where neither side can find redeeming qualities about the other.

With that said the super uncomfortable truth of it all is high earning Black women don't see Black men as high value at all so it's not really a money issue per se it's a perception issue.
 
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Tell me how y'all would feel about this, and be honest:

Oprah or Beyonce or Michelle Obama uses her platform to say "Listen. Black men are typically more fit and easygoing than black women. Black men want fit and feminine and friendly but the reality is, your soulmate may be overweight and have an attitude because black women go through a lot. It's okay. Choose her anyway because love is all that matters."

Y'all cosigning that or nah?
We are already at this point in the black community and have been for a while , black men have been getting told and are expected to settle for bw with attitudes, kids and weight problems for decades
 

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the super unconformable truth of it all is high earning Black women don't see Black men as high value at all so it's not really a money issue per se it's a perception issue.
bingo...

this has to be the heart of the issue...

because the statistics don't support the sentiment black women have...
 

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Tell me how y'all would feel about this, and be honest:

Oprah or Beyonce or Michelle Obama uses her platform to say "Listen. Black men are typically more fit and easygoing than black women. Black men want fit and feminine and friendly but the reality is, your soulmate may be overweight and have an attitude because black women go through a lot. It's okay. Choose her anyway because love is all that matters."

Y'all cosigning that or nah?
Absolutely zero issue with that considering the amount of black men with wives that are considerably larger than they are. And every female comes with an attitude regardless of race.

At the end of the day, all the matters is a partner that is dedicated and willing to build a family with you... if that's what you want. If you want to place additional requirements to protect yourself then by all means... hopefully it doesn't take too long.
 

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if I have to listen to another average woman talking about "lifestyle" :mjlol:
living in a room in your sisters house or a studio apartment with 3 roommates, racking up credit card debt because "i travel/my lifestyle" :mjlol:
average women out here talking "lifestyle" like they Diana Ross :mjlol:
I'm glad I came up in the era that I did and I can disarm this garbage from women as soon as I hear it:mjlol:

That’s all this is about lol

They fear of being like their parents, they want to class jump. By having another income with someone on your level you’re already doing better.
 

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the women who go against their men in those cultures dont have a stronger voice than the ones who are in line...

white/latina women arent told that they cant trust their men growing up...

they are told to be careful... but they arent told that their men dont match up to them...

that isnt the main narrative like it is in our culture...
Post of the DAY!!

black folks (and MOSTLY black folks) will run to all forms of media with this b,s,,

but try to sweep how rampant violence is in these jacked up communities under the rug
 

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the women who go against their men in those cultures dont have a stronger voice than the ones who are in line...

white/latina women arent told that they cant trust their men growing up...

they are told to be careful... but they arent told that their men dont match up to them...

that isnt the main narrative like it is in our culture...
That is a HUGE lie. I'm fukking wit a mexican american woman right now who's whole family is on some clown men type steez, and honestly those ones take it way further than BW, but at the same time all women are like that now. Things have changed significantly.


it is what it is.
 

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That is a HUGE lie. I'm fukking wit a mexican american woman right now who's whole family is on some clown men type steez, and honestly those ones take it way further than BW, but at the same time all women are like that now. Things have changed significantly.


it is what it is
i see the trend...

just wish black women weren't decades ahead on that wave

:wow:
 

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What is your definition settling? Most men take the best they can get...looks wise at least.

An attractive women that doesnt have money is going to have more access to high income settings. The term trophy wife isnt reserved for celebs.

Anecdotally for me its a mix. With some the wife is making bank with others she doesnt even work. I just know I have never heard men, even those with money, dwell on how much a woman makes like that.
the best a man can get it is usually in his class
 
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