At the bar or lounge you gotta be less execution oriented for that night and think of it as a long-term investment. If you're in the state of mind that you gotta close the dea that night they'll smell the thirst on you. You gotta ride that line of giving off energy that you're interested (smile, charm, attenton) with the state of mind that you don't give a fukk if they walk away. You're chilling and talking and out having a good time and she would wanna be apart of that, but if not, it's her loss.
I'm not tryin to lecture you and shyt cuz we're both men but that post about the prostitutes thinking ur intense and stiff stood out. If they think that when p*ssy is on the table imagine the vibe civilian chicks get.
I think a woman's gift is some 6th sense shyt. I'm MARRIED, but even with me, the times when my wife is "tired" or "not tonight" are usually when I'm layin in bed with my heart beatin thinkin about how to approach her without fukkin it up

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They sniff out fear, thirst and nervousness so you gotta get that fukk it mentality while still bein charming. Cuz when they can't touch you or shake you off your game, that's when they want you the most.