Washington Post: Hookup Culture Isn’t The Real Problem Facing Singles Today. It’s Math.

[KingMalik]

You make some great points. Actually the black folks on here who I won't mention their names love to bring up white folks and what they do. When one of the biggest things they do is stress to their kids to find a mate when they go to college.

I will never forget taking a class in college and a study came out about marriage. The professor asks the class who came to college with the intention to get a degree and who came to college with the intent to get a degree and a mate.

Now the class was about 60% white and 40% black (with 200 students). You would be amazed how many white kids and white girls for that matter raised their hands when the professor asked how many kids went to college to get a degree and a mate (a bunch of them). Let's says say 60 white hands went up and maybe 5 black folks raised their hands.

That just shows how negative a view black women and men have of marriage and how black parents the last two generations have not stressed the importance of marriage to their kids.

But I will say I have to give it to rural black folks. They may not talk about marriage all the time. But families certainly expect their kids to get married (no matter if they hoes, former hoes, rich, poor, middle class, baby mommas or daddies, young or old). The expectation is that your ass gets married.

And you do see them get married at a higher rate than city folks.

Yea. I noticed that about my girl's friends. She graduated in 2014 and two of her friends are already getting married. Barely 22/23. Black women don't do this in mass.

 

[Bless't]

Fair enough, my point was whatever works for you is cool.

By let it run its course I thought you meant eventually end

Maybe I did, maybe I didn't.

 

[Jahmal]

Keep convincing yourself that bad good looking chicks lack options into their 30's brehs. Ya'll know ya'll lying to yourself. Most of them still bad in their 30's unless their white or mexican.

70% of African American women are overweight. They are BAD forreal!

 

[Yup]

Your problem like all women is.
Citing the exception to the rule.
Like, you were reared in those welfare bus you to work job programs.
Stop talking about exceptions to the rule,....
That is your problem.
Always worried about one glimmer of hope selfishly.
Instead, of the entire general collective.

All women with project mentality do this and it has to be eliminated.
Stop thinking in exception to the rule and self equating.


Art Barr

There are tons of material out there for women to get relationship advice. It's women who keep most of these relationship gurus employed not men. You see what you want see.

Yea. I noticed that about my girl's friends. She graduated in 2014 and two of her friends are already getting married. Barely 22/23. Black women don't do this in mass.

It seems black western blacks have negative view of marriage....most of my african friends are expected to marry as soon as possible. It's west Indians or black Americans that i hear delay marriage or who never get married.

 

[Originalman]

70% of African American women are overweight. They are BAD forreal!

 

[Art Barr]

There are tons of material out there for women to get relationship advice. It's women who keep most of these relationship gurus employed not men. You see what you want see.


It seems black western blacks have negative view of marriage....most of my african friends are expected to marry as soon as possible. It's west Indians or black Americans that i hear delay marriage or who never get married.

Deflection and you still don't get it.

 

[#1 pick]

I buy that there are less eligible bachelors to go around and that makes it difficult for women. What I don't buy is that it works out great for men. For the most part, the truly eligible bachelors who have it all, the looks, the personality, and the money do very well. The other men, probably not so much. And this remains true even as they age unlike the dreams many here sell.

I mean, there is a reason so many men here are bitter and jaded towards women. There is a reason things like 'red pill' exist now and didn't before. And its not just because these guys are young and haven't made it to golden age of 30 where magically women fall over themselves to get with them lol

This is a generation where vanity and fame means more than the person. Because of this, the top with strive, the bottom with survive and the middle will get squeeze and destroyed.

I always stated that thecoli on average don't know what there talking about when it comes to knowing about the opposite sex. Even nikkas I respect in here can be dead wrong.

 

[bouncy]

I think the difference between me and everyone else is I keep all my "negative" thoughts to myself. I just don't get my hopes up so when it happens, I won't be too crushed. I won't turn him bad or throw in the towel for the smallest things or anything like that, I don't make everything a big or anything close to that. I know exactly how to make a relationship last, I just don't believe men want to make relationships last.

You guys say no man wants a woman over 30 no matter how good she is that women over 30 are worthless/useless/old fossils, I'll be over 30 one day. You guys say all men want new p*ssy, well we both know how that works. But somehow when I take all these things into account, I'm thinking negative but when my husband decides he doesn't want a woman over 30, who's going to have to deal with that? When my husband decides he wants new p*ssy, who's going to have to deal with that? I'm protecting myself, I never bring this up I don't accuse him of anything I don't treat him badly because of it.

this is just something I keep in the back of my mind, when I start thinking "if I do this, then he won't do this" I just remember that no matter what I do, It will happen. I'm naturally a good person and treat people right, so don't worry about me turning a good man bad because it won't happen, it didn't affect any of my exes because they didn't/don't know about it. It sounds bad that I think like this but I'd rather be called negative then end up how my mom was after she caught my dad cheating. That still makes me cry to this day.

That is nikkas talking. Over 30 p*ssy is just as good, if not better then younger chicks. It's just that for people like me, once I settle down its all about the family, so I want my chick to have healthy eggs so we can have healthy children. The older a chick gets, the more chances it will be hard to conceive or have a healthy child. That's why I like chicks around 25-30 yrs old, but if the chick takes care of herself properly, chances are her eggs are healthy, so I could care less how old she is, IF she is in her 30's. Once 40 hits, I don't know if I can go that low to have a baby.

This stuff effects men as well, but its not as strong as it is with women especially if the man takes care of himself, because we are made to keep making sperm regardless of age. Women lose their eggs around 45 yrs old.

One thing I can't wait for, is my lady to go through menopause so I can fukk with no condoms, and not worry about having kids. That's one reason I can't wait to get old, the freedom

 

[Jahmal]

That is nikkas talking. Over 30 p*ssy is just as good, if not better then younger chicks. It's just that for people like me, once I settle down its all about the family, so I want my chick to have healthy eggs so we can have healthy children. The older a chick gets, the more chances it will be hard to conceive or have a healthy child. That's why I like chicks around 25-30 yrs old, but if the chick takes care of herself properly, chances are her eggs are healthy, so I could care less how old she is, IF she is in her 30's. Once 40 hits, I don't know if I can go that low to have a baby.

This stuff effects men as well, but its not as strong as it is with women especially if the man takes care of himself, because we are made to keep making sperm regardless of age. Women lose their eggs around 45 yrs old.

One thing I can't wait for, is my lady to go through menopause so I can fukk with no condoms, and not worry about having kids. That's one reason I can't wait to get old, the freedom

Why wait 20 years for that to happen. Just get a vasectomy

 

[bouncy]

Why wait 20 years for that to happen. Just get a vasectomy

Nah, I rather do it naturally. Plus, my belief is when we get older our job as men is to keep our womem healthy through our semen. When a woman goes through menopause, her estrogen levels will get low, but if a man nuts in her, his testosterone in the semen can aromatize to estrogen in her body, thus help with giving good health.

I don't know if a vasectomy won't interfere with anything that needs to happen to keep my semen having everything it needs. They may say it doesn't, and in a few years we find out it does. I'm not taking them chances. If I make it to old age with a loving wife, and she can't have children anymore, I'm busting up them walls something lovely. That's my dream. Puff the best herb, have a healthy family, good finances, and a beautiful wife who isn't a square.

If I have those things, I know I made it in life

 

[Yup]

Women just need to give up the idea of being married. It doesn't even benefit us anymore. All the "I wanna get married" hoes gonna stay pressed tho

I didnt want to get married for the longest...but but i want children...so changed my mind.

 

[Dwolf]

The fukk you getting married for then

Im saying

 

[Dwolf]

Also, this thread is kinda sad

 

[Ashley Banks]

Im saying

 

[Dwolf]

What?