We Are the Generation That Doesn’t Want Relationships

[Crayola Coyote]

It's a sad damn life to lead. I stopped going out with my peoples some time back when I saw they were all hooked up with someone. I'm not gonna be the 7th wheel

watching people do something I admittedly would love to be doing myself, which is hugging up on some lady. Made me go back to what I know: stay alone. It perpetuates its own

issue

This. As soon as my friends get with a chick they always change up plans to chill with them or straight up cut contact with me until the hoe leaves and then they wanna be all buddy buddy again. Even if they do invite me out they don't bring anyone else's or you the damn driver for their date. Nah I'm good

 

[Crayola Coyote]

A lot of men want relationships. They don't want relationships with hoes. When you have a generation of women raised on the sexual revolution, women you can get into relationships with and succeed are rare.

THIS

 

[Crayola Coyote]

This is true.

I had that "I really want a girlfriend" mentality for the longest, but fukk that. Those days are over.

THIS

 

[Crayola Coyote]

breh you got chicks going to Tahiti or Fiji islands solo trying to convince themselves they don't care about love

Women breh

 

[Vandelay]

There are too many options. Unlimited options and opportunity ultimately defeat you.

 

[Rayzah]

Why should you WORK within a relationship? I never understood this concept.
Life is already stressful enough, fukk I look like constantly arguing and dealing with another persons bullshyt?

Man that shyt is for suckers, like I said western relationships are fukking trash

Moment you stop having fun in a relationship, bounce

Nothing in life that is worth obtaining or achieving comes without work. Nobody said you had to fight and yell at each other. "Work" means you have to see things from the others perspective sometimes, you have to not only think of yourself sometimes, don't be scared to do things others have attached a stigma to like spending money on them, cooking or whatever. If ya girl doesn't appreciate shyt like that then fukk her, but the ones that do you have to give al little. That's work, ofcourse only for the right ones.

I've done most of these things, with friends, alone, and randoms. I can say without a doubt they all would have been more fulfilling if I had someone I truly cared about doing it with me. I've travelled all over the world alone and with friends, and no matter how good of a time I have the thought creeps into my head at times that I wish I had someone to share these experiences with that I had a deep/er connection with. Not saying I don't enjoy myself, it's just...different.

What fun is it remembering a trip or something funny only to have no one to chat about it with because the friend you made isn't really a friend just an associate you picked up at a hostel or online? Idk...I just don't agree with you.

I've been on many trips that I was the only solo amongst a group of couples and I still had fun but I must say SOME shyt is best experienced with bae.

THIS. It's always the female complaining about what your are not doing or doing too much. ungrateful they are.

Nah y'all have to realize these types should be treated accordingly. If a chick is acting like that then that ain't the one you wife. Keep moving until you find one that doesn't act like that.

 

[Depreciating Asset]

Devoid of a discussion of economics/law, this article is kind of useless to me.

I'm way more willing to take a shot with someone who I'm 80% sure I want to live my life with if I know it's not going to come at the cost of everything I've built for myself or not being able to see the kids I eventually have.

Also, as a dude who's been willing / ready to settle down, getting a woman who is compliant is way too difficult today. There are way too women who've bought into this notion that they're princesses or that you need to "put in work" to keep them while not expecting the same in return. Tell a woman she needs to workout, even in the softest, most collaborative way, and 9 times out of 10 you're going to be an a$$hole who's inconsiderate.

My problem is that there's barely any reciprocity left in relationships. Let me lose my job and take 12+ months to find one- very few women will shame another woman for leaving in that situation.

Expectations are so high for a lot of men, and the men facing the lowest expectations are the ones that are only willing to give hard dikk and bubble gum. It's fukked. The appeal of working what's essentially a 2nd job because of how a chick was raised, with her whims constantly validated and you being the person who needs to validate them for the rest of her life, is pretty unappealing unless the chick brings a whole bunch of other shyt to the table.

In essence, I've found women's lists of what they want is 100 items long and changes at least weekly, and they fault you when you fail to anticipate them. It can be managed with the right mindset, but that's one that sees them as children rather than equals.

On the other hand, most dudes just want the following from a girl:
1. look good / stay in shape enough so we wanna have sex with you
2*. cook / clean
3*. provide some kind of income
Note: * denotes optional

Layer on inequitable disposition of assets / custody in divorce to this dynamic, and you're gonna get a "Hell no" to committed relationships 98% of the time from dudes with options.

TRUTH

 

[Sauce Dab]

Not trying to read any of that. In the past women were forced to marry and be stay at home moms.

"B..b..b..but in past generations it was better "



If you want a relationship go find it, if you don't then that's fine too. At least people have choices now

 

[Pazzy]

You know something. The problem aside from expecting real shyt while not being real with oneself is that folks live in their heads when it comes to who they seek love from in terms of their main goal. They make checklists on some build a robot shyt not realizing that we are talking about human beings. People are not robots.

They aren't looking for someone with traits such as being caring, thoughtful, patience, willing to set aside time for them, has any job that's legal, won't beat them up and etc, they are literally on some super selection shyt with crazy standards based off of feeding their ego. They want someone who looks like this, someone from this background, someone who went to this school, someone who is into this, that and the fifth. They basically are looking for themselves using someone else to serve as an extension of themselves. In other words, they are looking to fall in love with themselves or their delusions or fantasy. Might as well buy a mirror. If you have that mentality, you are not ready for love because you aren't being real with yourself. The next person is not you. You do not need a replica of yourself or your fantasy of what you think you want in someone to be in love. If you open yourself up, you will find it. Stop looking for qualities you lack in yourself or what you wish you were through someone else. If people just learned to accept and love people for who they are instead of being overly picky and making meaningless checklist, then there wouldn't be so much dumb shyt and unhappy people.