We Are the Generation That Doesn’t Want Relationships

[How Sway?]

 

[Mr Hate Coffee]

young black professional making good bread, so the concept of a traditional lovey-dovey relationship is to me



overall, i love the freedom of only being accountable to myself. and honestly, it's the 1-3 month flings that are the most fun for me anyway.

I'm at this point as well. But the flings get old. Trust me.

Plus, I been in a relationship where there was no stress ever.
so I know better and lived better, too.

So I ain't going ....
Somebody telling you to endure abuse of any kind for someone is a fool.


Art Barr

This is 100% the truth! I learned this shyt the hard way recently. I had a rollercoaster of a last relationship. The biggest difference was she'd never been in a happy relationship so all she knew was conflict. I had been with a girl that was chill af and we had no major problems before. I refuse to settle for less in the future.

People desire companionship, it's the curse we've acquired in being sentient beings. I actually just read an article about the British government considering it a health crisis in the fact that there are so many lonely elderly people with no one. That loneliness becomes a psychological issue which manifests itself in physical problems as well.

People need to kill the assumption that they're so above human contact. There are some individuals that can, but the majority don't fit that bill.

I won't post the article because it's pretty long, but here's the link.

Researchers Confront an Epidemic of Loneliness

This is true but aint nothing guaranteed in life. I have a friend whose husband died in a motorcycle accident and left her with 3 kids. I know other people who have experienced loss that they will never get over. You can get in a relationship and lose it all anyway. We're all helpless in this shyt.

 

[Mr Hate Coffee]

you don't really "need" it, but life is a hell of a lot more fun when you do have a genuine loving relationship. exploring paris or cape town wit ya homeboys or ya girlfriends is cool and fun, even solo sometimes, but when you got a true ride or die partner that you can experience that shyt with, it's unlike anything else. especially those first time experiences.

The other part to this is that those friends are gonna leave you high and dry when they have a relationship. I just turned 33. My life is good but damn most of my close friends I don't even get to talk to much because they're all in serious relationships or married. Everything they do has to somehow accomodate their wife. Then it gets to a point where they want you to get in a relationship as well so yall can do couples type stuff together.

I used to date one of my good friend's sister-in-law. When I was dating her me and him would kick it all the time and we'd do stuff as a foursome. When we weren't dating it was hard to get him out of the house. "Nah man, I gotta spend some time with the wife."

I'm not mad but it's an interesting shift because I was the dude in the longterm relationship in my early 20's when my friends weren't. Now the roles are completely reversed.

 

[Marti]

Im sorry but im so over relationships at this point in my life

Ive been in 3 relationships back to back and they all failed. ....too much energy and time wasted for me.

 

[FreshFromATL]

Im sorry but im so over relationships at this point in my life

Ive been in 3 relationships back to back and they all failed. ....too much energy and time wasted for me.

Might be time to look into the mirror and see what you're doing wrong and improve on self.

 

[shonuff]

Im sorry but im so over relationships at this point in my life

Ive been in 3 relationships back to back and they all failed. ....too much energy and time wasted for me.

3 realations ships?

ok then lets dig - what "point" are you in your "life"? 20s? 30s? you are saying you can make a conclusion about what something is worth adequately in you 20s as opposed to say your 30's??

what are you calling a "relationship" ? a month (s) ? a year? three years? more?? you lived together? had kids?

i mean seriously this is the shyt that is so funny about dudes and chicks these days

tell me something you learned how to ride a bike to roller blade? you learned how to read? or write? do math? you learned how in less than three times? im not saying that a relationship is exactly the same thing but the idea that you are "quitting" trying to have a relationship because you "failed' at it three times back to back - but im sure you tried something repeatedly til you got it .....

or maybe you havent -

no wonder this generation has little standard of accomplishment - fukking quit significant shyt after a few times but small shyt you work on it til you get it right ???

so please - lets hear you life perspective? and advise us of how deep your relatioship was...since its just so much work

 

[The Mad Titan]

Im sorry but im so over relationships at this point in my life

Ive been in 3 relationships back to back and they all failed. ....too much energy and time wasted for me.

wait what happen to your coli boo? Seem like yall really hit it off.

 

[DrX]

i think its best to take your time and really get too know somebody...and go through adversity before committing, because everything is good when you're up

 

[Westwood]

Honestly a lot of LAWS contribute to this behavior. We are scared of relationships because marriage is designed to punish men when things go left regardless of whose fault it is. I'm terrified of getting married, not because of one vagina for the rest of my life but because I'm scared of losing my shyt to some lousy chick. If I inherit something from my parents then that's 2 generations of wealth lost to a lousy bytch.

I mean sniffing a chick's hair is enough of sexual abuse, sexual assault, borderline rape

Damn right. Civil marriage has become a feminist institution. It should be abolished. Separate relationships and state. Until then, men should simply refuse to get married.

 

[Behind-the-wheel]

Ugh...this is that same millennial bullshyt my worthless brother and sister always spittin.
"We want money but we don't wanna work like a corporate slave"
"We want to be successful but don't wanna go to school"
"We want things but can't dad to buy them for us? I mean...why do we have to slave to get them?"
"Aw man, my V-8 BMW dad got me is outta gas...can you send me some money?"
*CLICK*

Stupid pops gave in to their lazy bullshyt and had the nerve to call me and complain about em.
I told him "Hey, you raised em up and let em get away with that bs...this is what happens".
Parents didn't give me a single break or set me up with shyt. Everything I got I got on my fukkin own...
I'm the only independent and successful one of their kids so far.

Those fools are in for a hard life lesson when our parents kick the bucket.

 

[YvrzTrvly]

Throughout this whole thread, and thankfully i am here to drop knowledge, there has not been one mention in regads to the fact that traditional relationships ---> marriage ----> children is a further extension of the systematic oppression of individual freedoms.

With a relationship there is an expectation to make moves, acquire money, use money on house (limiting freedom and capital) and finally having a child which is the nail in the coffin.

Now i am not saying that i disagree with this mentality, to each their own, but people often forget that this is all a part of being a good citizen, ie, constraints upon thought and freedoms

 

[Crayola Coyote]

Article is bs. Men want relationships, but these women are hos and its no repercussions for it anymore. Its actually celebrated. Society is fcked

THIS. Women come and go and they can go left just by how they are feeling in a moment. Terriable investment they are.

 

[Crayola Coyote]

Fall in love brehs & be in a relationship brehs

You nikkas just wasting your time. Lemme give you a spoiler: you end up either divorced or unhappily married if you even make it to that stage

If not, you end up forgetting about em after a while and carry on with your life on to the next bytch

Might as well just be a dog since women in the west aint shyt

Whew! I don't even have a gf and I know she out there somewhere plotting to cheat or steal my kidneys to make a come up. fukk that whore

 

[Crayola Coyote]

Why should you WORK within a relationship? I never understood this concept.
Life is already stressful enough, fukk I look like constantly arguing and dealing with another persons bullshyt?

Man that shyt is for suckers, like I said western relationships are fukking trash

Moment you stop having fun in a relationship, bounce

THIS. It's always the female complaining about what your are not doing or doing too much. ungrateful they are.

 

[kevm3]

A lot of men want relationships. They don't want relationships with hoes. When you have a generation of women raised on the sexual revolution, women you can get into relationships with and succeed are rare.