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[MisterMajesty]

You right.

But who do you think it better prepared for the “fight”? Those who watched parents/relatives have healthy marriages that lasted or folks who are the products of babymommas/babydaddies who never saw adults make it work?

The former. by far. Thems the game tapes. But as with anything long term, if you don't have a plan, discipline and just plain grit. It won't work. You can have Philip Banks for a father and still be hopeless without those traits. Unfortunately, we're in a community that don't champion that type of shyt, its short term gratifications or "the bag" at whatever cost (in this case, "the bag" is easy access to sex, regardless of the cost) and we're at critical mass.


Ultimately, i'm not worried, eventually, it will change. It has to, but that process is going to be very painful, and there will be a lot of casualties in the process

 

[Gloxina]

The former. by far. Thems the game tapes. But as with anything long term, if you don't have a plan, discipline and just plain grit. It won't work. You can have Philip Banks for a father and still be hopeless without those traits. Unfortunately, we're in a community that don't champion that type of shyt, its short term gratifications or "the bag" at whatever cost (in this case, "the bag" is easy access to sex, regardless of the cost) and we're at critical mass.


Ultimately, i'm not worried, eventually, it will change. It has to, but that process is going to be very painful, and there will be a lot of casualties in the process

That’s where I am with it.

 

[Sterling Archer]

The point is she could be “happy” with a man who sees her as a woman to bide his time with while he’s “building”, but he might drop her once his station improves. If he’s snacking up with her and thinks she is the one, what’s so hard about going to the courthouse? They don’t have to have some big wedding.


He gets some “in-house” that’s cooking and washing his draws who is hoping for a future, while the white girl up thread is cooking and washing the draws of a man who made a commitment to be with her as she has his kids and gets older.

Not that youre wrong about this racial difference but I think youre overstating this white is right angle. Theres way more white women in the same situation than it seems you are recognizing. Enough to suggest that there isnt much of a cultural difference for the numbers to be what they are anymore. At least in recent years. I dont want to sound like im saying youre slobbing cacs over this but Im just saying there are an innumerable amount of white women in these same relationships and trajectories. I feel like people look to affluent whites as the standard of what white people do instead of what the average white person does and there is a chasm between the two. Again, Im just saying thats how its kinda coming off, not that you are saying that.

 

[MisterMajesty]

Not that youre wrong about this racial difference but I think youre overstating this white is right angle. Theres way more white women in the same situation than it seems you are recognizing. Enough to suggest that there isnt much of a cultural difference for the numbers to be what they are anymore. At least in recent years. I dont want to sound like im saying youre slobbing cacs over this but Im just saying there are an innumerable amount of white women in these same relationships and trajectories. I feel like people look to affluent whites as the standard of what white people do instead of what the average white person does and there is a chasm between the two. Again, Im just saying thats how its kinda coming off, not that you are saying that.

You're actually correct. Unfortunately, we can't afford to make the same mistakes as everyone else, US or otherwise. What is a slip up to others, can be a broken spine to us if we're not on the ball.

 

[Gloxina]

Aight this has been fun but I need to actually not be on my phone. Lol

This topic just gets me going because I hate when men pretend to not know the games that they play on silly women and I appreciate when a gentlemen like @MisterMajesty @Fillerguy and @Givethanks keep it so we can have a good chat.

Gnite coli.

 

[Gloxina]

Not that youre wrong about this racial difference but I think youre overstating this white is right angle. Theres way more white women in the same situation than it seems you are recognizing. Enough to suggest that there isnt much of a cultural difference for the numbers to be what they are anymore. At least in recent years. I dont want to sound like im saying youre slobbing cacs over this but Im just saying there are an innumerable amount of white women in these same relationships and trajectories. I feel like people look to affluent whites as the standard of what white people do instead of what the average white person does and there is a chasm between the two. Again, Im just saying thats how its kinda coming off, not that you are saying that.

Don’t get me wrong- it’s not “white is right”.

If he interviewed a Nigerian couple the girl would be ADAMANT about marriage or walking away because culturally, shacking up and babies OOW are shameful for them. If he took this operation over to the continent the men would be talking about getting married. They wouldn’t be talking about “there’s no need for a ring or marriage”.

The culture issue isn’t white vs black —my bad. I’m just talking about what’s more prevalent in our community.

I know white girls getting played left and right as well, but there’s more shame and embarrassment in their community when it comes to these things.

Our artists actually make songs entitled “baby momma” to shout them out because it’s such a big thing for us


I mean affluent folks in general avoid this behavior, regardless of ethnicity.