What do you do with a worthless family member??

MeachTheMonster

YourFriendlyHoodMonster
Joined
May 24, 2012
Messages
71,584
Reputation
4,074
Daps
113,344
Reppin
Tha Land
I wish I could go find my brother and beat the shyt out of him. This nikka entire life is self inflicted failure after failure.

Growing up we weren't rich, but we had enough money NOT to have to sell drugs, rob, steal, etc. Yet before he made it to 20 this nikka was in jail for drugs and a pistol. Over the next 5 years he was in and out jail, and it all culminated to a highspeed police chase through city streets, ending with rolling an f150 5 times and knocking out the power for two blocks worth of people. And almost killing himself and a pregnant passenger.

He got out of jail for the last time at about 30. He already had 10 year old son, and a 5 year old daughter that my parents had been supporting including their worthless mothers. In the 6 years since he's been out he's had two more b*stard kids for my parents to take care of while he runs around to pursue his "rap" career. He's been nothing but a headache for my mom, she's a good person and just wants to help, but chasing this dude around trying to help him is tearing her down, and fukking up her relationship with my dad. They keep fighting cause my dad wants nothing to do with my brother,but my mom keeps helping him.

So finally to the reason I'm actually writing this. My parents have been paying his rent and car notes since he's been out. They have also purchased three different cars for him. The first ones engine blew. The second one he purposely totaled in order to get an insurance claim that from my moms policy. He was supposed to use the money to get another car, but instead he bought a pound of kush, and thought he would sell it to get a better car. He ended up smoking most of it and getting arrested with what was left. This was about a year and a half ago, fast forward to 3 months ago, my parents buy him another car, a nice 02 Caddy. This morning my mom calls me hysterically, cause he got drunk and totaled the car, he sent her a picture of it and said he wanted to kill himself, so my moms running around the city looking for him, and her and my dad got into it cause he told her "I told you so".

So now I'm sitting at work mad as fukk, I wanna go find this dude and help him kill himself. It's hard for me cause I don't wanna hurt my mom by throwing him in the bushes, but he deserves it. She calls and begs me to spend time with him and help him, but honestly I want nothing to do with him.

How do I support my mom if she won't stop helping this dude?
 

Roberto Dinero

Dropped from #TnT
Joined
May 5, 2012
Messages
7,911
Reputation
-195
Daps
6,597
Reppin
The Infamous World's End Houses
Man, I thought I was kinda worthless compared to my brothers (they've both been pretty successful) but I ain't got sh!t on ur brother.

I dunno what to tell u tho. I've never had to deal with someone's destructiveness on that level. Y'all better off cutting him off cause he seems to not care that he's hurting all of you.

If I knew I was hurting my family to that extent I would definitely try to do something to improve the situation.
 

Dirty_Jerz

Ethiop
Joined
May 12, 2012
Messages
12,602
Reputation
-820
Daps
11,379
Reppin
the evils of truth, and love
sounds like he needed help a long time ago and never got it but you shouldnt burden yourself worrying about another grown mans life like that friend you could easily find yourself in that situation your praying for right now and be in an out of jail at the end of it
 

trick

sleeping
Supporter
Joined
May 4, 2012
Messages
24,295
Reputation
5,559
Daps
74,384
He says he wants to kill himself. Get him to a mental institution then?
 

MeachTheMonster

YourFriendlyHoodMonster
Joined
May 24, 2012
Messages
71,584
Reputation
4,074
Daps
113,344
Reppin
Tha Land
Man, I thought I was kinda worthless compared to my brothers (they've both been pretty successful) but I ain't got sh!t on ur brother.

I dunno what to tell u tho. I've never had to deal with someone's destructiveness on that level. Y'all better off cutting him off cause he seems to not care that he's hurting all of you.

If I knew I was hurting my family to that extent I would definitely try to do something to improve the situation.

He obviously doesn't give a fukk about how his actions affect us. He purposely has caused problems between my patents, and he has also tried to get his babymother to fight my pregnant wife. Dude is just a cancer to society.
sounds like he needed help a long time ago and never got it but you shouldnt burden yourself worrying about another grown mans life like that friend you could easily find yourself in that situation your praying for right now and be in an out of jail at the end of it
He did need help and i think that's what bothers my mom so much, she feels like she failed him by not getting him that help. I'm not burdened by his fukk ups but I'm burdened by my mom always running to pick up the pieces, then looking to me for support. If it wasn't for my mom I woulda been threw him in the bushes

He says he wants to kill himself. Get him to a mental institution then?

Can't find him



As I was typing this my mom sent me a pic
69348_3795788063093_1214778475_n.jpg
:snoop:
 

Freestyle Phantom3.0

Habitual Line Stepper
Joined
May 5, 2012
Messages
3,001
Reputation
289
Daps
3,020
cut em off.

i got a cousin who is always scheming trying to come up at the expense of others selling smoke, roids, flipping cars. He sold my girl (ex now) a shytty jeep that almost fell apart a few days after buying it. gave my uncle two joints of garbage weed for christmas :bryan:

whole family is :whoa: about this kid
 

Roberto Dinero

Dropped from #TnT
Joined
May 5, 2012
Messages
7,911
Reputation
-195
Daps
6,597
Reppin
The Infamous World's End Houses
He obviously doesn't give a fukk about how his actions affect us. He purposely has caused problems between my patents, and he has also tried to get his babymother to fight my pregnant wife. Dude is just a cancer to society.

Jesus. I don't think I would ever say this about my own fam but the guy sounds like a f*cking scum bag.

What the other person suggested, mental institution, that might not be far fetched. That kind of behaviour is not normal. Maybe he has an undiagnosed illness or something.

If they put him in psychiatric he'll be out of ur hair(at least for a while) and its a nicer place than prison.
 

Takerstani

Extraterrestrial
Supporter
Joined
May 1, 2012
Messages
2,480
Reputation
120
Daps
1,789
Your mom has to stop enabling him. That's exactly how you end up with adult adolescents who never grow into adults. If he falls, he just has to fall. Coddling only produces more of the same behavior/thinking. He needs to be forced to stand up on his own or at least find another person to leech off of if she lets him deal with the consequences of his choices. There's no incentive to do that, now.

One of my bros, who is about the same age as your brother, was like this before the last time he went to jail. He's always been smart just one of the types to take 1 step forward and 2 steps back if he thinks he can "get over" doing something. Now he hasn't been to prison for a few years but substance abuse is what makes him trip up now and again rather than theft/selling drugs. Ironically, my brother did the same exact thing with his car. My mom has a "help those who help themselves" attitude now, no coincidence that the criminal behavior (not related to substance abuse) has ceased, finally.

A combo of tough love, medication and substance abuse counseling might do some good. :manny: Best of luck to your family though
 

ThaBronxBully

Postin’ & Toastin’ Since 02’
Supporter
Joined
Apr 30, 2012
Messages
31,200
Reputation
8,268
Daps
115,704
Reppin
NYC
Damn What A Knucklehead

The Sad Thing Is If Your Mom Ends Up Getting The Strength To Cut Dude Off And He Ends Up Dead She Aint Gonna Be Able To Live Without Blaming Herself

Hope All Goes Well With Ya Fam Though
 

MeachTheMonster

YourFriendlyHoodMonster
Joined
May 24, 2012
Messages
71,584
Reputation
4,074
Daps
113,344
Reppin
Tha Land
You guys are correct. He should be cut off, and he should get help. But how do I get my mom to realize this?

Every time I try to tell her she says things like"your brothers all you got" or "you gotta take care of family" I find myself spending time with him and going to pick up his kids just to appease my mom.

:snoop: Typing this just made me think about his kids. His daughter is 7 and cant count to ten or recognize different colors. My 3 year old son can already do that. I've been trying to help her but, I can't cut him off without throwing his kids in the bushes.
 
Top