What do you guys think about a woman having guy friends and a man having female friends while in a relationship?

[Orange cream shake]

Wow, I mean how did that make you feel? Do you ever think back on how you've could've made it work better between those or you believe it was for the best to just go your separate ways.

i had to cut them loose they both wanted to be with me but waited until I was in a relationship to make it known. I ended up having to let go that whole group of friends. i was having less time for them and they weren’t happy about it. It got to the point i had no time for them and they stop making an effort. I have friends now that I have known for over a decade and they are solid So I’m more than good.


yea I realize now almost 20 years later I was a bad friend but in my case it was worth it.

 

[Kuma the Bear]

Just so you gents are aware, OP is that Jamie Sommers character with an attempt at a rebrand.

Yeah, the OP has been a woman all this time.
Unless they're bi or a lesbian, it's odd that they're cosplaying as a man

 

[Unbothered]

Why are you trying so hard to hold on to a friendship that was that unstable. You don't really even know that girl. Shes emotionally unstable and you running along with it being the same way

I just feel like we vibed soo well and clearly had an undeniable connection it seemed like things were going very good and I a part of me felt bad for how things ended the first time and since then my conscience has me thinking it's my obligation to do right by her despite the situation going south again

 

[Primetime21]

It's because of how everything panned out especially within the last few weeks.

When we first started talking in mid September, it started off as having intentions of dating but due to numerous misunderstandings and such it didn't happen. Around the beginning of October we had a falling out and she blocked me, truth be told I was actually at peace and didn't really think about her since I moved onto someone else. However by the middle of October she surprisingly calls me up with a little attitude, I guess she was trying to figure out if she wanted to talk to me or not, she chose to do so but made it clear we're just friends and I accepted that since I was already involved with another woman.

Now everything been going smooth until the past few weeks we started to become affectionate especially deep non-romantic feelings for each other, saying I'm special to her and telling me how much she cares about me, and likewise. Everything was going fine until this guy she started seeing started to get serious with her and suddenly she changed on me.

Why express these thoughts and feelings about me if she were just going to leave once she found a man of her liking? Now she acting a little rude now but I just like that's phony and not being respectful of me.

Man if you dont get yo ol’ Carl Thomas “I wish I never met her” ass on with this

 

[maxamusa]

So, long story short, there's this woman I've had for about two months. We used to talk and text pretty much every day, from early morning till bedtime. A few weeks ago, y'know, she started going on dates with this guy, and recently, about a week ago, it got serious. Congrats to her, but since then...

stopped right there.

nah bro this entire mindstate is guaranteed, repeated Ls. unfukk yourself immediately.

"this woman i've had" you ain't got shyt the fukk

Breh really repping that upstate NY stereotype to the fullest

 

[Unbothered]

Yeah, the OP has been a woman all this time.
Unless they're bi or a lesbian, it's odd that they're cosplaying as a man

No, I'm a man. This was my sister's account originally but then she decided to gave it to me, she didn't want it anymore.

I verified myself in that thread.

 

[cyndaquil]

Well, initially she hit me up in September, with the intention of us hooking up but around the beginning of October we had a falling out because y'know I'm more of the exclusive type when it comes to dating, where she was open to going on dates with other dudes until she found the right one.

Stopped right there. So you wanted to fukk this girl but was mad she wasn't tryna commit to you.
You weren't no friend
You a dude that looking to make her your girl.
I'm glad she cut yo ass off for the sake of her new dude.
fukk wrong with you that you can't see that?
Should've took the p*ssy while she was loaning it out and stopped tryna claim a woman that don't wanna claim you now you don't even get a turn.
This an L.

 

[Arcavian]

I just feel like we vibed soo well and clearly had an undeniable connection it seemed like things were going very good and I a part of me felt bad for how things ended the first time and since then my conscience has me thinking it's my obligation to do right by her despite the situation going south again

some people are seasonal you've known this woman 2 months

your not in love

your bond isn't deep

let it go man

 

[Unbothered]

Stopped right there. So you wanted to fukk this girl but was mad she wasn't tryna commit to you.
You weren't no friend
You a dude that looking to make her your girl.
I'm glad she cut yo ass off for the sake of her new dude.
fukk wrong with you that you can't see that?
Should've took the p*ssy while she was loaning it out and stopped tryna claim a woman that don't wanna claim you now you don't even get a turn.
This an L.

Nah, she hit me up first in September. Things didn't go well because of misunderstandings and miscues, said I wasn't giving her the energy in return.

She wanted me to be her man but I didn't do enough.

Well, initially she hit me up in September, with the intention of us hooking up but around the beginning of October we had a falling out because y'know I'm more of the exclusive type when it comes to dating, where she was open to going on dates with other dudes until she found the right one.

Also, we had some arguments because of that but also she felt I wasn't returning the energy when she wanted to see me. I kept delaying due to work but also other reasons; I just wanted to take my time.

So after that, we stopped talking for nearly two weeks. We blocked each other on Facebook at the time, but then around the 3rd week of October, she called me, and we rekindled, but only as friends due to what happened before, and I was cool with that.

 

[Unbothered]

some people are seasonal you've known this woman 2 months

your not in love

your bond isn't deep

let it go man

I know I should just walk away and I believe I can but it's just hard to say goodbye to someone that I felt like we had a connection, a bound, something that could've been really serious, platonically of course.

My conscience is why it's hard to just walk away.

Some people are good at shutting certain things out but me it's like it'll stay on my mind for awhile.

 

[Born Rich]

Just so you gents are aware, OP is that Jamie Sommers character with an attempt at a rebrand.

@Unbothered

 

[⠀X ⠀]

Guy friends?

 

[Arcavian]

I know I should just walk away and I believe I can but it's just hard to say goodbye to someone that I felt like we had a connection, a bound, something that could've been really serious, platonically of course.

My conscience is why it's hard to just walk away.

Some people are good at shutting certain things out but me it's like it'll stay on my mind for awhile.

Do what your supposed to do, you said it yourself,


And that holding on to shyt is a weakness, welcome to day 1 of letting shyt go

 

[Unbothered]

Do what you're supposed to do, you said it yourself,


And that holding on to shyt is a weakness, welcome to day 1 of letting shyt go

You're right, I just gotta walk away and don't even think about it anymore.

I just wish she didn't y'know have me become invested in her. The first time when she blocked me after things didn't go well the first time, I was at peace because I wasn't invested emotionally since we were just exploring the possibility of dating, but then time around it feels different because she made it seem like we were going somewhere, platonically.

The thing about me felling obligated could be just my ego forcing myself to believe that it's my job to fix shyt even when there's nothing to be fixed.

The thing I'm trying to learn is not to invest soo much into someone soo quickly, I have a good heart with pure intentions so I guess I become attached to a person so that's why this all kinda hit me.

I don't care about her having a man or nothing like that it's just I thought she'd care enough to respect how all this would make me feel, maybe she does but also trying to set boundaries. Like you said tho I need to just stop with her.

 

[cyndaquil]

Nah, she hit me up first in September. Things didn't go well because of misunderstandings and miscues, said I wasn't giving her the energy in return.

She wanted me to be her man but I didn't do enough.

it don't matter who hit who up first. You showed a lack of interest but wanted exclusivity and expected it from a chick that wasn't yo girl you've known for a month. So she sets her boundaries, friendzones you and you accept it. Then she continues dating like she should and finds a dude she likes who she wants to be her man and you're bothered by the fact she cut it off?
If you were her new man would you be fine with her to keep hanging out and texting with a dude she was thinking bout smashing just 2 months ago?
You can't be serious.

I know I should just walk away and I believe I can but it's just hard to say goodbye to someone that I felt like we had a connection, a bound, something that could've been really serious, platonically of course.

My conscience is why it's hard to just walk away.

Some people are good at shutting certain things out but me it's like it'll stay on my mind for awhile.

This is lonely simp babble breh. It's okay to feel a little disappointed you had to lose a friend but dawg you had to know this shyt was gonna be short lived. You don't need to be messaging a chick all day to relieve loneliness.
If you wanna do that go make a dating app profile and set your shyt to "looking for friends" "platonic first and see where it goes" and you'll find an endless supply of women who will text you all day long and never have to meet up with them