What do you guys think about a woman having guy friends and a man having female friends while in a relationship?

[1LurkerChick9]

Nah not the same girl. The one I went to Wingstop with we still talk and go out on dates but this woman I'm talking about I met before that one.

Gotcha
She sounds like she likes the attention but could care less about whatever this relationship is.
Honestly sounds like ex-lovers vs an actual friendship.
Regardless you're not doing yourself any favors by continuing to contact her

 

[YaThreadFloppedB!]

-by the sounds of it, buddy is right to keep an eye on her male friends. you just tryna orbit around; looking for an opportunity to snake your way back into her life. it has nothing to do with not trusting her, it has to do with not trusting níggas like you

ol “you can’t have frweeendss” ass nígga

a orbiter tried that shít with me and I wrung his neck like I was done doing dishes

-her still picking up the line for you don’t mean shít. what woman doesn’t love attention ?

-she had a better option come around, accept it. but you over here begging and pleading prolly stalking IG stories.

you sound like buddy

 

[Unbothered]

OP thought he was bag a shorty off taking her to wingstop. Breh need to let her go been with real nikka and she probably ordered extra to take back to ol boy.

You gotta step your courtship game up lame
ass boy or you gonna get ya girl snatch 10 outta 10 times.

That's not the same woman the one this thread is about is regarding a woman I met awhile back before my Wingstop date.

 

[Orange cream shake]

I can only speak from experience. It’s bad idea on both sides. now if you just dating somebody it shouldn’t be a big deal.

 

[AnonymityX1000]

She literally could just be a good listener and a genuinely fun person to be around but he's not interested romantically.

It is possible to enjoy a woman's company without wanting to nut in or on her.

Honestly if you're concerned your girl is cheating on you with her male friends, just cheat yourself. Then if she catches you, claim that you thought yall was in a open relationship since she must be fukkin if she's talking to men that ain't you or family.

Low key I feel people want to just do that but don't want to admit it because of how it makes them look

Key word 'company' texting and kee keeing on the phone all day with some girl you're not hitting is a waste of time. Do that with someone actually giving it up.

 

[Unbothered]

Gotcha
She sounds like she likes the attention but could care less about whatever this relationship is.
Honestly sounds like ex-lovers vs an actual friendship.
Regardless you're not doing yourself any favors by continuing to contact her

Yeah that's what I thought as well.

I think that's why I have a problem because in my conscience I feel like she came back into my life after the failed attempt of us being a “thing” and used me for emotional comfort up until she found this guy and now it's like her attitude is kinda on some “hey...it was nice knowing you” but at the same time I believe her when she says she cares about and told me how special I am to her so I'm a bit conflicted myself.

Although I'm not sure if she truly feels this way because as you mentioned despite us constantly reminding each other that we're just friends, there's clearly some romantic/sentimental feelings involved. It's hard because we've been pretty affectionate at times, not sexual but very understanding and compassionate about each other and maybe that's why she hasn't truly walked away from me cause I'd assume she'd stop answering or block me if it wasn't real.

She did tell me a while back that she I was the man she was hoping to be hers but in the end things didn't work that way because of some of miscues and misunderstandings.

 

[ZEupTWN]

My girl and her family is on that, all men are trash... Except you vybe.

The only men she likes are drag queens.

Let her little Cutie-patootie ass tell me "Oh [insert man's name], he's just my friend".

Yeahh that ain’t a good look from what I’ve seen…that herd mentality could easily flip her especially when shxt get real..

 

[desjardins]

So you got friend zoned? Now she has a man and is trying to bush you and you're still fighting it?
Have some self respect man. She used you for emotional support until she found a guy she likes to do the same, f her

 

[Scustin Bieburr]

Key word 'company' texting and kee keeing on the phone all day with some girl you're not hitting is a waste of time. Do that with someone actually giving it up.

Nggas really can't imagine having a good time talking to a woman that they ain't trying to fukk

 

[Unbothered]

So you got friend zoned? Now she has a man and is trying to bush you and you're still fighting it?
Have some self respect man. She used you for emotional support until she found a guy she likes to do the same, f her

Well the thing is is that I'm already talking to a girl, for weeks now, the one I posted in my Wingstop thread. It's not so much about the friendzone thing, it's just how could you walk away from a friendship for a relationship.

Why express and tell me how much you care about me and that I'm special to you if it's just that easy to act like it meant nothing afterwards?

You're right a part of me wants to just leave it be but my conscience keeps pulling me back.

 

[Born Rich]

OP, you're being disingenuous...it's obvious you have feelings for this woman and feel some type of way about her getting a dude...

you've mentioned she still answers your calls and responds to your texts, but it doesn't seem like she initiates any of ya'lls interactions since getting with her dude which should be an obvious sign, breh...she's likely still answering your calls/texts because she doesn't know what typa time you're on and may be concerned you'll do some nut shyt if she stops communicating with you...

focus on the woman you took to wingstop...you're on the dangerous path to crashing out, breh...

 

[Born Rich]

Well the thing is is that I'm already talking to a girl, for weeks now, the one I posted in my Wingstop thread. It's not so much about the friendzone thing, it's just how could you walk away from a friendship for a relationship.

Why express and tell me how much you care about me and that I'm special to you if it's just that easy to act like it meant nothing afterwards?

You're right a part of me wants to just leave it be but my conscience keeps pulling me back.

please let go go of this line of thinking, breh...people do unexplainable things all the time and not everyone views the world and relationships the same way you do...just accept that and move on...

 

[desjardins]

Well the thing is is that I'm already talking to a girl, for weeks now, the one I posted in my Wingstop thread. It's not so much about the friendzone thing, it's just how could you walk away from a friendship for a relationship.

Why express and tell me how much you care about me and that I'm special to you if it's just that easy to act like it meant nothing afterwards?

You're right a part of me wants to just leave it be but my conscience keeps pulling me back.

how long have you known this woman to be this pressed to maintain a friendship? and if yall have such a deep connection why didn't either of you try to make a relationship work. I read the rest of the thread since my OP and it seems like yall both weren't willing to make compromises to make a relationship work so I'd just move on. She already made negative decisions on you TWICE already and clearly prioritizing having shyt her way or the highway so fukk her

 

[AnonymityX1000]

Nggas really can't imagine having a good time talking to a woman that they ain't trying to fukk

Talking on the phone and texting is not a good time. Unless the bar is extremely low for a good time. lol

 

[Unbothered]

OP, you're being disingenuous...it's obvious you have feelings for this woman and feel some type of way about her getting a dude...

you've mentioned she still answers your calls and responds to your texts, but it doesn't seem like she initiates any of ya'lls interactions since getting with her dude which should be an obvious sign, breh...she's likely still answering your calls/texts because she doesn't know what typa time you're on and may be concerned you'll do some nut shyt if she stops communicating with you...

focus on the woman you took to wingstop...you're on the dangerous path to a crashing out, breh...

Well the other day, Friday morning she texted me asking if I called her which I obviously didn't so I took that as her showing that she still wants to talk to me.

Lol, nah I would never do anything crazy to myself, it ain't ever that serious it's just I value friendships and I feel like the way me and her vibed I'm just puzzled how she'd be willing to act like none of it mattered.

I believe she meant what she said because she's an honest upfront type of woman but y'know at the same time I feel she's trying to please this guy and his expectations and so I get a feeling that she's conflicted about the situation.

please let go go of this line of thinking, breh...people do unexplainable things all the time and not everyone views the world and relationships the same way you do...just accept that and move on...

I've also thought about this too and maybe I need to say fuk it as some of you have suggested but my conscience is just, I don't know.