Not gonna defend the women too tough, but I say that depends on age. Maybe some those ladies born after 2000, because hardcore rap and the height of the 90's drug era were winding down, may be telling the truth. However, black women born between mid 70's-90's..... A lot of those black women WERE NOT fukking with nerds. They get highly upset when you call them out(because the evidence is clear with many of these women... never married, multiple kids by multiple men, no/little education). I can't speak on younger women though. Even though these couples are out of my age group, husband and wife combinations like Barack/Michelle Obama or Ben Carson and his wife weren't celebrated during the Crack/Drug Era, thus the fascination black women, born after the mid 70's, are supremely fascinated, especially with the Obama's.
I do agree that women, old and young, use BS rationalizations and deflections when their terrible choices are put on blast.