What if She Was Only Girlfriend Material?

[Quiet Magician]

I don't date any women that I wouldn't marry or that I wouldn't want to be the mother of my child.

I don't have time to be out here convincing a woman to get an abortion because of my recklessness.

Not every women you date has to be a serious candidate for marriage, people date for numerous reasons. What if your friends set you up with a girl and she wasn't your type or you have a convo with a girl but she is batshyt crazy? A date doesn't mean anything.

Not forming a relationship is a different story.

 

[Poitier]

I don't enter monogamous relationships with women I cannot see a future with.

 

[Colin X]

Yeah


I would date a stripper but I'd never marry one

 

[levitate]

@BlackPearl dropping that wisdom

 

[Matt504]

Not every women you date has to be a serious candidate for marriage, people date for numerous reasons. What if your friends set you up with a girl and she wasn't your type or you have a convo with a girl but she is batshyt crazy? A date doesn't mean anything.

Not forming a relationship is a different story.

If my friends set me up on a date and she wasn't my type, I would never see her again. I'm not going to try to fukk or keep in contact, that's a waste of time.

 

[Neuromancer]

Absolutely not, I'm not interested in wasting time with anyone I don't see potential with.
stringing people along that you casually like can end very badly as that person may see a future with you.

This is why it's important to get a very clear understanding of other people's intentions early on instead of relying solely on their actions to base assumptions on.

But there's no fool proof way to do that.

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

Absolutely not, I'm not interested in wasting time with anyone I don't see potential with.
stringing people along that you casually like can end very badly as that person may see a future with you.

This is why it's important to get a very clear understanding of other people's intentions early on instead of relying solely on their actions to base assumptions on.

I normally agree with you but not on this one. Each stage in the relationship is an interview for the next. You shouldn't make someone your girl with expectations of being a wife. You've already committed to an idea that she hasn't even proven herself worthy of. She should have to prove herself. Once consistent positive behavior over time has been exhibited WITHIN the girlfriend stage then thoughts of marriage but NEVER EVER before that.

 

[twan83]

Yeah it's happened too me back in day once I noticed I demoted her to fukk buddy status as a way for her to get the other parts of her in order

Eventually I her to the cuz nothing changed with her

 

[Poitier]

But there's no fool proof way to do that.

If you only date women you already have a rapport with/know for a significant amount of time then it mitigates being in the dark when it comes to their character.

 

[NO-BadAzz]

Your woman/girl shouldn't be the same woman when she becomes a wife.

Some men and women don't understand that there is a difference between the words.

 

[Matt504]

But there's no fool proof way to do that.

The best way to minimize confusion is to have a discussion about what each other's intentions are, that can't stop anyone from lying but if it's later determined that either party lied, that should be grounds for immediate dismissal.

 

[Neuromancer]

The best way to minimize confusion is to have a discussion about what each other's intentions are, that can't stop anyone from lying but if it's later determined that either party lied, that should be grounds for immediate dismissal.

But in the other....nvm Agreed.

If you only date women you already have a rapport with/know for a significant amount of time then it mitigates being in the dark when it comes to their character.

I agree. Building a rapport and hopefully friendship is important.

 

[Matt504]

I normally agree with you but not on this one. Each stage in the relationship is an interview for the next. You shouldn't make someone your girl with expectations of being a wife. You've already committed to an idea that she hasn't even proven herself worthy of. She should have to prove herself. Once consistent positive behavior over time has been exhibited WITHIN the girlfriend stage then thoughts of marriage but NEVER EVER before that.

It doesn't take long to determine whether or not you can see yourself being with a person long term, I'm not interested in sticking around to see other hidden qualities if the qualities I'm aware of are lacking.

 

[The Mad Titan]

Absolutely not, I'm not interested in wasting time with anyone I don't see potential with.
stringing people along that you casually like can end very badly as that person may see a future with you.

This is why it's important to get a very clear understanding of other people's intentions early on instead of relying solely on their actions to base assumptions on.

I agree, I'm not even trying to get to know someone intimately if I dont see potential in a future with them

 

[Poitier]

A lot of dude's initial intentions with a woman that intrigues them is of the intimate variety....they want to fukk and cuff immediately and don't allow themselves a buffer of feeling that person out as a "friend" to see if there are character flaws, compatibility issues or differences in life goals. I've been guilty of this in the past. Give yourself that buffer then you should be 100 percent sure if you can build with that person in a monogamous relationship.