What is a man's purpose if he's not supposed to be a provider?

[mamba]

I agree, everyone should be able to take care of themselves. I'm talking about the abundance of guys complaining about women that are independent then turning around complaining about women that want to be taken care of.

I've never heard of men complaining about women gettin' money!

What men complain about are the women who are making major money and claiming to be independent out one side of their mouths, but then out the other side of their mouths, they are talking about how they want a man who can take care of them (e.g., spend money on them).

You can't have it both ways.

 

[Ashley Banks]

I've never heard of men complaining about women gettin' money!

What men complain about are the women who are making major money and claiming to be independent out one side of their mouths, but then out the other side of their mouths, they are talking about how they want a man who can take care of them (e.g., spend money on them).

You can't have it both ways.

 

[mamba]

what dont you understand ? there are women that make good money yet STILL expect the man to pay for all the major bills while only spending their money on groceries and cable tv.

these chicks just want to horde all their cash so they can have a nice parachute for when they decide to jump ship

you heauxs aint slick

You'd be surprised. A lot of mothers tell their daughters that shyt.

"Keep some stashed away, girl."

They don't see that as selfish. But, let a man do that shyt. Oh, he's keeping money from his kids and the family. He's selfish.

Reminds me of this shyt. She saw nothing wrong with doing some side shady financial shyt.



@Colicat

 

[mamba]

I love a woman who makes her own money.

If she's making in the same ballpark as I am, I can spoil her so long as she's willing to invest her money for both of our benefit (the assumption is that we're headed toward marriage).

What I will not tolerate is me "providing" and the woman just sitting on her money.

Because, if shyt doesn't work out, I will have spent a lot of my money and she will walk away will most of her money untouched.

That's what the brehettes don't understand.

 

[doublex]

I've never heard of men complaining about women gettin' money!

What men complain about are the women who are making major money and claiming to be independent out one side of their mouths, but then out the other side of their mouths, they are talking about how they want a man who can take care of them (e.g., spend money on them).

You can't have it both ways.

Women who are making money just want a man who is on their level, i.e. also making money.

Men who are making money just want a woman who is beautiful.

That's the difference. Men prioritize looks way more than women do when looking for a partner, and if they have the means they are happy to pay to get the best looking wife they can.

Women are attracted to wealth/power more when looking for a man. It's that instinctive desire to find the best provider for our children. The same way a man is trying to find the best nurturer/best genes when he goes for the beautiful woman with large breasts and wide hips.

It's the same the world over, so it's not even cultural, it's a result of evolution.

 

[Black]

My purpose isn't to be a provider that was your sucka ass daddy purpose.

 

[mamba]

Women who are making money just want a man who is on their level, i.e. also making money.

Men who are making money just want a woman who is beautiful.

That's the difference. Men prioritize looks way more than women do when looking for a partner, and if they have the means they are happy to pay to get the best looking wife they can.

Women are attracted to wealth/power more when looking for a man. It's that instinctive desire to find the best provider for our children. The same way a man is trying to find the best nurturer/best genes when he goes for the beautiful woman with large breasts and wide hips.

It's the same the world over, so it's not even cultural, it's a result of evolution.

That's all well and fine. I'm not disputing evolution.

It's just in the modern dating game, these women like to broadcast their "independence" as if that is going to benefit a man! When we all know women aren't trying to share that money with men! As a matter of fact, most women aren't trying to work full time past the age of 35. The women who are usually working well into their 40s are usually miserable. They expected to be wifed up and in the homemaker lane by that point. So, her independence is only fleeting anyhow.

Men flash indicators of wealth and power because we know we're going to have to share certain aspects of it to get the woman we want.

Most women want a man making a lot more than her so he can 1) provide for the household and 2) allow her to finance her lifestyle without her having to tap into her accounts.

If it were only about being able to provide for kids, the average working class man and woman's salary is more than enough.

 

[Neuromancer]

A mans purpose is to discover, explore, dissect and command the secrets, the inner workings of the universe/reality both within and out and in all he does bring himself to a state wherein he achieves apotheosis eventually bending reality to his will.

We attempt to do this through science, philosophy, theology, spirituality, etc...

Anything else is a waste imo
The ignorant, base answer you are undoubtedly looking for is get p*ssy, make money.

Tell em again.

 

[Neuromancer]

To unravel the mysteries of existence.

 

[Neuromancer]

So a woman isn't supposed to be independent

AND she isn't supposed to depend on her partner for financial support?


Riddle me this; what are you new aged "men" bringing to the table?

The same can be asked of new age women.

 

[Malcolmxxx_23]

I was about to respond to the thread but I actually find it surprisingly refreshing how easily a lot of these fellas tell the full truth about how disposable and useless they aim to be in life.

Pooh find a man first before you talk

 

[Yinny]

Pooh find a man first before you talk

Why find one when I can be like you and invent one for the Internet?

Fukk outta here, bytch.

 

[doublex]

That's all well and fine. I'm not disputing evolution.

It's just in the modern dating game, these women like to broadcast their "independence" as if that is going to benefit a man! When we all know women aren't trying to share that money with men! As a matter of fact, most women aren't trying to work full time past the age of 35. The women who are usually working well into their 40s are usually miserable. They expected to be wifed up and in the homemaker lane by that point. So, her independence is only fleeting anyhow.

Men flash indicators of wealth and power because we know we're going to have to share certain aspects of it to get the woman we want.

Most women want a man making a lot more than her so he can 1) provide for the household and 2) allow her to finance her lifestyle without her having to tap into her accounts.

If it were only about being able to provide for kids, the average working class man and woman's salary is more than enough.

Even though the traditional roles have persisted for a reason (men being naturally stronger and therefore taking on the protector/provider role, women being child-bearers and therefore taking on the nurturing role in the home) modern couples, thanks to modern technology, can decide to switch it up if they want to, as long as each partner is still doing their fair share.

For example, if the woman is doing 50% of the bread-winning then the man should be doing 50% of the cooking, cleaning, and child-care.

As long as neither partner feels like they're being taken advantage of it can still work if gender roles are reversed.

It's just rare to find a man who doesn't feel emasculated by being made a house husband, just like it's rare to find a woman who doesn't feel resentful of being the only breadwinner, even if they originally decided to split the duties this way.

I'm just saying, I think it's more than cultural that women are turned off by a man who doesn't provide, I think it's instinctive. Likewise, a lot of men instinctively are turned off by women who aren't nurturing.

 

[MooseMouthMthafuga]

Emancipating ourselves from women is some dangerous shyt.We've been fooled by this CAC construct.


People only care about themselves and feel entitled to happiness.Everybody wants to be happy and stress free.


We just have to accept that life's a struggle(It's not constant, tho.You have moments of relief/pleasure) and we all have to play our roles.


The whole key is creating an environment of peace wherein we can both grow/support each other & produce strong children.


Then we'd have strong households, neighborhoods, cities, states, countries, world.


It's really that simple.We just complicate things trying to escape the pain of this warped society.


When things get bad, you don't break apart, you embrace each other.


We just have to put some order/structure in our lives and stick together.Eventually, we'll learn to love each other.


Might not be what some of us want, but it's what we need.Take care of what you need and it'll eventually grow into what you want.


We might not see it in our lifetimes, but let's not act selfish, and fail to lay down a track.Sacrifice.


I think both men & women need to emancipate themselves from the wiles of mutual exploitation.

We get into these relationships that have no meaning.All about vain shyt like partying & fukk buddies.Looking good when we go out.

The focus should be on clear, common objectives.Not finding individual happiness.Especially a "happiness" born out of that kind of shallow existence.That's a mirage

Not saying you have to be a hermit.You should go out and do some extra curricular shyt with your partner, but that shouldn't be the life blood of your relationship.It shouldn't be at the top of the list.Soon as that get old, you're not "happy" anymore.

As black folks in this country, and as a collective, we've never had anything to build on/keep our energies focused.I just wanna see what it would be like if we did.

 

[Malcolmxxx_23]

Why find one when I can be like you and invent one for the Internet?

Fukk outta here, bytch.

Hey leave my ex out of this