What is the root of "bias" against lightskin men?

[Azul]

Disclaimer: Ya'll know I'm an equal opportunity brehette. Fine is fine...but I haven't hidden my sentiments that a litebrite can bring dat ass my way Now this isn't directed at anyone in particular, but I've noticed on here (and offline) a lot of derogatory comments made about lighter toned men. Some could be trolling but many are dead serious. I see it on fb, IG, chat groups I'm in, etc.

"He looks soft"
"Gay"
"He looks like he can't be trusted."
"Emotional"

So on and so forth...

I had a theory but kept it to myself, but after seeing this comment I decided to go ahead and make a thread

These are the types of dudes that I don't even pay attention to. Not because their unattractive but, because they probably wouldn't give me the time of day.

I don't know if this brehette is still around.... if you are, I'm sorry to use you as an example but it kind of confirmed what I thought. I think there are a good amount of women (NOT ALL, NOT MOST, probably not even the majority but a good amount) who say all this stuff about lighter men do so because deep down they feel like they can't bag them. Like these guys are too "pretty" for them so they'd rather act like they have no attraction to them at all.

Back in March I was at a party when my friend and I spotted this dude. She tried to discourage me from approaching him because he is "too damn light" (which he wasn't). I'm like I'm gettin' them digits. Slight work

So she is all and says "he'd probably turn me down" and I'm like I didn't want to hurt her feelings but I'm here wondering where all the insecurity came from.

Am I on to something or am I way off base? Ya'll can feel free to tag the litebrite brehs for their perspective on the matter.

 

[Regine Hunter]

heartbreak

 

[Barnett114]

Reverse colorism

 

[Azul]

heartbreak

Giving you a virtual hug

 

[Luna]

I've heard some say this applies to white men as well. I'd like to know too. Though I'm sure there are many women who have a legitimate preference towards black and dark skinned men. You have to factor in how people are socially conditioned to think 'the darker, the more masculine.' I'd find that a lot of women would base their preference on that, despite light-skin privilege. But I do wonder.

 

[Critical Distance]

some black women are lowkey jealous of lightskin men as well as feeling like they would get turned by them.

just facts.

 

[godliness]

Me and my older brother look almost exactly alike except he is light skin and im like p.diddys color. Breh has alway got girls. I started getting chose by black girls(white girls have always liked me) junior year high school. So yeah you probably right.

 

[Krazy K]

Disclaimer: Ya'll know I'm an equal opportunity brehette. Fine is fine...but I haven't hidden my sentiments that a litebrite can bring dat ass my way Now this isn't directed at anyone in particular, but I've noticed on here (and offline) a lot of derogatory comments made about lighter toned men. Some could be trolling but many are dead serious. I see it on fb, IG, chat groups I'm in, etc.

"He looks soft"
"Gay"
"He looks like he can't be trusted."
"Emotional"

So on and so forth...

I had a theory but kept it to myself, but after seeing this comment I decided to go ahead and make a thread



I don't know if this brehette is still around.... if you are, I'm sorry to use you as an example but it kind of confirmed what I thought. I think there are a good amount of women (NOT ALL, NOT MOST, probably not even the majority but a good amount) who say all this stuff about lighter men do so because deep down they feel like they can't bag them. Like these guys are too "pretty" for them so they'd rather act like they have no attraction to them at all.

You can always tell the ones this applies to when they volunteer their "preference" outta nowhere. An ex of mine had an older sister like that. She told me I was too light for her the first time we meet.
bytch I'm with yo sister not you so fukk what shade of men you like. You don't have one of any shade anyway cause you single
Then tells her sister she should marry me after knowing me a few hours cause we would have cute babies

 

[Aphrodite]

@Yusuke

 

[Raava]

Colorism.

 

[Rawtid]

I'm a victim of 400 years of conditioning. The man has programmed my condition. Even my conditioning has been conditioned.

 

[Yehuda]

You can always tell the ones this applies to when they volunteer their "preference" outta nowhere. An ex of mine had an older sister like that. She told me I was too light for her the first time we meet.
bytch I'm with yo sister not you so fukk what shade of men you like.

This.

 

[Tropical Fantasy]

As a very light skinned male I've experienced this shyt my whole life. Your theory is extremely true unfortunately

When I was single and on the prowl I actually loved it when black girls said shyt like "I dont like light skinned nikkas" "You to light for me". That type of projection usually made it easier to smash. In my experience women who announce their preference for darkskinned nikkas/disdain for lightskin nikkas are almost always full of shyt.

 

[live it to the limit]

I don't know if this brehette is still around.... if you are, I'm sorry to use you as an example but it kind of confirmed what I thought. I think there are a good amount of women (NOT ALL, NOT MOST, probably not even the majority but a good amount) who say all this stuff about lighter men do so because deep down they feel like they can't bag them. Like these guys are too "pretty" for them so they'd rather act like they have no attraction to them at all.

Back in March I was at a party when my friend and I spotted this dude. She tried to discourage me from approaching him because he is "too damn light" (which he wasn't). I'm like I'm gettin' them digits. Slight work

So she is all and says "he'd probably turn me down" and I'm like I didn't want to hurt her feelings but I'm here wondering where all the insecurity came from.

Am I on to something or am I way off base? Ya'll can feel free to tag the litebrite brehs for their perspective on the matter.[/QUOTE]

It's fine. I have absolutely nothing against light skin men. I've never subscribed to the attitude of only dating a certain type of black men. If you're attractive then you're attractive. My original comment was more about very attractive men in general. I consider myself average. So I'm more attracted to average if that makes sense. But I know that I do a disservice to myself when I do the whole " he wouldn't like me" convo in my head when I see an attractive man. It's something that I have to work on.

 

[GilSho]

Reverse colorism

More like lying their asses off.