What is with co-workers always trying to be friends with you?

[UpAndComing]

What the hell, I'm only here to collect paychecks and gain experience in my field... Like I need any more friends

This one dude I work with got legit heated cause I'm not too eager to be buddy buddy with him


I'm not even the aloof type. I'm friendly, I say hello and shyt to everyone. I just rather learn as much as I can at work, and perfect my skills

Everytime I look at and play with my phone, he gets offended


The job itself is way more interesting than my coworkers to be honest

 

[Paper Boi]

i like some people at work, think other people are annoying.

no different than anywhere else really.

i hate when co-workers act offended because i don't want to go waste money on lunch or coffee with them though.

 

[MaxPain]

I can’t stand it when white female co workers babble to me about their lives without me askin for any of that.

bytch all I said was good morning.

 

[Tenchi Ryu]

I'm a generally pleasant and easy going guy so that's usually my reason

 

[MikelArteta]

well you spend like 40 hours a week with em might as well

 

[eastsideTT]

Because spending 8 hours a day with people you dont like, cant find common ground with, and dont speak to isnt an enjoyable or healthy way to spend time

Theres a difference between setting boundaries and not showing your ass, versus being an “im not here for friends” person

If your coworkers arent cool though thats really rough. Hang in there

 

[PortCityProphet]

You sound mad uptight :mybama:
Chill out, relax and try to have a little fun at work

 

[Hoodoo Child]

I try to be cordial towards ANY co-worker I encounter. If you're proficient in many fields, making atleast 'one' friend in that area is a good strategy.
So many options, so many potential avenues to further your career

 

[King Poetic]

All the coworkers I’m really cool with is like 5 black females

But I never tell my girl that...

 

[MoveForward]

I'm a cool ass dude so people always want to hang with me but I decline.

 

[ThrobbingHood]

I can’t stand it when white female co workers babble to me about their lives without me askin for any of that.

bytch all I said was good morning.

White women at work are the worst. They’re either yapping about their ugly ass kids or some banal shyt about keto diets and make up.

And @UpAndComing , most people lead very dull lives outside of work, especially when they’re married. That’s why most married men try their hardest to hang out to avoid going home.

I feel bad for them. When you’re young with no kids, without a care in the world

 

[King Khufu]

Work is boring and draining when you face it. Some of us are really ambitious and arent there to make a social life when its stack to grind.
However other people on the job just often times feel bored want to pop their gums and yap to pass time. Which is okay I guess if they aren't stupid. Just always let them know "hey, this was fun/cool/whatever, we got to cut this chat short . . .back to work I go" if they are serious about their job no matter how personally annoyed they will understand.

However annoying co-workers doing extra trying to fake buddy you up to include you in everything when they should be working is a problem thats better dealt with bringing the manager because why should they get paid to play when you busting ass when rather they need to pick up the slack.

Anybody thats too distracting I would tell them straight up "I can't work like this with you in the way when I got this shift to finish up. Now move it man."

However most times if they are decent and just trying to strike small convo here and there it's often they think you are cool person to make chatter with and you know some people really can't stand working alone. Extroverted people tend to want everybody to share the energy they have it gets them in their zone. (Like sharing ideas or having a bond.)

Just think of the people, that you are dealing with. Then it could make all sense!

 

[intra vires]

I mean consider how much time the average person spends at work with their coworkers... Also consider the lack of opportunity many adults have to make new friends, especially if one is relocating to a new city.

People are understandably trying to make the most of it. That's why I will never fault them for it.

Hell, the time spent at work is why my fiancee thinks we should try to work at the same firm after graduation. I don’t think it's necessary if we work the same hours, but I get the novelty.

 

[TheDarkCloud]

It’s all about knowing who you can trust and vibe with.

I met a really good friend at my last job. So much so, I was a groomsman at his wedding last year. It just depends on the person and how y’all vibe. We connected because there weren’t many Blacks there and we hit it off right away.

I likely wouldn’t trust a cac though.

 

[Ya' Cousin Cleon]

this

people really can't see the Forrest for the trees in this country

I mean consider how much time the average person spends at work with their coworkers... Also consider the lack of opportunity many adults have to make new friends, especially if one is relocating to a new city.

People are understandably trying to make the most of it. That's why I will never fault them for it.

Hell, the time spent at work is why my fiancee thinks we should try to work at the same firm after graduation. I don’t think it's necessary if we work the same hours, but I get the novelty.