What is y'all experience dating women with control issues?

[O.T.I.S.]

My ex was on this tip

She wasn’t like this in the beginning… afterwhile she started feeling herself and turned narcissistic.

We grew apart now we no longer speak…

It was sad… mainly for me. I’m a pretty laid back dude that didn’t really have my support system around. She on the other hand, had all her people around. I let shyt slide mainly because I didn’t want to argue and think certain things was a big deal.

 

[High Art]

If you are laid back how does it work; can you be compatible with a woman like that?

It doesn't work because no matter how laid back you are, she will try to disrespect you into the ground. Your laid backness will eventually be seen as weakness until you stop being laid back but in doing so, you will become someone you aren't happy with, furthering your own unhappiness and eventually making you want to end the relationship. And while you should, the relationship will have become toxic and ending a relationship with a controlling person is a hassle. Depending on how she is, you may even contemplate violence at one point, even if that is not your disposition. It's not worth it.

 

[The Burger King]

Last ex was like this.

Beautiful as hell, but constantly felt the need to try and control me.

Ironic too, because she said part of the reason she was attracted to me was because of how I approached her and took control of the situation.

She was submissive as hell in the bedroom too. Sex was the best I ever had.

Just really insecure and always trying to mother me, even though I hadn’t given her a reason to believe I can’t handle myself.

 

[The Fade]

I come from a two parent household, no woman will ever control me. I already have a mom and she couldnt even do it

I've had a problem with authority my whole life. Vagina doesnt change that

Women from single parent matriarchy households are automatically disqualified

 

[O.T.I.S.]

Last ex was like this.

Beautiful as hell, but constantly felt the need to try and control me.

Ironic too, because she said part of the reason she was attracted to me was because of how I approached her and took control of the situation.

She was submissive as hell in the bedroom too. Sex was the best I ever had.

Just really insecure and always trying to mother me, even though I hadn’t given her a reason to believe I can’t handle myself.

Basically this for me as well

I’m like you approached me… when we met she was working at a gas station trying to get her career started and I was already in like year 8 of mines..

We connected again a few years later and she was doing good.. i was happy for her but she always downplayed anything I did compared to her.

I was like I been taking care of myself since 17, you just started with the help of your fam. It felt like a competition

Then she was super insecure. Any female friend I had had to go, sneaking through my phone or messages, etc. Couldn’t go out with friends, talk on phone with friends, talk to fam, etc., without her getting mad while I didn’t even care who she talked to, never told her to cut off male friends, etc.

I’m not controlling at all but I don’t like being controlled either. shyt was disturbing

 

[MaxPain]

 

[Unemployed GM]

It's not really an issue for me. I do me regardless, they tend to just move on and prolly tell all their friends I'm a fukkboy when my only crime is not doing what they say.

This right here. If she’s with it then she ain‘t going nowhere. If she is not then

 

[Unemployed GM]

Basically this for me as well

I’m like you approached me… when we met she was working at a gas station trying to get her career started and I was already in like year 8 of mines..

We connected again a few years later and she was doing good.. i was happy for her but she always downplayed anything I did compared to her.

I was like I been taking care of myself since 17, you just started with the help of your fam. It felt like a competition

Then she was super insecure. Any female friend I had had to go, sneaking through my phone or messages, etc. Couldn’t go out with friends, talk on phone with friends, talk to fam, etc., without her getting mad while I didn’t even care who she talked to, never told her to cut off male friends, etc.

I’m not controlling at all but I don’t like being controlled either. shyt was disturbing

Y’all really out here got your women going through your phone? I must live in a different world.

 

[O.T.I.S.]

Y’all really out here got your women going through your phone? I must live in a different world.

Yall act like we just let them

She’d literally snatch my shyt while I’m sleeping or something. She knew my passcode because I had nothing to hide.

 

[Dog Based Gremlin]

It doesn't work because no matter how laid back you are, she will try to disrespect you into the ground. Your laid backness will eventually be seen as weakness until you stop being laid back but in doing so, you will become someone you aren't happy with, furthering your own unhappiness and eventually making you want to end the relationship. And while you should, the relationship will have become toxic and ending a relationship with a controlling person is a hassle. Depending on how she is, you may even contemplate violence at one point, even if that is not your disposition. It's not worth it.

My ex to a tee. Don't worry, she will likely get hers one day

I pray on it each night

 

[Dave24]

Shorty will literally create her own Disneyland just to make sure you stay invested in the fukkery. Once that gate close and you feel a sense of comfort with the various rides and attractions, the real bullshyt begins. Major inconveniences and things you can't explain initially disguised as "magic" so you feel weird making a fuss about it. This is how most control freaks get their way.

And once you do escape, you will notice she's sending the next guy through the exact same gauntlet with no variation. This is the sign of a control freak if you want closure.

@rabbid can you elaborate on what you mean when you say you feel weird about making a fuss out of major inconveniences and things you can't explain?

 

[rabbid]

@rabbid can you elaborate on what you mean when you say you feel weird about making a fuss out of major inconveniences and things you can't explain?

TL;DR: The lack of transparency ends up causing the very thing they tried so hard to avoid by using too much control.

Think if you were a kid.. at Disneyland if your fav show goes down unplanned or you don't get to do what u want, some parents will try to get you to ride something else or have you believe shyts gonna come back on at some point instead of telling u "look son this shyt might not be back, its out of our hands".. hoping their kid won't call it out because hey I'm at Disneyland, its all good.

A control freak will try to convince you that their control is fun, and that this is a good way to behave. The micromanaging during dates, obsessing over little details when you go out. Planning long trips together out of the city and making sure you can't just leave her and hang with someone else. Not really wanting to give you the driver's seat or see the cracks. You feel weird for mentioning how its gotten because she doesn't see anything wrong with it, and who wouldn't want a girlfriend that is this thoughtful? Initially, sure. But then she starts turning on you, disassociating when you need her to be present and crying or having mood swings when things don't go the way she planned.

All the rides she built up are malfunctioning... So you're sitting there waiting for Disneyland to go back to normal just like a kid with their parents. Love is not Disneyland though. So her building up the impression that she is and crumbling when the fireworks don't go off 100% is her showing you her control issues.

 

[Dog Based Gremlin]

@rabbid rep


Where can I learn more about what you said?

This really connected with me

 

[Dave24]

@rabbid any specific stories you have about what it was like being in a relationship with a controlling woman?

 

[JT-Money]