What is y'all experience dating women with control issues?
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bourgeoisie tall freak
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it's a hard thing to balance in my experience. since i'm a real laissez faire chick when it comes to relationships, and not trying to hold anybody, sometime dudes get insecure and think i'm not that into them or i have emotional incapabilities or something. like "you aint checking for me like that, i got girls begging for my attention while you bsing"... on some "why didn't you check me when i didn't text you back, you must not wanted to see me then" blah blah blah. ok whatever, go to the other broads then. i'm just not trying to control you or even check on you most of the time because i got shyt to do and can barely control myself lol.
control is not my angle. i'm in it for love and fun
control is not my angle. i'm in it for love and fun
Only one chick who was older than me but thought she could control me. Lots of women have narcissistic personalities. And if you aren't careful they can reek havoc on your life.
But my main focus has always been money. So I'm only going to put up with crap from someone for so long before I'm out.
ngl breh i learned alot of this in therapy. For about 6 months I used the Betterhelp app and was connected with an older black lady doctor that really schooled me on all this shyt. The real reason I had to get it is because I was arguing with my ex and she would not just let me go.. I would be sitting there mad at myself.
Yeah I have a few tbh lol. The major situations are when she would plan things for us to do, but any of my plans would always be up for debate. Or she would say "ok sure!" and then start asking random questions leading up to it. Whenever we have a major argument she would start crying as a way to avoid accountability. The final straw was when she asked me if I would be okay scheduling our sex sessions. The ultimate act of control. Like bish, stop playing on my phone
However, through our breakup she allegedly did become aware of her control issues and family trauma and claimed to be a work in progress but i highly doubt she's done any major work on herself. She'll tell you what you want to hear in a heartbeat. I'm honestly just glad to have detached from her.
O.T.I.S.
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This…
I truly believe this led to my ex’s control issues. So used to being told what to do, how to act by her own people, that once she finally started doing a lil bit on her own, she started to feel “empowered” which is fine with me, but started taking her bullshyt insecurities out on me.
I was pretty much raised to be independent… to use my best judgment, to make mistakes and learn because my family had my back. They trusted my decisions… She wasn’t… lived with her family all her life being told what to do. Even now, her parents done moved in with her (after I moved out) and are most likely controlling her again. She was definitely scared of losing her business… which she never could see that I was one of the main ones helping her without any ulterior motives.
I wrote her letters to clients, dealt with people, watched the business while she was away, etc., and never once asked her to help me in my career (mainly because it’s mostly technical).
shyts sad but oh well… over now
O.T.I.S.
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And another thing I’ve noticed (at least in my experiences) is that some females won’t even mess with you if they can’t control you.
Thats why you see some women with bums or things like that.
I’ve even been told that by females (not in those words) but females I see around and we’re acquaintances. I straight up asked one chick why we never linked up and she basically said because she knows that I know what time it is… aka the game, can’t be manipulated, etc.
Thats why you see some women with bums or things like that.
I’ve even been told that by females (not in those words) but females I see around and we’re acquaintances. I straight up asked one chick why we never linked up and she basically said because she knows that I know what time it is… aka the game, can’t be manipulated, etc.