What is your biggest insecurity?

[idonttouchgrass]

Most men's insecurities are dikk size, height or hairline

Imagine having all 3

Funny thing there is no solution to any of them, if anyone created a solution for any one, they would be a trillionaire over night

there are surgeries for all 3




for me, i have a cold sore scar (discoloration spot on my lip). what's worse is i have no idea how i got the sore in the first place; im a kissless virgin and i dont share eating utensils

 

[SuaveyBoi115]

• I wish my dikk was half an inch bigger. I'm currently sitting at around 6 inches and while it looks fine to me, idk what a woman would think if she saw it.
• I'm a 20 year old virgin due to me being lazy as shyt and a loner who is unlucky with women. Had like 3-4 chances to lose it, but either said the wrong thing, the girl bytched out or I waited too long. Two of my co-workers would crack jokes even though, they really had no room to clown because one is in an unhappy marriage and the other is a single mom of 33 with ,lord forgive me, two autistic kids. My apologies for the mini-rant...
• I still am in my rebellious phase. This might just be who I am as a person...
• I stutter which annoys the fukk out of me. I pause a lot and it tends to drag out conversations. Talking to women alleviates this for some reason.
• I have commitment issues. I never stick around long enough to see if I'm good at something out of fear of someone coming along who's naturally better than myself.

• People always have such high hopes for me. I'm always told "you're so smart", "You're going to be great", "We need someone like you" even though I...just don't see it. People would always have the utmost faith in me even when I had lost all faith in myself. Even though I made it out of my town and am probably in the top 20th percentile of black men from my city, I don't feel like I can ever reach the standards that people set for me. My biggest fear in life is being 60 years old in a rocking chair asking myself did I live up to everyone's expectations. People say that they see me being successful, but to me, making a career in the military doesn't seem THAT successful when I feel like people think I can make a difference in this world. My English teacher might have bumped up my grade on my English final exam in order for me to pass and while she saw me in uniform and told me how proud she was that I had "made it", I feel I haven't done enough. The fact that she risked her career in order to pass me has always stuck with me. I don't want this to be the apex of my accomplishments, man...

The bolded is definitely me

 

[phcitywarrior]

Biggest one is probably finding a discrepency between who i think i am/want to be and who i actually am in reality

I used to think like this then I realized I could put in the work in areas I wanted to improve.

 

[Rawtid]

At this point, myself. I'm not where I want to be and things aren't going as planned so I'm constantly on the fence about letting my current life just go to shyt and start from scratch or salvage what I can and try to rebuild as quickly as possible.

 

[African Peasant]

Man, I don't even know where to start...are we talking physical insecurities? Ironically I don't have many on that side, not that I consider myself all that (quite the contrary) but, it's just something that doesn't really stress me...I'm average in all "looks" departments, even though I've been told I'm good-looking.

I would say :

- Social insecurity : not knowing how to really interact in groups. Shyness, lack of self-confidence, you name it
- Pro incompetence : basically all my pro experiences sucked, so at some point you start wondering whether you're even able to function in a pro environment
- Having "missed my calling" : I "lost" about 10 years (ages 15-25) of my life due to seriously struggling emotionnaly and socially, when I first got to Europe. But those happen to be the years one "discovers" himself, builds longer relationships, starts to really live, etc...so I really feel I missed on A LOT and am late

It happens. I lost 6 years between 23 and 28 due to moving to a new country alone and knowing no one.I went from having a big circle to being alone. But as long as you're not 36, you still can make up somehow for that lost experience.

 

[mbewane]

It happens. I lost 6 years between 23 and 28 due to moving to a new country alone and knowing no one.I went from having a big circle to being alone. But as long as you're not 36, you still can make up somehow for that lost experience.

I'm 37

Nah I know it's never too late and whatnot, the only problem is that you naturally end up developping habits and mechanisms to cope to whatever situation you're going through and when things are a little better it's kind of hard to get out of them, and yeah some experiences (travelling, partying, experiencing in life, etc) are easier to do you when you're younger I think. But I'm working on it still

 

[African Peasant]

I'm 37

Nah I know it's never too late and whatnot, the only problem is that you naturally end up developping habits and mechanisms to cope to whatever situation you're going through and when things are a little better it's kind of hard to get out of them, and yeah some experiences (travelling, partying, experiencing in life, etc) are easier to do you when you're younger I think. But I'm working on it still

LOL I missed the mark by one

But you're still young. It's not like you did a 20 years bid and you're out at 50 ()

In fact, you just "lost" your late teen years. The second half of your 20's in not different from the first half.

You still have 3 years to do you your "young man" thing. You better stop at 40 tho.

 

[Govana]

My dikk.
Circumcised at 16 and lost atleast 3 inches length and 2 girth.
shyts depressing. Went from fat thick dikk to just averge

I got re-circumcised around the same age so I know your pain.... Literally

I doubt you lost that much length, if anything your mind is just exaggerating it. The skin made it seem bigger, in reality your still the same. You can always do exercises to gain it back, it will just take years

Spoiler

Thunder's Place

Do at least two months of research before you dive in.
And don't be an idiot and over do things

As for the look of it

Spoiler

For me it was two different colors a bright pink and then you could see where the circumcision stopped. I was ashamed of it for a while
But it evened out a little over time, and I've never had a woman make a comment about it. Even if I ask about my dikk, a chick will usually inspect it and wonder what I'm talking about.

Usually I will even tell a chick about it. And she'll express her sympathy and give it a kiss to help it feel better

Basically..... it's not as serious as you think

Good luck breh

 

[Govana]

I used to be insecure about my dikk so I started having sex late

Since then I have an insecurity when it comes to sex. I tend to view it more as a sport and when I have sex I aim to be the best she ever had. If I don't perform up to a high level that I'm used to, then I don't feel proud of myself. It's to the point where I don't care if I cum, I just want to make her cum as many times as I can, and take control of her body & mind.
I believe it stems from me not feeling appreciated and wanted, even tho the world constantly tells me I'm handsome and fun to be around, and I have all the physical features to excel with women and people in general. So I use sex as a medium so show myself that yes I am amazing, and the reaction from women after the act shows me that, yes I am loved. Some weird shyt like that.

I was going to type an epistle, but I think I'll just keep the rest of my insecurities off this forum.

 

[Shadow King]

Biggest one is probably finding a discrepency between who i think i am/want to be and who i actually am in reality

Probably my social awkwardness. I have social skills but I can't do small talk. If we don't have similar interests, I'm quiet as fukk Luckily I'm at the age where I don't care anymore.

 

[WakandanPride]

That I won't be successful in the field I've chosen. I'm only 20, so I'm still fresh, but I feel bad when people my age succeeding and I'm still behind.

 

[JQ Legend]

I don’t like my thighs. No matter how much weight I lose, it’s like they stay the same size.

Thick thighs are so

Better count your blessings

Wish I was taller

I would say my monstrous nose. Even though in my life I've had the baddest girls show me love it still bothers me. And the biggest one is my skin. I have oily skin in all weather conditions: hot, cold, humid, freezing etc. When it gets oily it looks like I have on makeup and for that reason people stare and scrunch up their face. Also I have skin discoloration.I spoke to a doctor that prescribed a cream and used it, it didn't work at first. He gave me a stronger dosage and it worked but I put it all on my face and not just the specific spots that was discolored. As a result it made my skin lighter but not on no Sammy Sosa/ Vybz Cartel type ish. I stop using the cream and my skin went back to the same tone it was when I was younger before it became discolored. Only thing is I took an ID picture for college and the picture on the computer looks crazy. I feel like professors/ staff mistreat me for it especially this last Spanish professor I had. I could have sworn he should the class the ID picture when I walked out but who know. He was super mean to me and mean only. Another thing I am insecure is when people just stare at me, crunch their face, single me out, and criminalize me for my appearance. People around me like friends notice it and it befuddles them like crazy. LOL

What's the name of the cream?

got some ezcema scars on my chest from a bad break out in early childhood. Use to make me mad insecure when I was an early teen but when I started messing with girls none of em ever brought it up. I still dont like my scars visually though .

Try having that shyt on your face while being #handsomegang

 

[I'm Blackman]

I don’t like my thighs. No matter how much weight I lose, it’s like they stay the same size.

I bet they're beautiful. All Black Thighs Matter.


Mine is overthinking when I speak to the point of sometimes it doesn't make sense. The insecurity is made worse in my head because people always compliment me on my public speaking skills and my boss does too. But in my head I'm like

 

[BornStar]

I can be very cold natured, vengeful and spiteful , I'm also loyal to a fault.

 

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My dikk.
Circumcised at 16 and lost atleast 3 inches length and 2 girth.
shyts depressing. Went from fat thick dikk to just averge

Don’t usually condone it but if I were you I’d get that penis surgery breh since you have a valid excuse