What marriage is REALLY about...... (long read)

[s3ven_LvLs]

Its crazy how lost a number of us in america really are. We have lost touch on what marriage is about. Ultimately, it has little to nothing to do with liking your significant other. The biggest reward from being in marriage is to CREATE A COMMUNITY. Hence, why in india they have arranged marriages because they have the priority of making a community first before liking or being in love with their significant other. The concept WAS supposed to serve everyone in humanity by giving us a certain order in which everyone could benefit from. The man is DESIGNED to create and apply order. He is the leader. He is to make sure everyone does their job. ALL MEN have a natural tendency to create order. The woman is DESIGNED to serve the man. The woman by DESIGN is not meant to be the leader. In general, women do not want to be the leader. They want A MAN. MAN=LEADER. She should follow the man's lead. ALL women have a tendency to follow a TRUE leader whether they admit it or not. Now when the woman has children their upbringing depends on the cooperation between the man and the woman. HOWEVER, this does not mean that they are equal. The man is to ALWAYS be the leader and the woman is to ALWAYS to follow the lead of the man. There CANNOT be equal partnership. Someone must be in the driver's seat.

This structure when done in numbers gives us the structure of a functional community. Everyone has a role and each role is ultimately constructive towards growing/maintaining a community.

Being constructive is language that is respected on a universal level.

(Ex. If you save a baby from a burning building it does not matter what your race,sexual preference, ethnic background etc is, the act will still be respected because it was constructive towards life.)


If there is something that you do not get/disagree about this post don't be afraid to ask/mention/reply. I promise I will not duck away from anything y'all say in this thread no matter how offensive you feel it may be.

 

[Dirty_Jerz]

Sub for notes

 

[Tha Sircus]

So it's not really about the couple? So how does the community benefit from our union?

 

[TooLazyToMakeUp1]

Well that's horrible

 

[Claudex]

I guess a prison can be a community too, with men as the wardens and women as the prisoners with schedules and duties to fulfill.

 

[okocharuud]

 

[MikelArteta]

Marriage we off that

 

[Tropical Fantasy]

If you want a woman to submit you must be able to provide spiritually, mentally, financially, emotionally, etc. A lot dudes want submission but don't bring anything of value to the table.

 

[HoustonHeat]

@HEISENBURG2291
Most Women never had a problem with men being legitimate leaders, many preferred it as it was less responsibility, but found that they had to step up when their man was a weak leader or didn't know what the hell he was doing. You can't have two followers in a pair, if you show that your leadership skills are worthy, you will garner authentic respect. You don't just get respect automatically by having the right genitalia.

Also, please discontinue referring to any social relationship structure in India when trying to make your points. We don't want our community to have that level of poverty, infanticide, rape, abuse, child marriage and even marriage to animals.

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

 

[concise]

Ultimately, it has little to nothing to do with liking your significant other.

Sounds great, choosing to live with someone you can't stand.

 

[duckbutta]

Do you and her have the same passions...same interest...same drives to achieve the same goals?

It won't work...

Do you have different passions...different interest...different drives to achieve different goals?

Congrats...you can stay married and happy forever...

 

[Poitier]

Yup.

When marriage and the family unit goes then so will America.

 

[iBrowse]

imagine a dude that cant open jars though

 

[Akata Man Bromo]