What the fukk is it with women wanting to go out?
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I don't fukk with social media at all. I use whatsapp for messaging my friends and that's itI guess I'm pretty old fashioned in that I prefer to connect with people in person, face to face
I have them but as a function of age as opposed to desire. I'm 22, if I tell anyone my age I don't have one they're gonna assume I'm a serial killer or sumn. But I never post, and prefer face to face because you can infer more about people and get more depth.
The Wolf Among You
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I wouldn’t say this is a woman only thing.
This pandemic has shown me that a lot of people cannot sit with their own thoughts.
Like, they have to constantly move or else it starts fukking with their self-esteem and shyt. How that’s possible, I have no idea.
It’s less about going out for me, and more so the specific activity. Hittin’ the bar, and clubs is not my scene at all. And that feels like a bit of a mismatch for my age group.
This pandemic has shown me that a lot of people cannot sit with their own thoughts.
Like, they have to constantly move or else it starts fukking with their self-esteem and shyt. How that’s possible, I have no idea.
It’s less about going out for me, and more so the specific activity. Hittin’ the bar, and clubs is not my scene at all. And that feels like a bit of a mismatch for my age group.
Nope. These women want you to dress well going to these spots so they can show you off. You’re going to throw on the brunch boots, breh.
You’re an accessory to her at those types of places. She wants to be looking good. She also wants you to be looking good since it draws additional attention her direction. It’s even better for her ego if she knows other women desire you as well. That makes her feel special since you chose her over the other women you could have. Women need that social validation from others for their choices.
As men, we’re different. We want a good-lookin’ woman, but if too many nikkas are smiling at her or acting like they know her in public, our minds usually think the worst: she seems to know a lot of these nikkas; have they smashed?
Men process the attention our women get when out totally differently.
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It’s a control thing because even when you get married they still want to go "out". It’s not in a woman’s dna to sit down and watch football all day on a Sunday. I could literally watch red zone from 1 to 7 if left to my own devices
Men are simple. We don’t need all that extra external validation like women do.
If we have our basic needs met—food, shelter, pleasure, entertainment—we’re good.
Rarely do men have to get dressed up and go out to feel good about ourselves.
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Think of it this way and you'll understand how women think. Would a 10 carat diamond be valuable to you if no one else but you could see it?
Elle Seven
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I couldn't tell if this was a troll thread or not but I'd like to offer these points for consideration.
1) Does this question apply to previous generations of women as well? For example, is it necessary to question why women like our mothers and grandmothers likely liked to be taken out as well? If so, what reasons do you think they were? Were they valid in their desires then? Were their reasons more valid than the desires of women in this generation? Do the older men in your family have this same question?
2) Going out is not necessarily attention-seeking, though I'm sure some may be. For ladies, being in public ensures us a certain level of safety in the beginning stages of dating, I think. I really didn't think this is something that needed to be explained, but hey, it's a new day.
3) The lady may actually just want to get to know you understand different circumstances, to see how you handle yourself as a PERSON and a man. It would be hard to accomplish this by just staying at home with Netflix every single time, especially in the beginning.
I remember one date I had when I was in college - well before this era of "Netflix and chill". I was 20, and the man was 25. For our first date, he came to pick me up from my mother's house. When he came in, he was dressed very nicely - like, in a nice suit. Apart from going to prom, this was a first for me - to see a man present himself so formally, especially since we were not going anywhere very fancy.
My mother asked him for his license so she could verify his identify and wrote down all his info. He was cool with it.
The most memorable part of that night though was on our way to eat, on the freeway, he saw a family with car trouble on the shoulder. He pulled over, got out and walked back there to offer them help, all while wearing this suit. Plus, it was nighttime. They turned him down lol but I remember thinking that was so crazy. Everything about him was strange (in a good way) because I had never seen a man in my age group carry himself in that way. I'm not sure any of these are behaviors I could have observed in him by us just staying home.
3) The lady may just want to share her interests with you or get to know yours as well. I was a bookworm in college so when dating my friend/husband, I asked him to show me "his" world, per se. Going out sometimes meant going to a place I wanted to learn about, like a tattoo shop or a strip club, for instance - places I would otherwise have no need to visit but was curious about. In turn, I might ask him to come to a bookstore or cemetery with me, so I could show him a little about me. Plus, we were broke college students and so our ideas had to be creative. The intent was still to get to know one another.
And if you are honest, to get to really know someone - anyone in life, not just a romantic partner, you need to observe her/him in an array of different environments and under a lot of different types of circumstances.
1) Does this question apply to previous generations of women as well? For example, is it necessary to question why women like our mothers and grandmothers likely liked to be taken out as well? If so, what reasons do you think they were? Were they valid in their desires then? Were their reasons more valid than the desires of women in this generation? Do the older men in your family have this same question?
2) Going out is not necessarily attention-seeking, though I'm sure some may be. For ladies, being in public ensures us a certain level of safety in the beginning stages of dating, I think. I really didn't think this is something that needed to be explained, but hey, it's a new day.
3) The lady may actually just want to get to know you understand different circumstances, to see how you handle yourself as a PERSON and a man. It would be hard to accomplish this by just staying at home with Netflix every single time, especially in the beginning.
I remember one date I had when I was in college - well before this era of "Netflix and chill". I was 20, and the man was 25. For our first date, he came to pick me up from my mother's house. When he came in, he was dressed very nicely - like, in a nice suit. Apart from going to prom, this was a first for me - to see a man present himself so formally, especially since we were not going anywhere very fancy.
My mother asked him for his license so she could verify his identify and wrote down all his info. He was cool with it.
The most memorable part of that night though was on our way to eat, on the freeway, he saw a family with car trouble on the shoulder. He pulled over, got out and walked back there to offer them help, all while wearing this suit. Plus, it was nighttime. They turned him down lol but I remember thinking that was so crazy. Everything about him was strange (in a good way) because I had never seen a man in my age group carry himself in that way. I'm not sure any of these are behaviors I could have observed in him by us just staying home.
3) The lady may just want to share her interests with you or get to know yours as well. I was a bookworm in college so when dating my friend/husband, I asked him to show me "his" world, per se. Going out sometimes meant going to a place I wanted to learn about, like a tattoo shop or a strip club, for instance - places I would otherwise have no need to visit but was curious about. In turn, I might ask him to come to a bookstore or cemetery with me, so I could show him a little about me. Plus, we were broke college students and so our ideas had to be creative. The intent was still to get to know one another.
And if you are honest, to get to really know someone - anyone in life, not just a romantic partner, you need to observe her/him in an array of different environments and under a lot of different types of circumstances.
Rocket Scientist
Superstar
Not so much going out it's fact women wanna go places at most inopportune time . The Super Bowl can be on and she will want to go places,movie comes out first day she wants to go when everyone else go. Most of time women do things or go places they just wanna people watch ."That chick is too big for that dress,those heels don't match her outfit,look at bad weave". Women love excitement they hate boredom. Us men can sit home in the dark and be happy af. Not a woman,in weird way it's like a kid.
Chrishaune
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Really
Nah breh. I can't just sit and do nothing and be happy. At this point in life I have to be learning something new or developing in some way if I'm not out doing something else like working. Life is too short to sit idle. Idle time for me is for sleep.
International Playa
Playa with a Passport
You still have to "date" your lady when you secure her. Take her out for date, keep her entertained or the next guy might take your lady
Women love to eat, take her to nice exotic restaurants every once a while.
Women love to eat, take her to nice exotic restaurants every once a while.
It’s that women often look at men as a source of entertainment. Whereas, men for the most part don’t really look at women as a source of entertainment.
You will never hear a man say to a woman, “Say something funny. Make me laugh,” but all men have had a woman tell them that before.
You will never hear a man say to a woman, “Say something funny. Make me laugh,” but all men have had a woman tell them that before.
It’s that women often look at men as a source of entertainment. Whereas, men for the most part don’t really look at women as a source of entertainment.
You will never hear a man say to a woman, “Say something funny. Make me laugh,” but all men have had a woman tell them that before.
This a huge reason why I don't spend time with women outside of sex, bytch I'm not Booboo Da Foo, YOU need to figure out how to entertain yourself. If you want to spend time with me it's to enjoy my company, learn more about, pass time chatting, or fukk. I'm not here to bring you entertainment. shyt's so entitled and distasteful
Ezekiel 25:17
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Who care? Break up with em if you don't wanna take them out. Long as it ain't excessive I don't mind taking my broad out